re: Trouble bonding with second (or later) child

Thank you.

I was scared the whole time. It still doesn't feel real, i can't believe he's ok and he's here. I keep thinking it can't last. I do love him, i can't stop kissing those cute cheeks, but i just haven't felt that connection and rush of love. It's been 8 weeks  

Quoting Mama on bedrest:“ Thank you. I was scared the whole time. It still doesn't feel real, i can't believe he's ok and he's ... [snip!] ... him, i can't stop kissing those cute cheeks, but i just haven't felt that connection and rush of love. It's been 8 weeks  ”

It will come, once you can just acknowledge that he is here for good!  Maybe you want to try to talk about the past and your fears as much as possible with friends and family. Only when you talk through it you will be able to let go of it. Your little guy is here, in your arms and he will stay!!!! Give him a big kiss and an extra cuddlefrom me.
Until you feel more comfortable and allow yourself to completely fall in love, just try to be the best "babysitter" in th world!!!!