What would you do?

One of my very close friends called me for some advice this morning. She lost her little girl (Mya) at one week old on May 1st of this year. She just realized that Mya was not buried in between her and her husband's plots. So Mya is on the end on the three plots instead of in the middle. She wants to move her so that she'll be between her mommy and daddy. Well her husband says it's morbid and something's mentally wrong with her and that he will have no part of it. I understand how she feels wanting her baby in the middle. And everything was happening so fast when Mya died (Mya was a triplet so her brother and sister were also fighting for their lives at that time) that I could also understand my friend not realizing the exact plot she was being buried in. She said everytime she goes to visit her grave she thinks about it. So, I came here to see what you mama's would do. Would you move her?

Hmm, that's really tough. I think if I were here I'd leave her...but I'd hate to have something like that nagging at me for the rest of my life...I think it's a hard thing to voice and opinion on when you aren't in the sitation.

I would move her if I was in that position. I understand where the hubby's coming from too I'm sure he's hurting right now as well and probably just doesn't want to think about it but he'll probably be thankful later on if she has her moved. So sorry for your friend.

I probably wouldn't. Only because I think when you're laid to rest, you shouldn't be moved again. It's kinda like bad juju.

Could she move one of the parents plots instead maybe?

Quoting .CharlotteAmber.:“ Could she move one of the parents plots instead maybe?”

No someone has the plot on the other side of Mya.

i understand where she's coming from but i don't think i'd move her. i think it'd be too hard, almost like you'd have to go thru the whole grieving process again.

i think if it bothers her that badly then she should have her moved when one of them die. leave her where she is for the time being but then when they are disturbing the area around her anyway when one of them die they can just go ahead and slide her over to the middle so there would be no more mistakes.

Quoting one of each 4 me:“ i think if it bothers her that badly then she should have her moved when one of them die. leave her where ... [snip!] ... her anyway when one of them die they can just go ahead and slide her over to the middle so there would be no more mistakes.”

I never thought of that! Good idea.

Ok Kelly call me dumb..but, are you saying there is actually an empty space between Darren and Jill? If so, how did that happen? Or is she wanting to make room there?
The poster that said to wait till one dies, I think that was an idea, but then it would defeat the purpose all together. It would nag at Jill still, maybe for years and years before one of them die. If it were me, and I really wanted to move Tre'...I'd do it. I don't think I'd start the greiving process all over. I've already been through that process and came to accept his death. Jill is in a different stage of course b/c Mya not long ago died. I think for her, it would help her move through the process quicker if she were at peace at where Mya is laid to rest. Just my opinion. Let Darren think she's crazy..it's different for a mother than a father anyway.

Quoting Ryan&Mylah'sMom:“ Ok Kelly call me dumb..but, are you saying there is actually an empty space between Darren and Jill? ... [snip!] ... at where Mya is laid to rest. Just my opinion. Let Darren think she's crazy..it's different for a mother than a father anyway.”

No not an empty space btween them...it's Darren, Jill then Mya. She wants it Darren Mya Jill. She doesn't want Mya on the end, she wants her in the middle so she would have to move her over one plot. And I said the exact same thing about it being diffrent for a mother than a father and to let him call her crazy. I told her she wasn't crazy at all.

Quoting KellyKelly:“ One of my very close friends called me for some advice this morning. She lost her little girl (Mya) at ... [snip!] ... everytime she goes to visit her grave she thinks about it. So, I came here to see what you mama's would do. Would you move her?”

i dont think she should move the baby because it would cost alot of money and then she would feel really bad cause she would have to go threw the berrrial and everything else i wanted to move my son if i was to move but i got to thinkin no he is resting and its not rite to move them i think she should leave her child where she is unless they can try to talk to someone and see if the mother or father plot could be moved but i wouldnt move the baby i would talk to someone and see if they would like to switch places wit the mother or father..

Thanks for all your input Mamas

your welcome

I would move her. I wouldnt want to be thinking about it all the time and would want to set my mind at peace. If we ever get enough money, I want to buy my husband and I plots and move our daughter by us if we can.