My darling boyfriend =|

Let me preface this with a disclaimer: I'm not complaining about my responsibilities as a mother, and I do not regret my decision to have my daughter. She's the best thing to ever happen to my life. With that said...

Sometimes when I see my boyfriend passed out at night, I wonder what it's like to fall asleep without turning the monitor on because you know someone else will have to hear her get up. Or what it's like to fall asleep without knowing if her bottles have at least been rinsed out and maybe even made for the next day. I wonder if he worries at all about whether or not he should've ran out to get diapers or wipes and whether or not she'll have enough for the next day (he wouldn't know, he doesn't change her.) He doesn't know if tonight was her bath night, it doesn't matter if he falls asleep and wakes up to a messy kitchen, or if her toys are put away, or if the laundry was changed out to the dryer. And if clothes were cleaned, dried, and folded on the bed, who cares if he swipes them onto the floor instead of putting them away because he's tired and he wants to go to bed this second as opposed to in 5 minutes after he manages to get them into a closet/dresser.

I know he works hard and he has a lot to handle while in training for this new job (20% of guys drop out of the 3 month training line school within the first 2 weeks because of how hard it is and he only has 2 more weeks left). But for that reason I don't ask him for anything. But when I do ask him for something trivial, it's too much to handle. I can only imagine how hard his day is, but he doesn't even recognize that my day NEVER ends. I just don't feel appreciated.

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i know where you're coming from.

my favorite is when he uses the excuse that he needs some time for himself to go out every once in a while and have a few beers. What about me? You think I can just go out when I need a break? What about at least inviting me so we both get some time out from Babyville? Nope, I guess we mom's get plenty of downtime. 

Reading this was crazy. I swear you must read my thoughts cause this is exactly what i think everyday.

I think the majority of mothers live in the same world. My SO is the same way and I think the same things you wrote, every single day!

I feel the same way. Every MINUTE of the day!

Quoting Evan's Ma *:“ i know where you're coming from. my favorite is when he uses the excuse that he needs some time for ... [snip!] ... about at least inviting me so we both get some time out from Babyville? Nope, I guess we mom's get plenty of downtime. ”

I'm sorry, mama. Sometimes I notice that if I try to bring something to my boyfriend's attention while I'm already upset, the conversation usually turns sour because I come off like I'm attacking him. Could you sit your SO down and talk to him about what you need, or have you already done that and he just isn't listening?

I hear you, Momma... my hubby will even fall asleep before the baby does, and it's a giant PITA to get him off the couch once he's asleep.. and that's assuming I can get the baby to bed.

you're not alone with those thoughts!

Quoting Lillian's Mama {BFB} HHM:“ I hear you, Momma... my hubby will even fall asleep before the baby does, and it's a giant PITA to get ... [snip!] ... him off the couch once he's asleep.. and that's assuming I can get the baby to bed. you're not alone with those thoughts!”

I thought I banged enough dishes while washing them to wake his ass off the couch last night, but no   I woke him up 5 times (not an exaggeration) to tell him to go to bed. Sometimes I feel like I have two kids.

Quoting rian :] [go phils!]:“ I thought I banged enough dishes while washing them to wake his ass off the couch last night, but no ... [snip!] ... night, but no   I woke him up 5 times (not an exaggeration) to tell him to go to bed. Sometimes I feel like I have two kids.”

When my SO does that and wont wake up I leave his ass there!!! he now knows after a few nights on the couch that I am not playing he gets 2 chances and thats it. But on the rest of the stuff I cant tell you the last time I went anywhere by myself or the last time I changed a diaper. I think all women feel this way

Quoting Blessed Twice:“ When my SO does that and wont wake up I leave his ass there!!! he now knows after a few nights on the ... [snip!] ... I cant tell you the last time I went anywhere by myself or the last time I changed a diaper. I think all women feel this way”

I mean the last time HE changed a diaper

Quoting rian :] [go phils!]:“ I thought I banged enough dishes while washing them to wake his ass off the couch last night, but no ... [snip!] ... night, but no   I woke him up 5 times (not an exaggeration) to tell him to go to bed. Sometimes I feel like I have two kids.”

omg yeah.. i end up having to yell at him, and he gets all kinds of bitchy and yells back. but if i leave him there, i sleep badly and so does he, so we're even pissier the next day. he tells me he doesn't want to sleep on the couch and that he wants me to harrass him if needed to get up, but god it's annoying!

"yeah, I'm going." eyes aren't even open.

and diapers? HA! if he does change one, he'll put the new one on backwards, or hardly get it on so it leaks or falls off. makes more work for me, having to change the sheets and wash everything, y'know? "she fights me" no shit.. she fights diaper changesallll day long, but i can get 'em on!

I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband is a big help with our son. What he is not the best help with is cleaning the house. But I really should give him a break because I see it could be so much worse. But then again, he is OUR Son--not mine. And it is OUR house, not mine.

I'm sorry you feel unappreciated. I think all moms feel the same way at some point and time and some more than others. Maybe things will change for the better after he is done with training. If not, I hope you can have a heart to heart with him and get some help and some appreciation.

I hear ya!
But, it's hard for me to complain as my hubby is super helpful much of the time. But, i will complain - he gets to read and enjoy a meal. If I dont keep her occupied she finds daddy and then he freaks out that she is pulling at the newspaper and/or his plate. he really has no idea what it would be like if he was the primary.

Quoting rian :] [go phils!]:“ Let me preface this with a disclaimer: I'm not complaining about my responsibilities as a mother, and ... [snip!] ... imagine how hard his day is, but he doesn't even recognize that my day NEVER ends. I just don't feel appreciated. end vent  ”

Amen...totallly

I wonder that as well, and then when I tell him he needs this or that he gives me the shock look like what really? As if he will never run out of diapers and wipes   We also get into the fights b/c I come off as bitchy when I ask him for help, and the conversation ends in I don't do anything around the house, and for me to leave HIS room he pays all the bills so its his place, his bed, his room, his kitchen, his EVERYTHING and all i'm there for is his money   and all I do is use him. For what I don't know? I never ask for anything! my MOM is still the one buying me clothes, pads, tampons, shampoo, soap, razors, anything and pretty much everything I need. I should ask him tonight if he ever wonders that before going to bed.