School Social Worker Coming To My House??

Ok to start off i have a 4 yr old boy and an almost 2 yr old boy. My oldest goes to school three days a week because he has a speech impairment and behavior problems. Well apparently he has been fighting the teachers and other students in class and i had a meeting with the teacher on monday. My oldest has also been hurting his younger brother.. i mean REALLY bad. He is covered in marks and dosent seem like he understands hes hurting someone.. like theres a disconnect. I had discussed my concerns a year ago when he began school with the director of the program and they dismissed my concerns and chalked it down to typical child behavior. Well while the teacher was here he came behind my youngest and started strangling him for no reason. She said she has witnessed me doing everything im supposed to do in terms of disipline and thati am trying my best to stop this from happening. She comes once a month to meet with all the parents from her school to monitor the childs progess and to touch base with the parents and let them know how their children are doing in school. Well i get an email on weds. saying that the school social worker might have some resources that would help me out and asked if we could all meet next monday and figure out where to go from here. I figured from the way the teacher was talking that it would just be some additional testing they would do. Then this morning i get another email from the teacher saying is there anyway we can switch it to tuesday, i told her i would prefer to do it on the next day my so has off which would be thursday. Then she emails me back and says this is an emergency situation and we need to meet with you on tuesday. She continues to say " i will take the boys for a walk so that your able to talk to the socail worker in quiet" wtf?? Does this sound a little suspisious to anyone else?? I need some advice because i am freaking out at this point.. and i dont know what i should i do. advice please  

Quoting Mama With Two Boys:“ Ok to start off i have a 4 yr old boy and an almost 2 yr old boy. My oldest goes to school three days ... [snip!] ... anyone else?? I need some advice because i am freaking out at this point.. and i dont know what i should i do. advice please  ”

Id tell them that they will come when YOU are available and welcome them. If they are just coming because they want to help you they will respect that

That does sound a little suspicious. Kind of like she wants to ask your boys questions too. Idk, You should email her back and ask her why she wants to be alone with your children.

sounds fishy to me. u should ask her why does she need to take the boys away for a walk?

Quoting ♡H3ATH3RH03♡:“ Id tell them that they will come when YOU are available and welcome them. If they are just coming because they want to help you they will respect that”

I told them that and they said they HAVE to come that day! This is total bs ..i know how the system works and it feels like their taking me for being stupid. which im not!!

It does sound a bit suspisious!

Quoting Misfit♥Mommy:“ That does sound a little suspicious. Kind of like she wants to ask your boys questions too. Idk, You should email her back and ask her why she wants to be alone with your children.”

sounds like she is trying to find out if a adult is hurting them .....

iw ould say to tell them to come when YOU can see them and that your NOT comfertable with the children being alone with as tragner

Sounds weird to me. I would not let her be alone with your boys...

I asked her and shes like " so that your able to have a conversation without being interupted with kids running around". Well sorry lady i dont allow anyone to walk with my children without me being there.. hell i dont even let anyone babysit them unless they are family.. that aint gonna happen.

Quoting Mama With Two Boys:“ I told them that and they said they HAVE to come that day! This is total bs ..i know how the system works and it feels like their taking me for being stupid. which im not!!”

So tell them that you just wont be home. You got me fucked up if someone will come to my house when they arent welcomed.

Quoting Mama With Two Boys:“ I told them that and they said they HAVE to come that day! This is total bs ..i know how the system works and it feels like their taking me for being stupid. which im not!!”

it is BS

I honestly just think they want to speak to you alone without little ears hearing everything that the social worker says.
But in any case like this, you can expect questions like are you ever violent towards the children, has his father ever been violent towards you in front of the boys? etc.
In a lot of these cases the kids pick this sort of behavior up from seeing somebody doing it, I dare say that they just want to get to the root cause of his problems, & slowly work on fixing it.

The teacher is probably just offering so the time is easier on you, if you aren't comfortable with it say no.

I'd tell her that you;ll arrange a sitter. First off- you don't have to let anyone in your house without a warrant unless youw ant to. Second..they are your kids...I wouldn't let them take them off to talk without you.

if i were you i would have another adult with them at all times ... you are entitled to have someone witness your interractions with them and they cant tell you otherwise... it is a breech of your human rights if they try telling you you cant have someone else with you as a witness that their process is going all legal like .and have a witness for the kids too ...

stay calm... if you freak out, theyre going to think youre trying to hide someting. tell them you agree it needs to be dealt with, but it can wait until thursday, at which point they are absolutely welcome to come to you. as far as taking them for a walk, i would NEVER EVER let her. i get not wanting them to hear your conversation, and wanting to have a chance to speak with the boys alone- but she can go play in their bedroom with them, or another room in the house. i would not let her take them out of the house, i dont trust that .