My brother's girlfriend

She's 20 years old and they have been dating for close to 6 months. Well she likes to dress VERY provacitively around me and my family. I don't judge what people wear but when she comes to my house wearing a shirt that looks like if she sneezes she'll poke me in the eye with her nipple then yeah that makes me uncomfortable. Most shirts show her areola's! Plus she wears bra's that are way too small fr her and don't cover her breast the way it should...she has a muffin top going on. Any way, I've taken her into another room and asked her politely if she could cover up because it kinda offends my husband and I. It's pretty bad when a man comes to you saying he is disgusted by what she is wearing. The problem is she just doesn't listen and wears skimpier clothes. Was I wrong for asking her to cover up a bit? Not only that my 20 month old can't stop staring at her chest and tries to grab her breasts and she thinks it's funny. I know he doesnt know what he is doing but I don't want him to accidently expose her more. I don't wanna see her twins. I'm not trying to tell her what to do but her choice of clothes shocks me. I don't know whether to give her a glass of soda or a g-string full on dollar bills. Should I approach her again and if so how should I talk to her? I don't want to offend her. I just want a little respect while she is a guest in my home. She's a real nice girl and I like her alot so I don't want to hurt her feelings.

If you're gonna critisize me then please don't leave a post. I have a serious problem. Iam not trying to tell her how to dress. I just don't know how to approach this since the first 2 or 3 attempts didnt work. And yes she does have clothes that are flattering but still cover up because I gave her 2 garbage bags full of my old clothes. I didn't give her my clothes so she could cover up but because I can't wear them any more and wanted them out of my house for the extra room.


Thanks ladies!

Ask her again. You have the right to say "no to nips" in your home, you have a kid there.

I'd take her aside and tell her that she won't be welcome at your home anymore if she can't be respectful enough to wear something that doesn't make others uncomfortable.

Have you asked your brother to talk to her? He has to know its not ok for her tro dress like that especially in front of young children.

It's your house and your rules, if she doesn't like them then that's her problem.

I think you've valid reasons for asking her to cover up, it's not as if you're out at a bar, it's your house..

If she refuses or does the opposite, talk to your brother about it and explain how much of an issue it is, ask him to reason with her or perhaps they shouldn't visit altogether if no compromise is reached

Quoting Rissa&JuliansMommy:“ Have you asked your brother to talk to her? He has to know its not ok for her tro dress like that especially in front of young children.”

My brother asks her all the tim but she just brushes him off. My husband has even yelled at her to cover up! I just don't know what else to say. I don't wanna tell her what to do I just don't wanna see her breasts.

You say that you aren't telling her how to dress, but you really are. If you don't want her to dress like that at your house, don't invite her over. That way, when you go visit her at your brothers house, you can't complain that your house is being disrespected.

Quoting mom102938:“ My brother asks her all the tim but she just brushes him off. My husband has even yelled at her to ... [snip!] ... at her to cover up! I just don't know what else to say. I don't wanna tell her what to do I just don't wanna see her breasts.”

Well if she cant respect you, your husband, or even her bf then she doesnt need to come around. Tell your brother you dont mind him coming over but she has no respect and isnt welcome.
I hate ppl like that, she is doing it for attention and all the attention she is getting is negative.

Quoting mom102938:“ My brother asks her all the tim but she just brushes him off. My husband has even yelled at her to ... [snip!] ... at her to cover up! I just don't know what else to say. I don't wanna tell her what to do I just don't wanna see her breasts.”

Then don't invite her over anymore.

Quoting Amberchik78:“ You say that you aren't telling her how to dress, but you really are. If you don't want her to dress ... [snip!] ... her over. That way, when you go visit her at your brothers house, you can't complain that your house is being disrespected.”

I guess I'm just shocked a women dresses like this everday and thinks it's ok. She litteraly wears tops like a stripper.
I don't invite her over. My bro lives with us so it is part his decision of who he wants over. I don't go to her house.

EVERYONE has told her how they feel about it, and apparently she thinks that the way she is dressing is cute ... more importantly, she thinks that they way she is acting and disrespecting your family is cute. IMO, you really don't have any reason to give a shit if she is offended at this point. she obviously doesn't care if she offends/disrespects other people, including your brother. what he doesn't see (probably because he's a 20 year old with a penis, of course) is that her blatant disrespect for his family should REALLY tell him something about how little she respects him as a man. she needs to get a grip, or get the boot. just tell her straight out that if she can't respect your family, then she can't come around anymore. your brother can hang out with her somewhere else, but not at your house or around your child.

Quoting mom102938:“ I guess I'm just shocked a women dresses like this everday and thinks it's ok. She litteraly wears tops ... [snip!] ... I don't invite her over. My bro lives with us so it is part his decision of who he wants over. I don't go to her house.”

If she refuses, and you agreed to let him live there, that makes it harder. It's his home too.

Quoting mom102938:“ My brother asks her all the tim but she just brushes him off. My husband has even yelled at her to ... [snip!] ... at her to cover up! I just don't know what else to say. I don't wanna tell her what to do I just don't wanna see her breasts.”

I would not invite her back to my home if she doesnt start respecting your household.

Winter's coming. Don't turn your heat on til November, and give her a sweater when she comes over. But honestly, if she's treating your brother that way, they probably won't last another 6 months.

Quoting Amberchik78:“ Winter's coming. Don't turn your heat on til November, and give her a sweater when she comes over. But honestly, if she's treating your brother that way, they probably won't last another 6 months.”

Thats what I was going to say make it cold so she has to cover up..