what do i do when........guy not ...

So im sure im not the only person that this has happened to but my boyfreind isnt helping me much with our baby girl. being her mom i take care of her thats my job i love it , i love being with her and careing for her. but we all need "me time" even if its for like 5 mins and help at night also would be nice.
what do i do..to get him to help im really stressed out b/c of this. He helps sometimes just not alot. when he is holding her and she starts to fuss b/c she needs something he hands her back or puts her down....and lets her cry its like hello...help her. and hes like well ur here , u can do it. To some i know it sounds like he is being a dick. witch yes ive told him and had fights with him over this. but its not good for us or our baby girl. Some people tell me becuase he is a new dad he might be scared and not know what to do. well i didnt..and i had to learn also and i was scared to death.
what r u guys thoughts on this??? PLEASE BE NICE WHILE COMMENTING ON THIS THANK U. i just need someone to talk to. other then family and have an out side view

My sons dad took off to texas the day I was released from the hospital from my c-section. I feel you mama. He has changed a total of 8 diapers between my two boys in the 5 months my newest was born. Guys just dont realize how you need "me time" when it isn't much of an option anymore.

ah man im sorry to hear that.

Quoting Blakely(Alexis's Mama):“ ah man im sorry to hear that.”

Its all good. He gets butthurt because when he holds my 5 month old he cries, and my 3 year old comes to me and only me when he is hurting.(He just got out of his cast of 18 weeks from hip surgery) I told him to spend more time with them so they can bond and at least tolerate him. lol I hope things get better for you. I think guys are generally more involved when kids can play with them more.

yeah thats what i try telling him , she needs to get to know u. she needs to know ur voice , needs to know u can clam her down and such. i think that also once they can play and talk and they can have fun with them then they will take care of them cuz then its fun for them and Not so much work. but it gets old when u are trying so hard and ur a new mom and hes just sitting back like lalalala oh ....u can do it , its like hello any one home haha.
thanks tho for talking it helps alot!!!

No problem. Geeze its midnight. I think its bedtime. lol

g-nite!!!!

Quoting ♥ Out-numbered:“ My sons dad took off to texas the day I was released from the hospital from my c-section. I feel you ... [snip!] ... boys in the 5 months my newest was born. Guys just dont realize how you need "me time" when it isn't much of an option anymore.”

my babys father has changed 2 nappies in the 11 months shes been here.....!
and  he thinks hes a good dad  

My SO used to be so wonderful with the baby. He gave me "days off" all the time, he got up with him every other time at night, he put him to sleep at night, he changed diapers... now, nothing. We were at a BBQ at my best friends house and I asked him to change Logan's diaper - it wasn't even poopy - and he got pissed. When he walked away, everyone was like "Whoa, he's mad because he has to change a diaper?! What a bitch." He hasn't gotten up at night in 6 months, he's gotten up in the morning with him maybe a total of 6 times in the last 6 months... ugh. He thinks that because he plays with Logan a little, he's a great dad. The other night, my SO was awake from 12:30 to 2:30 AM so he got up with the baby; I mean, he was awake anyway so why not? And then, when morning came and I asked him to get up with him, he freaked out "I WAS UP WITH HIM FOR 2 HOURS LAST NIGHT!" Are you kidding me? You're gone all week, I don't see you Monday morning through Friday morning and then you take him for two hours at night and you think that's sufficient? No.

You aren't alone, mama. So many of us have guys like yours and if I could find someone to tell me how to fix it (without telling me to leave him), I'd pay them a million dollars.

thanks guys ! sorry to hear about that. i hope all of them start to get the damn clue