I'm freaking out! (May be a little disturbing to some)

I just walked into my 6 year old daughters room and caught her doing, well, I'm not sure what... She was with my 2 year old son and she had her pants and underwear pulled down. As soon as I walked in she hurried and tried to pull them up. I've tried talking to her about it, but all she does is cry. I even talked to her about how sometimes curiosity gets the best of us, but she tells me that's not it. All she will say is "I can't tell you because it's gross and I'll get in trouble." I asked my 2 year old, but obviously he didn't quite understand the whole situation. This bothers me more than it may bother other parents because I was molested as a child. I don't know if this is a possible sign that something has happened to her, or if it was just basic childhood curiosity. Please help ladies, I don't know what to do.

Im sorry mama, I don't know what to tell you. You don't want to pry from her, but obviously she is the only one who can tell you why!

Quoting BoobHounds mama:“ I just walked into my 6 year old daughters room and caught her doing, well, I'm not sure what... She ... [snip!] ... that something has happened to her, or if it was just basic childhood curiosity. Please help ladies, I don't know what to do.”

i dont have an answer but im so sorry to hear youre going through this, this is a tough one

Maybe she wanted to see what his looked like? Kindo of a "I'll show you mine if you show me yours"?

I wish i could be more helpful.

I don't know much about this, but it seems weird that she was ashmamed of whatever was going on. I understand being embarassed, but she sounded like she was really upset.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Maybe you can ask tomorrow when she has had time to calm down.

Quoting Kenzi's Mommy [Gleek]:“ Maybe she wanted to see what his looked like? Kindo of a "I'll show you mine if you show me yours"? I wish i could be more helpful.”

That's what I was thinking, but she tells me that is not it. She has seen a penis before because I have a 2 month old son so I would think she can't be too curious...

maybe since she says its gross and youll get mad just try reassuring her you wont get mad and trying to make her understand that if it was gross everyone makes mistakes and mommy needs to know so you can help tell her why it was or wasnt wrong so she knows in the future

like i said, idk, just a thought since obviously shes somewhat admitting something happened, so you cant be too far from her telling you. its not like shes saying absilutely nothing happened and playing dumb

I was a victim too and I remember doing things like that as well... my only advice would be trying to talk to her, tell her she won't get in trouble.

Since she just had her stuff pulled down and didn't want to tell you because it's "gross", maybe she has something medical going on down there? Like maybe it was burning or itching or something and she was embarrased so she wanted him to see if there was something there, and she knew she shouldn't have asked him so she was afraid of getting in trouble?

Quoting BoobHounds mama:“ I just walked into my 6 year old daughters room and caught her doing, well, I'm not sure what... She ... [snip!] ... that something has happened to her, or if it was just basic childhood curiosity. Please help ladies, I don't know what to do.”

i would reassure your daughter that there is nothing you would get mad at if its the truth...you might be upset if she tells you the truth but youll be mad if she doesnt.

if she thinks she's going to get into trouble then she wont tell you. kids are difficult lol. my niece does things and then says "its not my fault its my bodies...."

i wish my sil would teach her that she is responsible for what she does and that there are rules to abide by...good luck mama i would seriously try and make her comfortable enough to talk to so you can figure out whats going on.

Quoting HopefulMom:“ I don't know much about this, but it seems weird that she was ashmamed of whatever was going on. I understand ... [snip!] ... like she was really upset. I'm sorry that happened to you. Maybe you can ask tomorrow when she has had time to calm down.”

Yeah, I thought that was weird too. She is totally freaking out. Like hyperventilating because she was crying so hard. She seems scared.

This completely normal. I did this when i was younger. My friend works for a daycare and says she see's it happen all the time.

Quoting MAMAZDANiELLA★ FFMB:“ maybe since she says its gross and youll get mad just try reassuring her you wont get mad and trying ... [snip!] ... happened, so you cant be too far from her telling you. its not like shes saying absilutely nothing happened and playing dumb”

This is great advice.
I wouldn't push her...but just try to tell her you won't be mad but you have to know what she was doing because you want to help her if it was indeed wrong for her to have done.

Just tell her you love her and want her to talk to you about anything, because mommy is your friend and wants to help you understand.

Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:“ Since she just had her stuff pulled down and didn't want to tell you because it's "gross", maybe she ... [snip!] ... him to see if there was something there, and she knew she shouldn't have asked him so she was afraid of getting in trouble?”

I asked her if she peed her pants, or if it was hurt or itchy and she said "no". I also told her I won't get mad if she is honest with me.

Quoting Kenzi's Mommy [Gleek]:“ This is great advice. I wouldn't push her...but just try to tell her you won't be mad but you have to ... [snip!] ... her you love her and want her to talk to you about anything, because mommy is your friend and wants to help you understand.”

I don't want this to turn into a situation that makes her afraid to come to me. I have always wanted a very open relationship with my kids.