How do i say no?

Hello,
as some may know im ttc, there is about 9/10 months till my 21st and i wanna stop ttcing till after my 21st dont wanna big bump... but dunno how to tell OH.. he really wants a baby i dont wanna sound selfish but i wanna go on holiday n cant with bump.. hes so excited but how can i tell him 2 wait with out sounding selfish?

for real? in theory, if you dont want to TTC, then dont.... take BC.
that being said..... if youre more worried about timing it so you can party without being pregnant, thats a pretty good sign that youre not ready to have a baby, period.

Quoting Addisons Momma!:“ for real? in theory, if you dont want to TTC, then dont.... take BC. that being said..... if youre more ... [snip!] ... about timing it so you can party without being pregnant, thats a pretty good sign that youre not ready to have a baby, period.”

why is that ??
a friend of mine wanted to wait till after her 25th so she could have a party , so what ,is she not ready to have a child just because she wanted to wait ??
she didnt have a big 21st as she was pregnant , so she wanted to make up for it on her 25th,
oh and my friend is already a fantastic mother to her daughter so yes she is ready to be a mother again
she just wanted to have a 25th party first .

OP just explain to your SO , im sure he will understand

goodluck

Quoting Im watching you:“ why is that ?? a friend of mine wanted to wait till after her 25th so she could have a party , so ... [snip!] ... again she just wanted to have a 25th party first . OP just explain to your SO , im sure he will understand goodluck”

not saying she cant be a good mother, etc. but if she doesnt have the balls to tell her SO she wants to wait, and if the only reason she wants to wait is to party, then IMO, shes not ready. its JMO. plenty of women on here, for example, are pregnant through their 21st bday, because if they are really wanting a child, then they are willing to wait a few months to have a drink or a party......

Quoting Addisons Momma!:“ for real? in theory, if you dont want to TTC, then dont.... take BC. that being said..... if youre more ... [snip!] ... about timing it so you can party without being pregnant, thats a pretty good sign that youre not ready to have a baby, period.”

i dont want to party im ment to be going on holiday my sons never met my dad and some of my family my dad booked my ticket for my 21st... I have a child already so not being ready is not the problem

Quoting Im watching you:“ why is that ?? a friend of mine wanted to wait till after her 25th so she could have a party , so ... [snip!] ... again she just wanted to have a 25th party first . OP just explain to your SO , im sure he will understand goodluck”

Thank you hun, i think the person before u miss read.. it not about not having balls its about not wanting to upset him. its easy 2 say no but i love him and dont wanna see him sad.

Quoting Joaquim's Mummy:“ Thank you hun, i think the person before u miss read.. it not about not having balls its about not wanting to upset him. its easy 2 say no but i love him and dont wanna see him sad.”

if you were saying "i dont want to TTC at all" he might be sad, but just waiting a few months, he should be ok with..... know what i mean?