re: Women who have had Abortions.

Quoting MandyLoo:“ So my biggest fear is confirmed, i am in fact pregnant. I haven't told my fiance yet, because i'm ... [snip!] ... scared and i really could use some help/answers, please if you have something negative to say, i can't handle it right now.”

Well there is a pill and a surgery. I dont know if it hurts or not. I was told that it does. I am pregnant right now and I am 7 weeks and 4 days. I would love to keep it but my b/f and I are broke and we could not afford it. I have to go to plan parenthood tomorrow morning to take the pill. I really really really dont want to. I cry everyday about it. Anyways through plan parenthood you go in and take a pregnancy test that is $15 for urine and then you set up an appointment to go back in and talk about your options and to have a sonogram you may or may not have to give blood it is up to you I think I am a little confused on that part. But for the sonogram it is $150 and blood work is $90 and then for the pill or the surgery its $300. So yeah it is a lot of money but not as much as have a baby. I have to go through this all on my own I really dont want to but my man has to work. If you want you can write me on here and I will write you back telling you exactly what happened and how it felt. I really feel what you are going through. If you need to talk I am here for you. I know how it feels to be alone when this is going on. I have been alone the hole time. Good luck my I hope you can do what you want.

Quoting Hilary86:“ Well there is a pill and a surgery. I dont know if it hurts or not. I was told that it does. I am pregnant ... [snip!] ... how it feels to be alone when this is going on. I have been alone the hole time. Good luck my I hope you can do what you want.”

I would like to know what happened if you don't mind.

Mmm this thread was posted kinda a while ago, but I'll still answer based on my experience. I had my abortion May 27th. I was just under 12wks (11w 6days, I didn't know until I had read the stuff afterwards.. my calculations were off) .

Does it hurt ? For me.. not at all. I felt slight discomfort, and it felt like minor cramping (I've had much worse during a period!). It wasn't a good feeling, a little gross. It was like they stuck a vaccuum in me and sucked it out. Not a great explanation, but it's how I felt.

Emotionally? I'm fine. Never a day have I regretted it. I was in a horrible situation with a horrible guy. It wasn't safe for me, and wouldn't have been safe for the baby either. (bad enough, my son witnessed alot .. which I feel extremely guilty about) It was a decision I came upon, and it was the right one for me.

Cost? Under 12wks it was $500, after that it was I believe like $650. There is also an organizationthat can help you pay for part of it if you cannot come up with the full amount. I forget the name, you call an 800number and give them your info, and the date of appointment and they send them a partial payment. For me they paid $275. It helped a ton, without them I would have went to extreme measures to either come up with money or abort. (I tried to miscarry, moving myself out of my ex's apartment.. carrying all mine & my son's things.)

Anyways.. If you have any questions or just want to talk feel free to message me. <3

good luck girlie

Quoting MandyLoo:“ So my biggest fear is confirmed, i am in fact pregnant. I haven't told my fiance yet, because i'm ... [snip!] ... scared and i really could use some help/answers, please if you have something negative to say, i can't handle it right now.”

Read about it i have a posting........

I hope this can be of some help for you. When my daughter was 6 months old, I got pregnant a second time. I was in the worst position I can remember in my life. No car, unsteady jobs, and bad relationships. My family helped me decide that abortion would be the best answer for my situation. I had the procedure done at 8 1/2 weeks. It was a surgical thing, not any more painful than cramps or even comparable to labor. Sometimes I think about who 'the baby' would have been and how our lives would have been different. I definitely do not regret my decision though. I have been able to go back to school, really give my daughter (now 2) the care she needed when she was so little. Now I am happily married, and on my third pregnancy. We are happy to be in a position to add another member to our family, and we know we are ready for it. I know you will find in your heart the best decision for your little family. Best of luck to you.

You should talk to him first! If you are low income you may qualify for insurance through your county (like welfare), Get on birth control and be responsible about safe sex(in the future)if you know you cant afford another child!! He should be in involved in any decision you make! it's better to get advice from loved ones than strangers online, we dont know what you can handle but a fried may see you are strong enough to handle the responsibility.. GOOD LUCK

i had one years ago i was 17 going on 18 it was the hardest thing i had to do ....i wanted to keep it but my mother was really against it ...and my bf at the time left me when he heard i was prego i loved that man and he said if i had an abortion he would stay with me ....so i did ....he left anyway and as i was going tho the surgury i wanted to change my mind and they told me that it was to late....it was not painful at all i had the surgury ....but the regret is unreal for me ...till this day i wonder to my self what would the baby look like ...was it a girl or a boy ....just stuff like that ...but i have two beautiful kids now and one on the way .....and they way i look at it know is ..i would not have these beautiful kids i have know if i didi not make that decision i made way back when i kknow i should not look at it like that but it helps me to forgive myself ....but good luck to you and make sure you are 100% sure that is what you want to do cause you do not want that regret cause once it is down you cant turn back. ......Good luck hun xoxox