Single mommys.Help!

So im going to try and condense this so its not a novel...
The babys father and I wear dateing for about 7 months before I became pregnant,but in all honesty I knew he wasnt ever going to be my forever.I was actually ready to break up with him 3 days before I found out I was pregnant because I was tired of just being with someone to fill up my time because thats all we were doing (the BOTH of us).But whenI found out I was pregnant I wanted to atleast try and make things work because I believed there was a shot.Needless to say after he found out I was pregnant all hell broke loose and he ranted about how he didnt want me to be the mother of his child and how i should get an abortion pretty much anything you could think of to be hurtful *mind you he's a grown ass man 24*.Anyway I told himI was going to do this without him and honestly in some way thats how i wanted it because I knew if he were in the pciture everything would be harder.Well he came back begging and crying for me back and in a moment of weakness I gave under my better judgement.Since then he has been trying his damnedest to make things work and I know i should be grateful to have someone who cares about me enough to try but I just dont.I do not love him at all after everything ive been through with him NO,but he seems to be more and more in love with me as time passes.I've tried to end things but he just wont let them happen and when he gets angry with my he threatens to get custody.I just dont know what to do,I dont want to be with him but I dont know how we're suppose to raise a child seperated.I NEEED HELP!Im at a loss and I feel like im in a cornor.

Sorry it was so long but Its hard to understand the problem in a few sentances.
If anyone has advice it would be deeply apprecaited.

Im kind of in the same situation now. Me and my BD are off and on more than a damn light switch lol. But my situation is a little different- he has another BM and kids; and sometimes I feel as though he cant decide as to where he wants to be.. and every time i say i'm done- i go back on my better judgement. But I have decided that for my son- if he doesnt get his shit straight this time and decide on what he wants Im done.. because at first I was just gonna leave him alone.. completely. no contact, but I felt that wasnt a fair chance to my son. So i've decided that if he can be there like a father is suppose to and is willing to help and love him as his son... he can. If not im gone. So my advice to you is.. let him be there for his child if he wants to be there for his child let him, but if you dont want to be with him- whether he gets mad or not.. tell him. because you dont have to be. And he can only get custody if you are unfit to raise your child. They will not take a child from their mother just because "I want custody".. you know?! Dont let him blackmail you into being with him..

i'm in a similar situation but my bf wouldn't dare threaten to take my child. i'm not going to judge cause i feel stuck too. but as hard as it is i'm trying to stick to my word and not go back this time. and i come to work and get an email from him apologizing about what all he said today and if i can forgive him he would love to be with me and us not fight anymore. but the only reason we fight is cause of him. so i told him i'm not going back. just try your hardest and think about your baby and what would be best. i hope it works out for you! good luck

i'm in a similar situation but my bf wouldn't dare threaten to take my child. i'm not going to judge cause i feel stuck too. but as hard as it is i'm trying to stick to my word and not go back this time. and i come to work and get an email from him apologizing about what all he said today and if i can forgive him he would love to be with me and us not fight anymore. but the only reason we fight is cause of him. so i told him i'm not going back. just try your hardest and think about your baby and what would be best. i hope it works out for you! good luck

I'm in a similar situation, except I love my BD and he refuses to even talk to me anymore and has a new girlfriend, they moved in together after like a month of them being together. I'm going to be a single mama and at most they may give him every other weekend custody because I was scared that mine would go for custody because after a month or two of not speaking I basically gave him a piece of my mind and haven't spoken to him since. Its not easy but you shouldn't stay together for the baby because that will just make it worse on your child. I know that cause my friend did that for awhile with her BD and it just all went downhill. I know it'll be hard but think about your own happiness and your child before you care what your BD thinks because he doesn't have to stick around forever but you and your child will always be together, I'd say do what you think is right even if its not the easiest choice do what you want to do because every night you have to go to sleep being happy with yourself and nobody else

I'm in a similar situation myself and my BD broke up days before I found out I was pregnant, and when I told him he said "Take care of it" ha, yeah right. then after i said i wouldnt, he told me he would sign his rights over (which im not letting him do, because he's going to pay child support), and he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. and then he blocked my number [: dont feel bad about not wanting him, and honestly he cant take your baby away from you. only in rare circumstances do they take a child away from the mother, and thats usually when the mother is proven to be "unfit".

Yeah see I feel like such an asshole because I see how hard it is for alot of ladies to be single parents because they *want their BD to be in the picture and I would just rather him not.Im sure he'll be a suitable father if he actuallys cares to try but as a SO to me I just dont see that happeninf.We fight oh so much because I just do not like the kind of person he is and Id rather be a single mother*happy* then be with him and be settling if you will.Thank you ladies for replying back and telling me some of your own situations it makes me feel less alone and trapped.Im truly just hopeing the whatever happens things will be okay and I have a healthy happy baby.Thats all I can ask for.

Well, Honestly if your BD is in the army(?) / Military and he is living in the barracks, he WILL NOT Get custody. Also, is it possible you do love him and want things to work, but you're angry over the past, and not looking clearly at the changes he is making? (Not accusing, just saying I have been there in past relationships)
If you're not happy, don't go back. There is no point in living unhappily, and as your child grows up, he or she will know you're not happy and in turn not be happy either. However, if the fact is you are just angry and upset over the past, and you loved him then, but you're so angry over the past that you cannot let yourself be happy and love him for the changes he's trying to make today, then just take a step back and ask yourself to forgive the past, and look forward to the bright future you have ahead of you!  
I hope I helped. Good Luck!!!