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Quoting krissycates:“ Thanks alot! I feel a bit better when I talk about my loss but it seems easier to talk to the ladies ... [snip!] ... is my goal for right now. I've got till May 09 and I'll have it. I'm thinking I'll atleast be more ready by then to try again.”

I totally understand. I didn't have anyone else besides my husband so he got the brunt of most of my crazy emotions until I got the courage to open up to the ladies here. They've helped me like you wouldn't imagine. It took me about three weeks before I was even able to say that I'd had a miscarriage out loud and not start bawling. It was absolutely horrid and all the things I'd signed up for through my insurance company (BCBS has this thing called Future Moms and they send you all sorts of neat stuff, including Your Pregnancy Week by Week) kept coming in the mail and they kept calling to check in on me.

Thank you so much for the well wishes. We're just trying to take it one day at a time. I went to a specialist to see what I could do about my endo and trying to get pregnant and manage the pain and the best they could tell me was to wait it out until the end of the year and then come back. I just wish the pain were a bit more bearable, but those are the cards I was dealt. Oh well.

If you're not ready, it's okay. Take the time to celebrate your baby's life and to come to terms with all of it. It honestly irritates me when I see women on here that have just had a miscarriage and are trying to get pregnant again not even a week later. Pregnancy is apparently a commodity to them, not something special. I think it's wonderful that you plan to get your degree first. You're setting yourself up for so much more and that's great! Just let things happen after that. Don't chart or temp or anything. I tried that for the longest time and it just frustrated and disappointed me. It'll happen when it's time and right now that's what we're doing. Stay strong, sweetie!

Quoting krissycates:“ My name is Krissy. I had thought I already introduced myself here but I went through this again and I ... [snip!] ... to talking to new people, and any advice on coping I'll take. Can anyone tell me when they new they were ready to try again?”

I am so sorry to here about your loss..I have been there and it is very painful mentally and physically..The only thing that helped get me through it was trying again..Not to replace that baby but to fill the void inside of me..I waited the time I was supposed to wait before having sex and I think that time was the hardest but I just kept thinking pretty soon we can try again..Then we started trying and when I didn't get pregnant right away I was completely heart broken..Then on June 15 th I found out I am pregnant again..Now this baby is that much more special because it will have a little piece of my angel baby in it..This is my "miracle baby" I know you said you may not be ready and you do need to grieve and get passed that point but maybe trying again would help..Everyone is different but thats what worked for me..Good luck and if you ever need to talk I'm here!  

