Their CHOICE, Not Yours ;-)

I'm a SAHM and I hear a lot of wrong impression that people get in their minds about SAHM's and it is ridiculous that even some SAHM's also have wrong impression of mother's who work.

I don't get it.

If it doesn't affect you and your children then why on earth does it matter if someone else chooses to stay home or work?
No one needs to answer to anyone about why they work or stay home for their kids. Ugh.

Kinda like no one should judge on BF or FF, or vaccinating or non vaccinating... but they do. you ignore it and move on

Quoting TheAirForceWife:“ Kinda like no one should judge on BF or FF, or vaccinating or non vaccinating... but they do. you ignore it and move on”

Lol. Yeah, I know.
Still stupid.

Quoting TheAirForceWife:“ Kinda like no one should judge on BF or FF, or vaccinating or non vaccinating... but they do. you ignore it and move on”

 

Oh who knows.

I have a variety of theories that explain this, and all judgments about similar subjects.

1) People use criticism of others to deflect criticism about themselves, or to make them feel better comparatively about themselves.

2) People are genuinely deluded to think that their way IS the right way, and anyone else who makes a different choice needs to be saved from their bad choices

3) People like to feel superior to others, and taking someone to task over differences of opinion makes people feel inflated and important

I think it's more or less a combination of the above, but of course there will be exceptions at times.

C.

Quoting TheAirForceWife:“ Kinda like no one should judge on BF or FF, or vaccinating or non vaccinating... but they do. you ignore it and move on”

Agreed.

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Quoting God:“ Oh who knows. I have a variety of theories that explain this, and all judgments about similar subjects. ... [snip!] ... and important I think it's more or less a combination of the above, but of course there will be exceptions at times. C.”

I love your theories. I actually believe they're commonly the reasons.  

IMO, I feel likea lot of the time being a SAHM is the mother's choice (which IMO is a wonderful one, I would love to spend all day every day with my daughter) unfortunatley, a mother working is because she has too to provide. ( of course, other than the cases where mothers want to work )

Quoting God:“ Oh who knows. I have a variety of theories that explain this, and all judgments about similar subjects. ... [snip!] ... and important I think it's more or less a combination of the above, but of course there will be exceptions at times. C.”

Number 3 makes perfect sense. I see that in a lot of different circumstances.

Quoting Miss Erica.:“ Number 3 makes perfect sense. I see that in a lot of different circumstances.”

really? like on here or in general? On here i really think its number 2 that applies.

Quoting TheAirForceWife:“ really? like on here or in general? On here i really think its number 2 that applies.”

I think all of them were extremley valid points.
But number 3 I see with a few members of the site in different circumstances, over different topics. Trying to "one up" the person, just because of a difference of opinion. And the whole "I MUST be better than you because I do this.. "

Maybe sometimes it has to do with jealousy. I am jealous of stay at home moms so there are probably a lot of other women out there who are too. Some women don't have a choice and it can make them act out and be rude to mothers who do have the choice. 

Quoting God:“ Oh who knows. I have a variety of theories that explain this, and all judgments about similar subjects. ... [snip!] ... and important I think it's more or less a combination of the above, but of course there will be exceptions at times. C.”

yes
yes
and yes...

Quoting sratrat:“ Maybe sometimes it has to do with jealousy. I am jealous of stay at home moms so there are probably a ... [snip!] ... there who are too. Some women don't have a choice and it can make them act out and be rude to mothers who do have the choice.”

I think being a SAHM is really hard at times but I know that there is a lot of stress in being a mother who works and be a mother. It is stressful.
With me and SO it just works out in our favor but if I want to be a SAHM I still have to make some kind of money. The only thing we can afford at the moment is our small one bedroom apartment. I mean, I'm sure my SO could afford a two bedroom but I doubt he wants to give up buying his video games to compensate.

I respect a woman who can take on being a full-time worker and come home and still be a full-time mom. My mother had no choice with my dad being disabled and she is the only person I have ever looked up to.
Hooray for working mommies too!

I know this a side note but people say how good it is for a mother to stay home with their children and whatnot but it goes equal both ways because I think it was good my mom worked.

OP your display picture reminds me of that kid on Sid the Science Kid.