Other Side Of The Family...(kind long but need advice)

So me and my daughters bio dad arent together he left me during my pregnancy...but I still let his side of the family see her. I feel its the least I can do since hes not able to see herand be here for her. (in prison) So I dropped her off friday with his mom and on saturday night I went to take her more diapers with my boyfriend who I've been with since I was 5 months pregnant. Nariah is now 4 months so anyways..I went over and it was her cousins birthday she was turning one so the whole family was there. I missed my baby so I went inside to see her and tell her goodnight. Well when I went in everyone was in the living room playing with the kids and having a good time when I looked around I didn't see my daughter to my surprise she was in the room with her 10 year old aunt with the door closed..her grandma was making her a bottle but seemed irritated that nariah was fussy because she only used to me and my boyfriend and his daughter...it was supposed to be the first time most of his family met nariah. My point is i feel when my daughter is around she is a nobody...beacuse im not with HER dad. And today she told me to pick her up on Monday then called me back like four hours later and asked if i could pick herup well my boyfriend had a flat tire so I told her i would be able to pick her up in the morning and she hung up with an attitue. I wanna do the right thing but to be honest im more concered about her seeing him and not to much them...What Should I Do Am I Over Reacting?

Quoting Nariah Alivia-Marie's Mom:“ So me and my daughters bio dad arent together he left me during my pregnancy...but I still let his side ... [snip!] ... right thing but to be honest im more concered about her seeing him and not to much them...What Should I Do Am I Over Reacting?”

Honestly NO! If I would've seen my baby in a room with a 10 yr old I would've took her home right there and then. If there were more people there and they were concerned about seeing her why werent they helping? My bfs mom hates that I wont let my daughter stay with her...but I dont trust anyone but him and myself. What if the 10yr old dropped her or something Im sure she wouldnt say anything.

Quoting Nariah Alivia-Marie's Mom:“ So me and my daughters bio dad arent together he left me during my pregnancy...but I still let his side ... [snip!] ... right thing but to be honest im more concered about her seeing him and not to much them...What Should I Do Am I Over Reacting?”

sounds like my mom! i say if shes gonna be ungrateful that she gets to see her grand daughter then next time she wants her for the weekend let her stay a night, IF that! i wouldnt want my baby to feel left out because of that, thats rude

No I think the way you are feeling is totally acceptable.

My sons are treated as second rate by his paternal family because I'm not with their dad too.

Your daughter has a beautiful name btw.

Quoting [[LiNDA]]:“ Honestly NO! If I would've seen my baby in a room with a 10 yr old I would've took her home right there ... [snip!] ... I dont trust anyone but him and myself. What if the 10yr old dropped her or something Im sure she wouldnt say anything.”

a BIG part of why i let nariah go to her house is becuase the 10 year old her name is jaylynn and shes her aunt...shes so close to nariah and shes a very sweet school girl..she has pics of nariah all over her desk at school...i dont want to take nariah from her but nariah is my baby shes my world and i wouldnt want to feel the way she was being treated....

Quoting Kalith:“ No I think the way you are feeling is totally acceptable. My sons are treated as second rate by his paternal family because I'm not with their dad too. Your daughter has a beautiful name btw.”

thanks...i loved her name the moment i heard it!

So How Do I Let Them See Her?...Do I Let Her Stay For The Day From Now On Or Not At All...

Quoting Nariah Alivia-Marie's Mom:“ a BIG part of why i let nariah go to her house is becuase the 10 year old her name is jaylynn and shes ... [snip!] ... want to take nariah from her but nariah is my baby shes my world and i wouldnt want to feel the way she was being treated....”

Oh I see. Well at least someone pays attention to her there. I really would just invite the little girl to stay with you. I told my BDs mom that she will not stay anywhere until I feel she is old enough to. You have to think about the safety of your daughter. What if she gets irritated and does something to her. You never know these days.

Quoting Nariah Alivia-Marie's Mom:“ So me and my daughters bio dad arent together he left me during my pregnancy...but I still let his side ... [snip!] ... right thing but to be honest im more concered about her seeing him and not to much them...What Should I Do Am I Over Reacting?”

Personally I would never ever let them keep my baby, especially over night. If they want to see her you can take her over, but never leave her there alone.

Quoting ***Proud Mommy***:“ Personally I would never ever let them keep my baby, especially over night. If they want to see her you can take her over, but never leave her there alone.”

 

Quoting [[LiNDA]]:“ Oh I see. Well at least someone pays attention to her there. I really would just invite the little girl ... [snip!] ... to think about the safety of your daughter. What if she gets irritated and does something to her. You never know these days.”

100% agree

Quoting ***Proud Mommy***:“ Personally I would never ever let them keep my baby, especially over night. If they want to see her you can take her over, but never leave her there alone.”

Totally Agree

Quoting nicole ♥:“ 100% agree”

 

You let her stay overnight when it's first time meeting them? That's kind of crazy to me. My BD's mom who is batshit crazy has been offering to babysit since LO was a week old but I can't even imagine that woman watching him for a few hrs. I only trust my mom who has been with my son from the get go.

If I was in your shoes (which we have similar situations lol) I would only let them see them while supervised by you. Maybe once she's older and knows them better she could stay overnight.

Quoting ***Proud Mommy***:“ Personally I would never ever let them keep my baby, especially over night. If they want to see her you can take her over, but never leave her there alone.”

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