HI, My name is Khrystyne and I am 18 years old. My fiance is 19 years old. We have been together for over a year and we have an angel baby. We found out that we were going to be parents on September 28, 2007. We didn't know what to really expect because it was our first child. On my first doctors visit I was nervous because my mom had lost three babies before she had me. I told my doctor but he said that it was nothing to worry about because I was not my mom. I wasn't worried after I had my first u/s on October 5 and found out that the baby was perfect and I was healthy. He told me to go on with my daily activities and to try not to stress about it. I went to every doctors visit just like I was suppose to. On December 27 (two days before my 18th birthday) we found out that we was having a baby girl. We were so happy. It was the first girl on both sides. Everything about the pregancy was great until I start into my 24th week. On January 31, 2008 I woke up and went to school just like any other day. Once I got to school I started to have pains like really bad gas. I talked to the nurse because I went to a school just for pregnant people. She said that it was just gas and that I needed to go home and relax until I felt better. Once I got home the pain got worse. I felt like I had to go to the bathroom every two minutes. After going to the bathroom for the fourth time in ten minutes I had a really sharp pain in my lower abdomin and I screamed for my mom. I reached down between my legs and I could feel something down there. She called my doctor and they told her that it was nothing to worry about but if it got any worse to go to the ER. My mom and I had a bad feeling about everything so we decided to go ahead and go. The hospital is thirty minutes from my house and by the time that I reached it my mucas plug had broke and she was already in the birth canal(it was just her feet. she was breech). The hospital that I went to told me that she didn't have a chance and that she would die right after birth. I prayed that everything would be ok and then they came in and told me that I had a second option. I could travel by ambulance to a better hospital. They told me that I had a risk that I would die along with her if I had her on the way. The trip to the other hospital was over an hour long drive. I chose to travel to the second hospital. I knew I had to do everything I could for my baby. My fiance was at work and he had no idea what was going on. I called his sister from the first hospital and told her that I was having the baby and that they were sending me to a different hospital and that I needed him to be there. Once I got to the second hospital the doctors there told me that I was completly dialated and that she was ready to come out. I asked them to wait for my fiance and we did for a while but they told me that they had to get her out if she had any chance of surviving. I became a mother at 10:09 pm on January 31, 2008. She weighed one pound and four ounces and was 11 inches long. We named her Kelcee Marie. She came out and cried and she could breath alittle on her own. They put her on a ventalater and she was doing so good (as far as premes go). She moved her arms and legs. But on the third day of her life she began to have more complications. Her lungs began to fill up and they were having to pump them. They told us that she didn't have a very good chance now that her lungs were starting to fill up. But after about two hours or so she was doing better and we thought that everything was better. Then we got a call from the nursery to my room and they told us that we needed to get down there. They told us that her brain was starting to fill up with blood and that she would never be able to walk or talk or anything. They gave us a choice. We could take her of the oxygen and let her pass or we could leave her on it and let her lungs fill back up. They said that they couldnt pump them again. We chose to take her off and let her pass peacefully. God took my angel baby. He let us keep her for three days. I am blessed because alot of you never got to be with your baby like I did. The doctor told me that I have a weak cervix and he will know to watch it the next time that I get pregnant. It turns out that I am like my mom. It has been over six months now and there is not a day that goes by that I dont think about my Kelcee. I know god took her for a reason and that she is my angel send to heaven to watch over me and her daddy. We love you baby girl. Everyone of you that has gone through the loss of a baby my heart goes out to you because I know how it feels to have your angel took away from you. May God bless each and everyone of you, and I wish you the best with your next pregnancy.

Before I tell my story I want to say the ladies on here are wonderful and I can't thank them enough for their support!

I found out I was pregnant March of this year. I was a little bit shocked at first but I couldn't be happier! All was going well, I had my first ultrasound at 12 weeks and everything was going great. At my first prenatal appointment I asked the doctor to please send me to a high risk specialist because I was afraid the medication I was on would hurt the baby ... I was taking neurontin and vicodin for trigeminal neuralgia, which I stopped taking when I found out I was pregnant. I was referred to a high risk doctor - he scanned me at 14 weeks (I found out she was a girl) and everything was fine w/her. Everything was going fine with the pregnancy, I never even had morning sickness. When I was 18 weeks pregnant I called the doctor hysterical because I had pink discharge, this was June 2nd ... she took me in examined me and scanned me .. told me it was a yeast infection - gave me meds and sent me on my way. On June 6th I had an appointment scheduled with the high risk doctor he checked everything out told me all was going well.June 7th rolls around, I'm at work - I go potty and I'm hemorraging. (I have never seen so much blood in my life.) I gathered my things punched out and immediately went to the hospital. They checked me out - the cervix was closed - my little one's heart rate was 160 bpm they did an ultrasound she was doing fine ... but they never told me what caused the hemorrage. They observed me overnight and sent me home in the morning still loosing blood. Told me to call my ob in the morning. (I was 19 weeks at this point) I called saw the OB on monday - she told me the blood wasn't coming from the cervix but never stated where it was coming from - sent me on my way told me stay on bed rest and call her in a week! I followed her orders stayed on bedrest and was still loosing blood. (It has flowed a bit tho) I called her on monday - she told me to call the high risk doctor - so i did and he took me in on that wednesday. He scanned me, the baby was doing fine heart rate 160 bpm - told me I had placentia previa and put me on total bedrest. I followed his orders ... I was willing to do anything to keep my daughter. I went to the hospital over that weekend because I was having mild cramping and in general didn't feel well - they put me on the monitors - I was having little contractions and gave me an IV for dehydration. They kept me there four hours and sent me home. In the middle of my 22 week I went back to the hospital for the same reason on a wednesday ... I was contracting again - they stated it was dehydration and sent me home. On thursday I had a fever so I called the high risk doctor - and he never returned my call. When I woke up on Friday June 27 i felt all wet - my water had broken. I called the high risk doctors office hysterical they told me call back in a few hours ... this being my first pregnancy I followed there orders and called back a few hours later - I was crying on the phone so they took me in that day! They scanned me, the baby was doing fine she had a heart rate of 160 bpm but there was minimal water surrounding her. He told me I have the option to terminate the pregnancy, or wait it out I'd probably go into labor over the weekend. Stated that the water broke because of the bleeding - I looked at him and said how many times have I been here for this and YOU DID NOTHING TO HELP ME!!! Saturday I went to the hosital because I was cramping - I had the most painful pelvic exam of my life (I refer to the dr as DR INVADER cuz I don't know what his deal was) she still had minimal water surrounding her - her heart rate was still 160 bpm...they just gave me fluids and sent me home after observing me for 4 hours. Sunday I was fine. On monday June 30th I had an appointment with both the OB and the high risk doctor - Jessica still had a heart beat of 159 bpm. The high risk doctor still gave me the same options - termination (which i couldn't do because she was still alive) or waiting it out ... he never offered hospitalization or anything to try an prolong the pregnancy. Jessica's father and I decided to go for a second opinion on July 1st to a bigger hospital known for their neonatal (We both wish we would have thought of it sooner.) At 11:00 on July first they did an ultrasound - at this point she had no water surrounding her but she still had a strong heart beat. They immediately admitted me to the hosital - at 2:00 when they were doing vitals my daughter had no heart beat ... Jessica had passed away. (I never expected it! I so tried everything but nobody would help me) They moved me to L&Dinduced labor ... it took 14 hours. At 8:37PM on July 2nd 2008 Jessica Nelson was born still. (I was 23 weeks 3 days) I miss her terrible - I just wish the idiot doctors here would have done more to help me. I still cry every day over this ... just outta the blue I'll tear up, sometimes just sobbing uncontrolably. I know it will get easier to deal with in time - right now it just hurts really bad!!!!!!

