So Pissed. (vent)

So I just found out that my mother-in-law-to-be is not coming to my baby shower tomorrow. This is making me way madder than it should. She also kept talking about how she would be there and what to bring, and the day before she tells me she won't be there, and had the DUMBEST excuse. Ugh. She has been drinking again (she's an alcoholic) and pretends like she's not.I asked her "will you be coming tomorrow?"This is the text she sent me "problem not dads o disility and livving in my pay ut will deffinetly support you as needed im sick from hannahs scool". I mean, that's not even readable, and when she is not drinking she does fine with spelling (at least to the point where I can read it). From what I can decipher, she said "probably not, dad's on disibility and living off my pay, but I will definitely support you as needed. I'm sick from Hannah's school." Hannah is my SO's little sister. She's not sick from her school, she's sick because she's drinking and taking meds not to drink. Plus, tomorrow is Sunday, and it's not like I'm askingher to take a week off work,just make an appearance, for your future granddaughter's sake!She also had told us that she would buy our baby bedding, but whenever it's brought up she says something like "you should ask Doris, she usually likes to buy the bedding!" Doris is his step-grandmother. Ugh, I'm so irritated. I don't even know why. I asked her over a month ago if the date would work for her, and she said "I'll just work around your schedule." I guess it really doesn't matter what day its on if she never planned on coming, anyway.

My SOs family didnt come to either one of my baby showers or even make an attempt to come to the hospital when I had my boys.

It really pissed me off and hurt my feelings. Even worse with my youngest he was in the NICU and they still acted like nothing was wrong.

My oldest son was about 4 months old before SOs mom ever seen him, and my youngest is about to be 3 months and she has seen him once.

Quoting ♥Ashley♥:“ My SOs family didnt come to either one of my baby showers or even make an attempt to come to the hospital ... [snip!] ... son was about 4 months old before SOs mom ever seen him, and my youngest is about to be 3 months and she has seen him once.”

Well she keeps asking me if she can be in the room when I deliver, and I DO NOT want her there. I'm tempted to tell her "yes" though just so she WON'T show up. She did this with my highschool graduation, too. Made a huge deal about coming, so I made sure to get 3 EXTRA tickets, and she didn't show up, nor did she come to dinner afterward. Whatever.

Dont feel to bad. This will really show you who you can learn to depend on when the baby is here. Hell my own mother didnt come to my first childs babyshower. (her first grandbaby) She wasnt there when she was born and she showed up drunk to her baptism. (she smelled like a bottle of whiskey!) Needless to say, she isnt in my kids life now. My son is 6 mos old and she ahs seen him once. (Shes in jail now) And she got mad when I didnt invite her to his babyshower.. UM HELLO- you didnt come to the first one.....

I fully understand what you are going through, only problem is it's my family not DH's. His family is always there, mine never!

Quoting MandyN *Team Pink*:“ Well she keeps asking me if she can be in the room when I deliver, and I DO NOT want her there. I'm tempted ... [snip!] ... about coming, so I made sure to get 3 EXTRA tickets, and she didn't show up, nor did she come to dinner afterward. Whatever.”

Ugh crazy. I had 2 csections so I didnt have to worry with the whole whos going to be in the room stuff.

With Camden it really bothered me how his family did, and I would make an effort for them to see him and everything, but this time around I refuse.

They act like my kids dont exist and that he only has his other son. I am so over it and the way they treat my kids so I dont care if they ever see either one of them. When my kids do see any of his family they freak out, because they dont know them and his mom always has something to say. SO just tells her she should make more of an effort to be in our kids life and maybe they would have more to do with her. She has also NEVER bought either of my boys anything. NOthing for Christmas, birthdays, not a thing.

Quoting Bianca & the twins' mom:“ I fully understand what you are going through, only problem is it's my family not DH's. His family is always there, mine never!”

