Am I crazy

I had IVF to concieve my daughters!I love having twins and I think they are enough to handle .But we transferred 3 embryos.Sometimes I get sad thinking about how the other one did not implant.I mean I know it wasn't a baby but it wasn't just and egg or sperm.It was the potential to be one of my children.Although I dont want anymore,I still almost mourn the loss sometimes?How is it a loss though?  Am I nuts?

I've never been in your position but I can understand why you would feel that way. I know if I was in your situation I would probably wonder about the "what ifs" from time to time. I think it's normal, you're not nuts.

Quoting LA REINA™:“ I've never been in your position but I can understand why you would feel that way. I know if I was in ... [snip!] ... I was in your situation I would probably wonder about the "what ifs" from time to time. I think it's normal, you're not nuts.”

That is what it is,I sometimes think what it would be like with 3 .I am perfectly happy with just my daughters.I guess I wouldn't feel this way 

you're crazy...but not because of this...there's other reasons  

but i do understand what you mean...the reasoning makes sense...i think i would feel the same way

Quoting TickledPink*2{GME}:“ That is what it is,I sometimes think what it would be like with 3 .I am perfectly happy with just my daughters.I guess I wouldn't feel this way ”

I think it's a woman thing to always wonder about how things could have been and then we get sad because they aren't that way. I'm not religious but I do think everything happens for a reason. Good luck though, hope you feel better soon.

I don't think you are crazy!

I haven't been through what you have been through, but I understand your reasoning for feeling the way you do. I would mourn the loss of an embryo too. I would always wonder what could have been  

Hugs!!  

I had 2 embryos put back in by IVF and I am sad that I miscarried that one. I miscarried it at 6 weeks, but I was able to maintain the pregnancy still with a singleton. I understand how you feel.

I think ur not crazy I would be the same.

I also think you should do IVF again and have another set of twins and send them my way  

Quoting Bean Bunny ❤ BWA:“ I think ur not crazy I would be the same. I also think you should do IVF again and have another set of twins and send them my way  ”

LOL no way

i don't want to offend any one at all!!! That being said I don't think you could mourn the loss of an embryo (you can if you want but..) unless you  mourn every time you get a menstrual cycle. A miscarriage is one thing but an embryo? SOrry if i am stepping on any ones toes

I guess since the egg is actually fertilized out side the womb it could be considered a miscarriage though huh? I don't know thats a tough one. I guess either way one can feel how they want to feel regardless of what "should" be. so how you feel is how you feel???

Quoting Amanda and Rich:“ i don't want to offend any one at all!!! That being said I don't think you could mourn the loss of an ... [snip!] ... one. I guess either way one can feel how they want to feel regardless of what "should" be. so how you feel is how you feel???”

I understand, but I guess it depends on when you think life takes place. With IVF, for example, you know the egg and sperm have met. Therefore, IMO there is a potential life.

I also understand that women sometimes are pregnant and then get AF without even knowing they are pregnant. Obviously, again IMO this is a bit different as you never knew if you were really pregnant.

I don't want to debate so I'm leaving it at that. It all boils down to what you believe.