Quoting SimplyHeartbroken:“ Before I tell my story I want to say the ladies on here are wonderful and I can't thank them enough for ... [snip!] ... sometimes just sobbing uncontrolably. I know it will get easier to deal with in time - right now it just hurts really bad!!!!!!”

Oh sweetie I am so sorry to hear your story. I really don't know too much to say to try to make it better. I never really understood what someone went through with a miscarriage until I had one of my own. It's something you really don't understand unless it happens to you. I also think (my opinion) it is still different in a way when your baby is still born like your little Jessica was. Just think, you did get to hold your little one and meet her. Strangly and hard to understand, God has plans and reasons for things that happen. We just have to look forward to one day meeting them in heavan. I like to think that the little girl I lost (wasnt confirmed, just felt it was a girl) is up in heavan with my grandpa that passed away shortly before she did. He never got to meet my little boy who is two, so I like to think that is the one grandchild from me he gets to meet and spend time with up there.

Hang in there!

Quoting MrsDickeyMonster *EB/GIG*:“ Oh sweetie, I am so sorry for your loss. I have a friend that's due 2 weeks before I would've been due ... [snip!] ... days like your due date and the day you miscarried). The ladies here are amazing and we're here for you all the way. *Hugs!*”

You are so right..Nothing will replace the baby you have lost but like I have said so many times already..Trying again was theONLY thing that got me through my miscarriage..I wasn't trying to replace that baby but was trying to fill the void inside of me..I miscarried in January then waited a month before trying again..It took m e 3 months/periods to get pregnant again..These were the longest months of my life and it seemed like it took forever but now that I look back I think wow! It was ONLY 3 months..I found out I was pregnant again on Fathers Day..You'll be pregnant again before you know it and this baby will be so special because it will be your miracle baby! Heres a few things that may help..If you haven't yet you should try using ovulation tests..I used them and it REALLY helped..Don't have sex everyday leading up to your ovulation try every other day then everyday when you know your ovulating,take prenatal vitamins now, don't drink smoke use drugs, and make sure your husband/boyfriend wears loose underwear and does not drink Mountain Dew (it kills sperm) My doctor said try all of these things andrightafter we made sure to do these things is when I found out I was pregnant..Also never give up! Things happen in weird ways for crazy reasons..You'll be pregnant again before you know it..Good luck and I'm here if you ever wanna talk..  

