I have done both and trust me they each come with their own unique set of challenges. Right now, I am home with the littlest one all day and I work 5pm-midnightish,three nights a week. That has it's own set of challenges as well. Being a parent is never easy-okay,let me rephrase that-being a GOOD parent is never easy. If people woiuld stop looking at everything in black & white,they might realize it is possible to be a good parent and not make the same choices they choose.