I didnt see this coming :(

I just found out about an hour ago that my cousins husband passed away yesterday I dont even know what to say I'm in shock I dont know how to even take this I'm shacking I'm so upset. I dont know what my cousin is going to do they have 4 small kids the twins just turned 1 in June. I dont know how she is going to get through this he was everything to her he was so good to her and the kids. I'm trying not to get myself too stressed over this, but its very hard. He has been sick since last week had double pneumonia he was on life support for a while. I'm so sick right now. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

I'm SOOO sorry girl...all you can do it try to be there for her its a hard thing. I hope everything falls into place for your family at this time. I'll keep you in my prayers and if you ever need to chat you can PM me

I'm so sorry hon! She's going to need your shoulders and hands for this,to cry on and to help her if you can,with the kids.

Quoting hoping to be a 2010 mommy:“ I'm SOOO sorry girl...all you can do it try to be there for her its a hard thing. I hope everything falls ... [snip!] ... falls into place for your family at this time. I'll keep you in my prayers and if you ever need to chat you can PM me”

Thanks so much it really means alot. I'm just in shock I just cant come to terms with the fact that he is really gone. I dont see how I will make it through the funeral.. It seems like we have lost so many people in the past 3 years it just shows me that you never know when you are going to lose the people you love the most its a very scary thought sometimes. Something weird about this is when I was pregnant with Caleb just before I found out my uncle died he was like my other dad it was the worst thing I have been through and now again just finding out Im pregnant and lost someone, someone else that wont get to see my baby when its born someone who I know would have just loved it so much.. This is so hard...

Quoting britt_britt:“ Thanks so much it really means alot. I'm just in shock I just cant come to terms with the fact that ... [snip!] ... else that wont get to see my baby when its born someone who I know would have just loved it so much.. This is so hard...”

death is so hard...i wish no one would have to go through it. a few weeks ago i lost a friend fm high school in a car accident right down the street from me. he was so young and it just hits you and you odnt know what to think. Then when i was 11 i lost my little sister. Its just so so hard and people can say sorry all they want and sometimes that helps but all you can really do is be there and know for YOU, you have the baby gaga ladies here to help you through this and maybe give some good advice to help you her her through it

Quoting hoping to be a 2010 mommy:“ death is so hard...i wish no one would have to go through it. a few weeks ago i lost a friend fm high ... [snip!] ... YOU, you have the baby gaga ladies here to help you through this and maybe give some good advice to help you her her through it”

I'm sorry to hear about that   its so hard I know with time it gets better I just hope that I can help her through this I just hope that the kids do okay through all of this I know this is going to be hard on their 2 oldest they loved their daddy more than anything in this world! I'm going to have a hard time getting through the funeral I dont want to upset her more than she already is and I feel like if I cry in front of her it will make it harder on her. I honestly dont know what to say to her. Gosh we never seen this coming. I have to stop stressing I dont want to get too stressed and end up in the er but I cant get it off my mind.

Quoting britt_britt:“ I'm sorry to hear about that   its so hard I know with time it gets better I just hope that I can help ... [snip!] ... seen this coming. I have to stop stressing I dont want to get too stressed and end up in the er but I cant get it off my mind.”

just take deep breaths maybe sit and read or something i know its hard to get your mind off it but its not good to get your self worked up. and ya know if you need to cry...cry just at the funeral if you sit next to her put you arm around her and hold her she might not get super sad to see you cry in a way she might be comforted knowing she has you and family around her to support her

Quoting hoping to be a 2010 mommy:“ just take deep breaths maybe sit and read or something i know its hard to get your mind off it but its ... [snip!] ... might not get super sad to see you cry in a way she might be comforted knowing she has you and family around her to support her”

Thanks I will do that. dh is pulling up (just now getting off work) I'm going to talk to him and hopefully he can help me take this off of my mind. Thanks so much for talking me through this I feel a bit better!!

Quoting britt_britt:“ Thanks I will do that. dh is pulling up (just now getting off work) I'm going to talk to him and hopefully ... [snip!] ... to him and hopefully he can help me take this off of my mind. Thanks so much for talking me through this I feel a bit better!!”

good luck girl and take it easy...your pregger's i know its so hard but try not to get too worked up I'm here for ya

I'm sooo sorry to hear this. Lots of positive thoughts for you and your cousin and family. I know how hard it is, losing family. Just breathe deep and try to stay calm as difficult as that is   *hugs*

awee sweetie i am so sorry!i am here if u need to talk.i know nutten i say will make it better.but i dont mind listening.brandi

Thank you ladies so much I just found out about an hour ago that he also had swine flu they are saying thats what killed him. I'm better at the moment my cousin is doing better than I thought she would be my sister saw her today.