Quoting MrsDickeyMonster *EB/GIG*:“ I totally understand. I didn't have anyone else besides my husband so he got the brunt of most of my ... [snip!] ... just frustrated and disappointed me. It'll happen when it's time and right now that's what we're doing. Stay strong, sweetie!”

That's the first thing I tell ladies..Do NOT try again to soon..If you try to soon odds are your body is not ready and your risk of miscarring again is very high..But I do know that when I miscarried I did not want to wait to try again but then realized it's for the best if I want the baby to survive and I did need time to grieve..I did only wait a month but it was better then a day or week or two..

Hi y'all my name is Bre. I'm completely new to this site and when I found this thread I figured I'd introduce myself here since I feel like I "fit in" with all you lovely ladies. I've had 2 miscarriages and I gave birth to abeautiful little boy on March 16th 2007 but unfoturnetly he passed away a day after his birth. I have a whole story that I shared with friends and family but it's so incredibly long I just couldn't ask any stranger to read something that long. I basically went into preterm labor on a very snowy day which is not so much fun for a very worried husband to drive in. When I got to my docs office I was told I was infact going into labor and just about 7 cm dilated. Since I was only 26 weeks pregnant the whole office was going nuts!!! They finally called an ambulence and my hubby and I went on the longest 40 minute ride EVER to the closest hospital with a NICU. I dont remember much after I got to the ER room except that my hubby was told what the situation could be like and scrubbed up. They did an ultrasound and our son decided it was funny to do flips for everyone so they prepared for a "classical cut" c-section. My son was then taken out of my stomach with much force since he decided he no longer wanted out and tried crawling back in my uterus (the doc thought it was cute while I was pissed he bruised my sons hand). He was 1.75 lbs and 12 inches long. I saw my son a few hours later and sang him a song that actually made him happy, as the nurse told me his vitals were normal the whole time I visited. I rested up and in the morning found out that my son was given more blood and had already been given 4 different medications to help him survive. When I saw him with my hubby we held him for about 15 minutes each and then watched him for what seemed forever. He looked so perfect and when I'd talk to him he'd try to open his eyes (which were still shut), our son held my husbands index finger and had the strength to actually move my husbands arm a little it was incredible. After our very long visit my husbby left to pick up clothing and stuff for me. About 45 mins after my hubby left the doc came in and told me I should go visit my son and make a very important decision. I called my hubby and he came 15 mins later. We then were told our son wasnt doing well and there's nothing else they can do to raise his blood pressure. They had given him 7 different drugs already. Nothing helped. We decided that we no longer wanted our son to suffer so we said our good byes and he passed away on my chest. I forgot to mention we named our son before he was born.... Benjamin Jr (after my husband Benjamin).

Very sorry that story seems so long it's the shortest I could think of writting.

I joined this site because I'm currently pregnant with our second successful pregnancy and I thought maybe making friendsand learning more info about my pregnancy would make it easy.I'm 16 weeks along and so excited!I hope y'all trying have success and know that time is your bestfriend after any type of loss!

Hello My name is Ashley I am mom to 8 month old Claire Jackson who at 22 weeks was diagnosed with a life threating defect.Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia (CDH) occurs when the diaphragm fails to fully form, allowing abdominal organs into the chest cavity and preventing lung growth. CDH affects 1600 babies a year in the U.S. - 800 of those babies do not survive. The cause is not known. I panicked and went home and researched found this support group cherubs and this one also. Now spreading awareness is being threated by another organization in what seems to be a money making scheme off of these sick lil babies please help meby going to ipetitions.com/petition/cdhawareness

Thank you and all though she is alive and doing well at the moment we struggle everyday with her lung development and the lifetime risk that her bowels will obstruct (which has already happened) and reherniation.

