re: military spouses vs non-military spouses -

Quoting Maranda {JMM}:“ I would miss my husband no matter how long he was gone. It doesn't mean you miss your SO more than them it just means you miss him longer.”

That makes so much sense.

there is a huge difference though..one spouse is in danger the other isnt.. all im sying is that it gets frustrationg to hear SOME girls say that a weekend getaway is just as hard

Quoting BG ♥ Chick™[ßN§]:“ ive never said that nor have i heard any of my military wife friends say that women that say that are just looking for sympathy and probably a reason to cheat on their deployed husband”

oh ive seen that the "silent ranks" the hardest job in the military crap.

Quoting Fierce Mama *TNTC*FSB:“ lol its the ones with the bumper stickers, I really wanna tell them "really being a wife is soooooo hard?"”

Sometimes it is, though.
I know my husband's got shit right now, and it sucks. But I'm raising my two kids, holding up the fort, and I don't want to complain to my husband when I've had a bad day because I want to be there to support HIM in the hard times he's having.
It gets to be a lot.

military wife missing their husband, non military wife missing their husband.. either way it's the same thing. neither situation is worse than the other. it sucks no matter what.

Quoting mrsgriff:“ there is a huge difference though..one spouse is in danger the other isnt.. all im sying is that it gets frustrationg to hear SOME girls say that a weekend getaway is just as hard”

You know what?
I can see how that can be frustrating. When my SO is gone for 6 or 7 months at a time, and I hear women say their husband is too clingy, or wants to hang out too much, or he has to work late tonight, I think to myself " gee, you really don't know how lucky you are".

But you have to remember, every situation is different. And it doesn't make them less entitled. We just learn to never take a single second for granted.

Quoting I ♥ my COP||MP:“ oh ive seen that the "silent ranks" the hardest job in the military crap.”

 

it isn't.

Quoting Miss Erica.:“ You know what? I can see how that can be frustrating. When my SO is gone for 6 or 7 months at a ... [snip!] ... every situation is different. And it doesn't make them less entitled. We just learn to never take a single second for granted.”

I agree.

Quoting I ♥ my COP||MP:“ everyone has the right to miss their spouse, whether it's a deployment or not. you as a military spouse should understand that. you dont have any more right than them.”

  
and I dont think they are complaining when anyone says they miss there loved ones, I think they truly miss them and are expressing that.

Quoting Maeby♥:“ I hate the "he signed up" argument. Even though I use it on myself to make myself seem less of a pussy ... [snip!] ... into" line constantly, but that's just how it is. You don't understand what it's like to be a military wife til you are one.”

ireally onlythink it's hard if you make it hard...

Quoting Miss Erica.:“ That makes so much sense.”

thanks! (I hope that wasn't sarcasm because I didn't catch it) lol 

Quoting mrsgriff:“ there is a huge difference though..one spouse is in danger the other isnt.. all im sying is that it gets frustrationg to hear SOME girls say that a weekend getaway is just as hard”

your spouse can be in danger any where they are. whether its being deployed into a war or just walking down the street. nobody is ever really 'safe'. anything can happen to anyone at any time....it doesnt only choose the ones who are in the military.

Im just gonna throw this one out there-Speaking from an army wife point of view---Its not about missing out husbands for us....its about worrying weather or not Im going to get a knock on my door from a man in uniform telling me my husband was KIA.

And no, that doesnt give us the right to "miss him" more. But, just knowing that every single day their life is in danger doesnt make it easier either. I assume being the wife of a police officer, or fireman, etc would be similar.

Quoting Fierce Mama *TNTC*FSB:“ lol its the ones with the bumper stickers, I really wanna tell them "really being a wife is soooooo hard?"”

 
or stupid icons people have on their myspace.

NOW: i will make a point that people should give a little lenience on military spouses when venting about things like this. we all get frustrated when we see civillian people say they miss their SO when we havent heard from ours in a while and are worried. it's okay to get upset and vent. but it's not okay to steal someone's grief.