How old was your preemie when you tried for another baby?

I just had my second son at 34wks and 1 day on September 17, 2009. My husband and I have been discussing when we want to try for another child. We know were going to wait atleast 3 or 4 months. When did you try for another child?

Quoting Blessed with 2 boys!:“ I just had my second son at 34wks and 1 day on September 17, 2009. My husband and I have been discussing ... [snip!] ... when we want to try for another child. We know were going to wait atleast 3 or 4 months. When did you try for another child?”

ask your doctor, for your body to completely heal and be ready for another pregnancy is 18 months.

I'd consider waiting MUCH longer since you had a premie and your uterus is still weak from birth.

I was told that it all depends on the reason why you had a preemie from my ob. In my case it was twins and I was told to let my body take care of itself before putting it throughpregnancy again. However, it is always up to you and when you guys feel ready.

Quoting Blessed with 2 boys!:“ I just had my second son at 34wks and 1 day on September 17, 2009. My husband and I have been discussing ... [snip!] ... when we want to try for another child. We know were going to wait atleast 3 or 4 months. When did you try for another child?”

My daughter was 16 months when we began ttc. It took about 15-16 months the first time around so we assumed it would take some time.
BFP on the first cycle  

See thats where it starts to get hectic. My hubby is in the army and is set to deploy in July for a year. Our first 2 boys are 2years apart and we wanted them to be alittle closer in age..

we spaced them out so my first would at least be potty trained when the new baby arrives. first baby was born at 31 weeks 3 yrs ago.

Quoting Colleen13:“ My daughter was 16 months when we began ttc. It took about 15-16 months the first time around so we assumed it would take some time. BFP on the first cycle  ”

My hubby and I have been very blessed and have had know trouble getting pregnant. The past 2 pregnancy's were conceived within the first month of trying.

Quoting LovingHappyHome:“ I was told that it all depends on the reason why you had a preemie from my ob. In my case it was twins ... [snip!] ... take care of itself before putting it throughpregnancy again. However, it is always up to you and when you guys feel ready.”

I had a high leak in my water bag. Which is how I went into labor with my first child as well.

If you want another baby right away, why not start trying now. Unless your doc tells you to wait, there is no reason to. My girls are only 13 months apart. It is hard to have a newborn and a toddler but I love it. I wouldnt change a thing. Good luck.  

I got pregnant with my second when my 28 weeker was 17 months. I had another preemie.

Quoting MP's Wife:“ If you want another baby right away, why not start trying now. Unless your doc tells you to wait, there ... [snip!] ... are only 13 months apart. It is hard to have a newborn and a toddler but I love it. I wouldnt change a thing. Good luck.  ”

 

That's pretty irresponsible to suggest when shes only like5 weeks pp after a preemie.

OP My health was declining and our preemie was very sick, so we started having unprotected sex when he was 4 months old in the hopes of conceiving whilst i could still successfully carry a pregnancy. It was probaby irresponsible, but I have fertilty problems and wasn't ovulating so i knew it would be a while before we conceived. It wasn't until they confirmed our preemie had heart failure that i got desperate to get pregnant again and we started treatments to conceive - i was 9 months PP at this point. I made ALOT of effort to stay healthy whilst TTC and in the pregnancy (e.g. lifestyle and diet changes, supplements etc etc).

In the end we conceived when i was 13 months PP. The pregnancy was ok, i only had one bout of pre term labour at 19 weeks. My pelvis started to come apart at 13 weeks though, and by 28 weeks i was in wheelchair. This was totally unexpected. I made it right to 38 weeks though and had a healthy homebirth 

When you've had problems with your waters leaking twice, and a preemie - you had to consider that you might be put on bedrest. Bedrest with a toddler is not easy. You'd have to make plans to ensure you had enough support to avoid having another preemie.

IMO if you don't have a major reason for having to conceive soon, i would wait for the recommended 12-18 months in order to give your body the best chance to heal and support another pregnancy.

Quoting Mama on bedrest:“   That's pretty irresponsible to suggest when shes only like5 weeks pp after a preemie. ... [snip!] ... i would wait for the recommended 12-18 months in order to give your body the best chance to heal and support another pregnancy.”

I don't think it is irresponsible. I was in the hospital the last week of my pregnancy with a one year old at home. If you have a good support system then there should be no problems. She is an adult and can make her own decisions. As am I. My newborn was a welcomed suprise. And I wouldn't change a thing about getting pregnant right away. Now my girls can grow up close. I am the middle of three and we are all within a year of each other and we are all close, my mom also says she wouldn't change a thing either.

Quoting MP's Wife:“ I don't think it is irresponsible. I was in the hospital the last week of my pregnancy with a one year ... [snip!] ... of three and we are all within a year of each other and we are all close, my mom also says she wouldn't change a thing either.”

It's not about you though, it's about the kids and THEIR needs, not yours. At 5 weeks pp your body is not in a good state to further support a new pregnancy. It takesa lot longer than that to build up your nutritional stores and medics recommend waiting for a reason, let alone after a preemie.

You are more likely to have another preemie with previous recurrent problems, so to tell someone to TTC a few weeks after giving birth to a preemie doesn't take either childrens needs into account. Also, 'ok' is not enough for some people, they actually like to provide to the best of their ability so their kids can meet their full potential.

You're right, of course the OP will make her own decision, but she is looking for some informed experience. I didn't see how premature your first child was?
I might add, that whilst some wait a long time after their preemie out of fear or just choice.... some women rush into another pregnancy due to all the emotions you experience after having a pregnancy cut short without your control, it's normal to crave being pregnant again.

Quoting MP's Wife:“ I don't think it is irresponsible. I was in the hospital the last week of my pregnancy with a one year ... [snip!] ... of three and we are all within a year of each other and we are all close, my mom also says she wouldn't change a thing either.”

We aren't talking about surprise babies or how close we want our kids though. We're talking about planning another child after a premature birth. There are women who have full term deliveries and then have problems with their second pregnancies only because of the close proximity of their children's births. Being 'adult' has nothing to do with it. Nor does a support system. Those things will help get you through, but why would you want to 'get through' another preemie at all? It seems way smarter to instead do what you can do to prevent one in the first place. A week is nothing. Try spending several weeks....months in the NICU with a preemie while your older child has no idea why you're suddenly gone.

My two girls are 8 months apart because the secondis an extream preemie, and I most def do not recommend planning a baby so soon. Nothing to do with being physically not ready, but more so mentally.