I think all of you ladies who go through these horrible things and are able to stay strong are AMAZING! I read each and every story and most of them bring tears to my eyes..After reading them I think..How do these women stay strong? How are they able to face the world after going through such a horrible thing? I went through a miscarriage early in pregnancy and I really thought it was the end of the world and I REALLY struggled..In my opinion many of you have gone throughmuch worse experiences..I just wanted to say I think all of you are very strong amazing women! You truely are Super Women! Good luck to each of you and I hope all of you are blessed with a miracle!

THank you so much Heather for what that. I miscarriage I can imagine is a devestatingly horrible thing to go through. I began to bleed at 7 weeks with Claire and had a 50% chance of losing her. and then that was resolved after 4 weeks of bedrest then the cdh was found and my world came crashing down. Losing a baby whether it is in gestation or fighting for their life in the nicu. is still a loss and I commend you on your strength and perserverce.

Hi, I'm Candace. I have a son that is almost 6, a son born into heaven in 2006 and am expecting my babygirl in late October although I'm not actually due til November 4. I have a thyroid disorder that made conceiving our little girl quite difficult but so far so good. My son that is 6 was born after 38 hours of labor a healthy baby with no problems. I was a teenager so I didn't even tell people about him until I was 22 weeks, saw a doctor at 23 weeks but had no problems. My second pregnancy was not eventful until I went into my doctor for a regular checkup at about 17 weeks and they couldn't find his heartbeat. I delivered him (didn't know it was a him til after delivery) and the umbilical cord was wrapped several times around his neck, which they determined to be the cause of his death. An accident that was very rare as early as we were. It took me awhile to adjust to not being pregnant anymore, but I was lucky to have my son at home and I knew I had to keep going for him. We were surprised with this pregnancy but we are ecstatic! I am now 30 weeks and although I have placenta preva (not sure how to spell that) according to my doctor it is not severe and so I am limited to my activities and time on my feet but nothing extreme. I love to feel her kick and can't wait to hold her in my arms! My husband too and same for our son, he can't wait to be a big brother. My sister recently found out she is pregnant and she is due the same day I was with my 2nd son. It is actually not as hard to handle as I thought it would be, although I always worry either way  
So that's my story.

HI. my name is caroline i just gave birth to a boy in march and he was stillborn
and is name was daniel i held him in my arms all day and i have pictures of him and i look at them everyday but i carnt seem tuu get him out my head i miss him soo much i cry all the time i pray everynite tuu him and a a couple of weeks later found out i was pregnant i am 18 weeks and 5 days pregnant
with this one went for my scan tuu see the sex and it add its ankles crossed so couldnt tell the sex of my baby and the women was a bitch she pushed dwn on my blkadder relli hard and nearly made me cry and she was notty and wouldnt let me have another go tuu find the sex hopefully its okies but i get worried sometimes and i hope u all ave a nice baby one day

Quoting MissLissa♥:“ I'll start first... My name is Melissa, I have been on baby gaga 7 months. I have miscarried 5 times ... [snip!] ... weeks. I pray that one day everyone will have the same success story that I have. I know how hard it is to loose your child..”

awww congrats, thats amazing
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Hi.My name is angela and i am 18 years old.This february(200 i found out i was pregnant.I was extremely nervous but the nervousness quickly turned into excitment.I had many ulta sounds and every time i was told my baby was perfectly healthy.The further along i got the less worried i was and the more excited me and my boyfriend became.One night i was gettin reay for bed andhad went to the bathroom and found that i was bleeding.I knew this wasn't good but still had no idea what was about to happen.I went into the bedroom and told my boyfriend i was bleeding so we went to the ER.By the time we had gotten there i was having contractions every few min.After hours and hours of layin in the hosptol bed crying and screaming my doctor told me that i was fully dialated and my daughter would be here within the next hour.At 23 weeks i was told they were not going to try and save her because she was a week to little.I cried and was puking and all i could do is just keep screaming NO NO NO over and over again.After she was born they just weighed her and handed her to me.My boyfriend and i were in complete shock along with both of our parents who were there crying with us the whole time.I can't go to sleep at night without picturing her in my head or re living the whole experience at the hospitol.We burried my daughter Candace Lynn next to my boyfriends grandmother whom he was extremely close to.Everyday i just pray my baby is with her in good hands.