was the second child scarrier then the first?

just wondering what everyones opinions are. i think i'd be more generally afraid of the second baby financially but more at ease with what i am doing i guess. i didn't have many fears having my first.i just had a dream i was pregnant again the other night and was terrified,lol.

Quoting Kris55:“ just wondering what everyones opinions are. i think i'd be more generally afraid of the second baby financially ... [snip!] ... guess. i didn't have many fears having my first.i just had a dream i was pregnant again the other night and was terrified,lol.”

I would be scared financially but also i would be scared that my son would feel left out. I might want another child someday but right now, i feel like my family is complete. I would bescared if i got pregnant again.

Well, my second one isn't here yet, but some of my main concerns are that I don't want my daughter to feel that she is being replaced in any way, or that I somehow love her less, or that she doesn't get enough attention etc etc. I worry how she will react to a new sibling, so we'll see what happens.

I'm not really fearful financially because I know we'll make do. I'm more worried about how my son will react and how he'll feel about it. Especially in the beginning, when she'll be taking up so much of my time. He is a total mama's boy and I'll admit, I dote on him constantly. I just hope it doesn't affect him adversely or hurt his feelings.

One irrational fear I have is that I won't love her as much as I love her brother. Stupid, I know, but I love my son SO much that I just can't imagine loving another person that much. But I just try to tell myself I'll fall as madly in love with her when I see her as I did with my son.

aww mamacj im sure that will change once your new baby is here and as your due date draws near.

Thats why i think spacing kids like 3-4 years apart is nice because the other can be in kindergarden half the day itleast while you take care of the other one and bond a little. Although some places are introducing full day kindergarden to which i still don't agree with too much. i don't know how you girls have babies so close togethor.

Quoting mamacj:“ I'm not really fearful financially because I know we'll make do. I'm more worried about how my son will ... [snip!] ... person that much. But I just try to tell myself I'll fall as madly in love with her when I see her as I did with my son.”

I have this same fear!!! I hate to admit it, it sounds crazy but I am so in love with my daughter she has been my absolute everything for her two whole years of life, it is hard to imagine somehow sharing that love with another being!

Quoting Kris55:“ aww mamacj im sure that will change once your new baby is here and as your due date draws near. Thats ... [snip!] ... full day kindergarden to which i still don't agree with too much. i don't know how you girls have babies so close togethor.”

Thanks for the reassurance. I know logically that it will happen that way, but of course, I still worry that it won't!

This one was not planned at all, so that's how I can have them so close together lol. We were planning on waiting another year, so that my son would be about 3 when the next was born and we could explain it a little better to him. It took me a long while to get excited about this pregnancy because of that, but now I'm glad they'll be so close together.