Awe, I can't even imagine. My family has done EVERYTHING for this baby. Everything we have for her, either I or my family has bought. My SO hasn't even done anything. He bought one pack of diapers and a Glow Worm. (The Glow Worm is super cute though.) It just irritates me because when we are around them they make a big deal about that baby, like they are so excited, and make all these promises they have no intention of keeping. I don't want my daughter around them at this point, and I hate that.

Quoting ♥Ashley♥:“ Ugh crazy. I had 2 csections so I didnt have to worry with the whole whos going to be in the room ... [snip!] ... have more to do with her. She has also NEVER bought either of my boys anything. NOthing for Christmas, birthdays, not a thing.”

At least the kids aren't like, super excited to see them when they do. They don't deserve for your kids to want anything to do with them.

Quoting MandyN *Team Pink*:“ At least the kids aren't like, super excited to see them when they do. They don't deserve for your kids to want anything to do with them.”

Well my 2 month old doesnt understand, but my 2 year old oh man he freaks out. Like they are complete strangers which to him they are because he doesnt know them. SO just says they are the ones missing out, and he is with them every day so he doesnt care anymore.

His mom was suppose to have kept my baby, and she wanted us to PAY her. Needless enough to say she didnt keep him.

Quoting MandyN *Team Pink*:“ Awe, I can't even imagine. My family has done EVERYTHING for this baby. Everything we have for her, either ... [snip!] ... make all these promises they have no intention of keeping. I don't want my daughter around them at this point, and I hate that.”

I'm over my family. They act the same oh the boys are so cute and Bianca is getting so big we miss them, you should bring them around. I am not taking my children to see the psycho's in action!

Quoting Bianca & the twins' mom:“ I'm over my family. They act the same oh the boys are so cute and Bianca is getting so big we miss them, you should bring them around. I am not taking my children to see the psycho's in action!”

And why are we always the ones who should bring them around? My SOs family acts like if we dont bring them over they just cant see them. We did have our own place for a year and they NEVER once came over.

Quoting ♥Ashley♥:“ And why are we always the ones who should bring them around? My SOs family acts like if we dont bring ... [snip!] ... like if we dont bring them over they just cant see them. We did have our own place for a year and they NEVER once came over.”

That's ridiculous. My dad was the same way with my sister's kids. When she called to tell him she was pregnant with her third, he replied "Why am I neither shocked nor impressed?" She was married, and 26 years old. How rude is that? She just turned 7, he has seen her ONCE and only because she was at our house one day when he was picking us up for a visit.

Quoting MandyN *Team Pink*:“ That's ridiculous. My dad was the same way with my sister's kids. When she called to tell him she was ... [snip!] ... She just turned 7, he has seen her ONCE and only because she was at our house one day when he was picking us up for a visit.”

Dang that was mean. My SOs mom picks favorites to, but my kids arent hurting without them in their lives. THey have plenty of love and attention from us and my parents.

Quoting ♥Ashley♥:“ Dang that was mean. My SOs mom picks favorites to, but my kids arent hurting without them in their lives. THey have plenty of love and attention from us and my parents.”

Yeah, I"m not too concerned either, I was just excited about my baby haveing grandparents, because all of mine had died before I was 7. 2 of them died before I was born. She also has great-grandparents. On one side there is absolutley NO contact whatsever with any part of the family, and th eother side is crazy. His mom's mom is losing, it (she is nice though) and his mom's dad is a creepy jerk who hit on me when I was 17! His step-grandmother is a word I don't use. I really dislike her. When I called her to get her address to send her an invitation to the baby shower, she told me "Well, I WON'T be coming."

Quoting ♥Ashley♥:“ And why are we always the ones who should bring them around? My SOs family acts like if we dont bring ... [snip!] ... like if we dont bring them over they just cant see them. We did have our own place for a year and they NEVER once came over.”

It's stupid I spent years trying to improve their relationship with Bianca but I haven't even attempted in 2 years and neither have they and I have so much less drama in my life. It's Great.