i wish he would grow up

SO convinced me to go out for halloween. It took a lot but I said yes. We were going out with a big group of friends and my friends are really excited. My aunt was gonna watch our son. Well SO cant find his wallet so now he cant go. He said I could still go out (before i was preggo we hardly went out together) and he goes out every weekend anyways so he doesnt mind that I go out without him. I would stay home with him and Aeson but I got my hair highlighted, spent 70 bucks on a costume and got a spray tan all for this night. I havent gone out in 11 months and all I do is take care of Aeson all day everyday and night which I dont care about it cuz he is worth it butSO rarely changes a diaper and sits at home on his comp all day. He says maybe 15 min of convo to me and Aeson everyday. I think I deserve this one night out to get dressed up and feel cute and be with my friends. Well SO doesnt want to stay home and watch our son. He wants to go sit at his friends house since he cant go out. Why not just stay home one night with our son? I will be gone 5 hours and he cant stay home by himself for 5 hours but I am by myelf why he is out every weekend sometimes during the week and is either gone all day or on his comp. If Aeson goes with my aunt he will use up all the milk I have stored in the freezer where if he stays home with dad he will prob only use 7 oz. then we could use the other milk to have a date night and someone could watch him. But SO doesnt care. I cant even get him to watch a movie at home with me so I dunno why I thought he would care about us having extra milk so we could take a date night. I just dont understand why I have sacrificed everything and want one night to have fun and he cant sacrifice one night. He is so mean to me now also. Never helps take care of our son. He acts like cuz he pays for everything that is enough. I appreciate everything he does finacially but I can do it on my own too and move back to my home town with my gma and be just fine without him. I am tired of begging him to be there for us. and I do love him but I can only take so much. He has done so much to me. I never have anything good to say about him anymore. I just didnt have a dad growing up and I promised myself I wouldnt do that to Aeson....but at the same time I cant force him to want to be a good one. im just rambling now...i just dont know what to do

I think you need to go out tonight. You deserve this! If you keep letting him treat you like that.. Then nothing will change. Every mama deserves a break now and then.. So go out! Even if he doesn't want you too.. You owe this to yourself.

Then when you come home- I'd have a heart to heart with him. Something has to change. Frankly I don't even see how your putting up with his actions right now. I woulda kicked his butt already! You deserve to be happy & have some free time and some help around the house.

Quoting SarahBeth(BBM):“ SO convinced me to go out for halloween. It took a lot but I said yes. We were going out with a big group ... [snip!] ... to Aeson....but at the same time I cant force him to want to be a good one. im just rambling now...i just dont know what to do”

ufor a second i thought u were talking about mt SO!!!!! what u go thru sounds so familiar girlie! maybe its the water in kansas?!?!? guess we shouldnt let our boys drink it----dont want them to turn out like dad!..if u ever wanna vent im here!

but i would go out tonite if i were u...and make SO babysit!!!!!

You should go out! And don't let him make you feel bad about it. Every mommy needs a night out from time to time.

Even if you have to use up the spare milk, I would still go out.   You say you don't want your kid growing up w/o a dad... but your SO isn't acting like a dad at all... he's not spending any time with you or the kid, from what you say, just paying the bills... he may as well just be paying child support...

wow, sounds familiar. my lo is 7 months old now and my so doesn't change many diapers maybe maybe 1 a day and feeds him once a day in the morn he will get him and do that for me. but other than that it's me and only me. he tells me to take him in the shower with me, while he plays videogames all all day. if i ask him to take kyler for a moment he throw a hissy and says why where are you goin? i can't go out at all, i just watch my lo, which i love to death and it's fine by me, i just with that some guys would man up and take care of their responsibities also. oh and i also do all the cooking, cleaning, everythijng around the house, my so will make one meal maybe in 2 weeks but that's it. sorry for the rant, but glad to see someone else feels like this, but it's so not good.   sorry grl.

Maybe both you gals should talk to your SO's? Let them know you are feeling overwhelmed and underappreciated... Or that you wish they would spend more time with you?

Quoting Tessah:“ Maybe both you gals should talk to your SO's? Let them know you are feeling overwhelmed and underappreciated... Or that you wish they would spend more time with you?”

thats an everyday conversation. he just doesnt care.

Quoting Tessah:“ Even if you have to use up the spare milk, I would still go out.   You say you don't want your kid growing ... [snip!] ... any time with you or the kid, from what you say, just paying the bills... he may as well just be paying child support...”

thats what i told him...that he isnt here for us so he can just go away and just give us money since that is all he wants to do.