So frusterated I feel like crying

I have my SO's daughter here so i'm taking care of two babies now. This whole week he's been NO help whatsoever. I'm tired, I'm stressed out, and i'm running on empty. i really feel like I can crash at any moment. On top of that my's SO's baby mama's been textin me givin me sh*t about stuff i've never done and threating to raise child support on him. And he doesn't show the slightest bit concerne! Today (saturday/HALLOWEEN!) he went to work. he didn't have to but he chose to. he only worked5 hours today and then went to work out after. He came home i had plans for us and what does he do? Eats raviolies and falls asleep!!!! Everyones callin sayin to leave him and bring the kids or that they'll come pick me up but I'm tired of being the one with the kids all the time. I want HIM to step his game up and become the father he's suppose to be! I want HIM to be interested in our family. What am I doing wrong???

Quoting Apryl's Mommie:“ I have my SO's daughter here so i'm taking care of two babies now. This whole week he's been NO help ... [snip!] ... step his game up and become the father he's suppose to be! I want HIM to be interested in our family. What am I doing wrong???”

He sounds like a lazy other than the fact that he goes to work........
tell him you need help!

First I would just like to know what SO stands for and maybe having a clearer understanding I can help you out a lil more better.

Quoting Apryl's Mommie:“ I have my SO's daughter here so i'm taking care of two babies now. This whole week he's been NO help ... [snip!] ... step his game up and become the father he's suppose to be! I want HIM to be interested in our family. What am I doing wrong???”

hey, in my opinion ur not doin anything wrong ur takin care of ur kid and a kid from his previous relationship ur doin more enough..... u should talk to him and if we doesn't want to listen make him listen ... its real messed up that he's leavin u to do everything on ur own and as far as his baby mom raisin the child support is concerned u shouldn't even make that ur problem....

Quoting proudmamass:“ First I would just like to know what SO stands for and maybe having a clearer understanding I can help you out a lil more better.”

significant other

Quoting InkedMomma:“ significant other”

thanks makes a lot of sense now. I am trying to leran these many abbreviations.  

I kno the whole child support thing isn't my problem but she's rubbing it in my face tryin to get me worried. She's doing it on purpose to be a b*tch. I really could care less if she did but it makes me mad when she tries to throw it in my face. And i have talked to him, he just doesn't care.

Quoting Apryl's Mommie:“ I kno the whole child support thing isn't my problem but she's rubbing it in my face tryin to get me ... [snip!] ... care less if she did but it makes me mad when she tries to throw it in my face. And i have talked to him, he just doesn't care.”

Why do you talk to her, I would tell her that she is calling the wrong person. If she was talking to him, I guess that would make him have to deal with things a bit more.

he has to step up on his own, you can't force him you know. and i wouldn't have any contact with his baby's mom if she is trying to stir stuff up with you

Quoting Apryl's Mommie:“ I have my SO's daughter here so i'm taking care of two babies now. This whole week he's been NO help ... [snip!] ... step his game up and become the father he's suppose to be! I want HIM to be interested in our family. What am I doing wrong???”

Your doing fine probably more than others would do. As far as he goes, talking to him and letting him know exactly what is going on helps alot. Try not to say stuff like I feel like you are.... guys do not generally like the words I feel becauase as my husband says that is the first sign of blame being put on him. Try just kindly and point blank asking him for help. i.e. can you please take the trash out or it would really help me out tonight if you could prepare a couple of bottles while I startigten up the house some more. delegate the seemingly smaller tasks to him and he won't feel overwhemled coming in from work and all. guys need a stress break as well and he seems to shoose the gym maybe he took that shift to keep the bills straight, that is what most men think about bills and all that is riding on him to be aman to his family. they just show it differently is all. it may take sometime but with consistent requesting (most pleasently) it will get through to him. It is like training kids to follow the correct rules. they will think one way is right and you have to show them the correct way. as far as the other baby mama she is most likely jealoues, petty and immature based off of the few things you said. as for the child support that may be why he went to work his way of correcting the problem maybe. You guys are a team so that fallls into your worry as well, You are one household and it is obvious that you care for their child, so you have a say in these matters as well, just so long as it is not an hateful say.

Quoting Apryl's Mommie:“ I kno the whole child support thing isn't my problem but she's rubbing it in my face tryin to get me ... [snip!] ... care less if she did but it makes me mad when she tries to throw it in my face. And i have talked to him, he just doesn't care.”

honestly then u should be a b**ch too and not stay with her kid.... it not ur obligation to stay wit his kid especially if he's not helpin u with them.. u should let him know that he needs to be a man and take care or his responsibilities and just cuz he works doesn't make it enough he still has little one he needs to spend time with..... and let his BM kno that u don't care about wat she's doin that it ain't got nothin to do wit u

I ended up leaving, I took my daughter and left my phone at home while he was sleeping. He was at home with his daughter and no car. When i came back i didn't even have to say anything he just looked at me and apologized. You think he was doing it just to be a d*ck??

I ended up leaving, I took my daughter and left my phone at home while he was sleeping. He was at home with his daughter and no car. When i came back i didn't even have to say anything he just looked at me and apologized. You think he was doing it just to be a d*ck??

I ended up leaving, I took my daughter and left my phone at home while he was sleeping. He was at home with his daughter and no car. When i came back i didn't even have to say anything he just looked at me and apologized. You think he was doing it just to be a d*ck??