re: Breastfeeding in public

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well if the situation fits, then i believe a woman should do everything she can... maybe if she's ... [snip!] ... not ALWAYS going to be feasable, you're correct. however, i believe a woman should do all she can to respect others around her.”

What about respect for her child???? Why would I make life harder for me and MY baby just to make others comfortable? Its not going to happen and that is naieve and insulting.

Quoting MommytoKenz,Lily,&Harlow:“ What about respect for her child???? Why would I make life harder for me and MY baby just to make others comfortable? Its not going to happen and that is naieve and insulting.”

well.... that is my opinion. just like everyone else has a right to theirs, i have my opinions.

i believe that there is a time and place for something like that, and in the middle of a crowded mall with children and families... IMO, it's not appropriate.

some parents believe in spanking. not all parents believe in spanking. so in my opinion, if someone is going to spank their child (unless it's a life or death situation such as running into the street, etc) then one should remove their child from the area and discipline them as needed.

is a child really going to be hurt or upset for having to wait an extra 10 seconds to find a more secluded and respectful area?

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well if the situation fits, then i believe a woman should do everything she can... maybe if she's ... [snip!] ... not ALWAYS going to be feasable, you're correct. however, i believe a woman should do all she can to respect others around her.”

I disagree. Im not going to make my son wait when he is hungry. He is 3 months old and does not understand why he is supposed to sit in hunger while I search for a less crowded location.

And I dont understand why other people being potentially offended means I need to make myself uncomfortable. If I'm sitting down to a meal, Im not going to get up and go elswhere while my food gets cold. If Im out with friends, Im not going to get up and go elsewhere and miss out on the conversation. Why should I have to? Because someone may not like what they see? I dont like a lot of things I see at the mall either: teenagers making out, people chewing with their mouths open, morbidly obese people in leggings - but I would never dream of telling them that they had to change just because I dont like it. I would simply not look.

Quoting Taiter Tot's Mama [AP]:“ I disagree. Im not going to make my son wait when he is hungry. He is 3 months old and does not understand ... [snip!] ... - but I would never dream of telling them that they had to change just because I dont like it. I would simply not look.”

well see... i believe that is part of motherhood... your child should come first, and if it comes down to your food getting cold or feeding your child, feeding your child should come first.

my whole base of my opinion is... if i have a small child who sees a woman whipping her breast out in the mall, i'll have to explain if the child asks. i dont think i should have to explain about those things until i'm ready.

i respect other people's opinions and every woman has a right to do what she pleases. i, however, would choose to do it away from others.

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well see... i believe that is part of motherhood... your child should come first, and if it comes ... [snip!] ... other people's opinions and every woman has a right to do what she pleases. i, however, would choose to do it away from others.”

Your response though is based on the premise that there has to be a choice between my food and his food. Obviously my sons needs come first, but why cant I feed him right there at the table while I eat my lunch as well?

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well see... i believe that is part of motherhood... your child should come first, and if it comes ... [snip!] ... other people's opinions and every woman has a right to do what she pleases. i, however, would choose to do it away from others.”

And its not my responsibility to keep your child away from things you dont approve of, thats YOUR job. If you dont want your child seeing breastfeeding, then thats on you. I dont want my child seeing PDA from 14 year olds, or smoking, or people getting drunk, etc... but then its MY job to keep him away from those things. I cant expect everyone to conform simply for my convenience. THEY didnt choose to have my son, so THEY cant be expected to bear the responsibility of raising him.

Quoting Taiter Tot's Mama [AP]:“ Your response though is based on the premise that there has to be a choice between my food and his food. ... [snip!] ... his food. Obviously my sons needs come first, but why cant I feed him right there at the table while I eat my lunch as well?”

as i said, ideally that would be beneficial... if society hadnt made views on bare breasts.... different than it's supposed to be. seeing an exposed breast in public is not something someone sees everyday. so when a child or someone sees it, its bound to cause questions, an elderly couple may not appreciate it, etc.

as i said, it's every woman's decision for herself... i just think for myself, it's innapropriate.

Quoting Taiter Tot's Mama [AP]:“ And its not my responsibility to keep your child away from things you dont approve of, thats YOUR job. ... [snip!] ... for my convenience. THEY didnt choose to have my son, so THEY cant be expected to bear the responsibility of raising him.”

well... one could hardly avoid it on a trip to the mall or a restaurant... i'm not going to keep my child home and locked away for fear they may see a breast. i would just rather them not have to.

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ as i said, ideally that would be beneficial... if society hadnt made views on bare breasts.... different ... [snip!] ... not appreciate it, etc. as i said, it's every woman's decision for herself... i just think for myself, it's innapropriate.”

If you want people to stop being shocked by breastfeeding in public, then we need to make it less of an oddity. The more people are raised around it, the less out of place it would seem.

And an elderly couple may not like my choice of dress, or they may not like seeing an interracial couple, or a gay couple for that matter... but that doesnt mean we should cater to their whims.

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well... one could hardly avoid it on a trip to the mall or a restaurant... i'm not going to keep my child home and locked away for fear they may see a breast. i would just rather them not have to.”

Then thats the choice YOU have made. YOU are choosing to go out to places where they may see an exposed breast.

Quoting Taiter Tot's Mama [AP]:“ If you want people to stop being shocked by breastfeeding in public, then we need to make it less of ... [snip!] ... not like seeing an interracial couple, or a gay couple for that matter... but that doesnt mean we should cater to their whims.”

i completely agree that it should be made more aware that breastfeeding is a completely natural thing, and should be accepted.

however it's currently not... which is sad.

oh well... it's been great debating with you guys, but i have to work in the morning.  

booooooo.

have a good night. ;)

Quoting Taiter Tot's Mama [AP]:“ Then thats the choice YOU have made. YOU are choosing to go out to places where they may see an exposed breast.”

as are you choosing to take your child to a place where PDA's from 14 year olds may be present or smoking, etc.

okay... really going to sleep now. ;)

p.s..... your LO is adorable!

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ as are you choosing to take your child to a place where PDA's from 14 year olds may be present or smoking, etc. okay... really going to sleep now. ;)”

Exactly my point. I cant complain that people are smoking in public because they have the right and IIII chose to take my kids there. And you really cant complain if your child sees a woman breastfeeding, because she has the right and YOU chose to take them there.

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well.... that is my opinion. just like everyone else has a right to theirs, i have my opinions. ... [snip!] ... is a child really going to be hurt or upset for having to wait an extra 10 seconds to find a more secluded and respectful area?”

Yes. If she is hungry I feed her then. I think watching morbidly obease people eat at the food court is gross, should they go hide aswell?? Im not worried about other peoples famalies honestly. If THEY are that bothered, they can move to that secluded bench.
And comparing the privacy of bfing your child to sex is appalling. Nothing in common at all!

Quoting The "Anti" Cunt:“ well see... i believe that is part of motherhood... your child should come first, and if it comes ... [snip!] ... other people's opinions and every woman has a right to do what she pleases. i, however, would choose to do it away from others.”

i've breastfed in front of other small children, they're fascinated and ask what i'm doing. i tell them i'm feeding my son b/c that's how mommies feed their babies...

it's a non-issue. why do you feel that breastfeeding is something you're "not ready" to explain to your child??

it's as innocuous as any other form of eating to that child. they haven't been taught to think of breasts in terms of sex whatsoever.