re: I think i was cold hearted

Quoting NANASMAMA♥BBM♥:“ So i talked to her and told her i was truly sorry and she told me that she's glad i said it. Yeah it ... [snip!] ... me cause i would tell her someting she would think about. I still think i shouldnt of said that but she said she's glad i did.”

It's great that she was able to forgive you and feel better, but I would suggest that if a situation like this occurs again in your life, that you just not say anything at all if you can't offer any helpful and compassionate advice. It's really such a sensitive subject and it's usually not easy for the woman facing such a decision.

yeah, you were an asshole for that one.

Wow, way to be a straight up judgmental cunt. Brava OP. Brava.

Maybe she could consider adoption?

You said exactly what you were feeling, why should you apologizeor feel guilty for that?

Just ask her to really think about what she's doing, and if she believes she is doing the right thing by going through with having an abortion, then that is her decision and there is really nothing you can do about it. Hopefully she will reconsider, but if not, that is just how things go.

 

Quoting Annasmommy:“ Maybe she could consider adoption?”

Then there would be one more little 3 year old that didnt get adopted becuase someone wanted a "baby".

Quoting My Bumparoo and Elvis too:“ Then there would be one more little 3 year old that didnt get adopted becuase someone wanted a "baby".”

I was 6 when I was adopted...it was rough...my adoptive mother always told me that I was a packaged deal...that the only reason she adopted me was because they told her she could get through the adoption process faster for the baby that she wanted if she took an older kid too because they like to get the older kids out of the system....

Quoting My Bumparoo and Elvis too:“ Then there would be one more little 3 year old that didnt get adopted becuase someone wanted a "baby".”

As sad as that may be, I would never discourage someone from deciding on adoption for their child. I think that going through the pregnancy and finding a family that you feel comfortable with and giving them a gift they possibly could never have, is a very strong, admirable thing to do.

Quoting Annasmommy:“ I was 6 when I was adopted...it was rough...my adoptive mother always told me that I was a packaged ... [snip!] ... faster for the baby that she wanted if she took an older kid too because they like to get the older kids out of the system....”

What a bitch move!  

Quoting Katrina [Dirty Hooker]:“ Wow, way to be a straight up judgmental cunt. Brava OP. Brava.”

She knows i wasnt being judgmental about it so thanks for the name calling  She knows i was telling her how i felt about it.

Quoting NANASMAMA♥BBM♥:“ She knows i wasnt being judgmental about it so thanks for the name calling  She knows i was telling her how i felt about it.”

The way you feel about it issss... judgemental. And cunty.  

Quoting Katrina [Dirty Hooker]:“ The way you feel about it issss... judgemental. And cunty.  ”

 

Quoting Annasmommy:“ I was 6 when I was adopted...it was rough...my adoptive mother always told me that I was a packaged ... [snip!] ... faster for the baby that she wanted if she took an older kid too because they like to get the older kids out of the system....”

wow

Quoting Adrian's Mommy: 31 Weeks:“ You said exactly what you were feeling, why should you apologizeor feel guilty for that? Just ask ... [snip!] ... and there is really nothing you can do about it. Hopefully she will reconsider, but if not, that is just how things go.  ”

She has every right to feel the way she wants to feel. However, some things are better left unsaid. Fortunately, things turned out alright and her SIL didn't mind, but not every situation like this is so easy.

A statement like that is tasteless and wrong to say to someone facing such a predicament.

dont think it was entirely harsh. She obviously wasnt aware ofwhat exactly she was doing, although you could have chosen other words to say what you wanted to say you were just being straight and upfront with her without sugar coating things for her. And in her case which i know she might have been just panicking and making that decision spontaneously becuase she didnt know what to do, she probly just needed to hear the truth from someone she cares about especially if she said that she doesnt believe in abortions. I know when i first found out i thought about it becuase of my situation & thankfully i had my best friend to set me straight. If it wasnt for her i would have wet against everything i believe just becuase i was having a lil drama in my life.
So I appreciate you for having the balls to be real with her.. lolz next time just be nicer ;)