i just recently got an abortion & i really need some advice

PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THING I REALLY NEED ADVICE !

Ok so i found out i was pregnent when i was about 6 weeks pregnant. i told my boyfriend the nxt week & he freaked out he wanted me to get an abortion so bad & all he would say is if i had the baby that we wouldnt be able to be together ! yeaa & mind you that we have been together for 2 years now. everything was fine before this whole baby thing & i guess thats just not what he wanted . so a couple of days later at school since i am a senior in high school i decided to tell our school nurses about it because at my school they know everything & those are 2 people everyone can trust ! she promised me she would never tell but a week later she said that it was against the law if she didnt tell my parents & i cried my eyes out because i knew my parent would kill me if they found out! my mom had me when she was 17years old to & i knew she would understand but i really didnt want to disappoint her ya know ? so basicly the nurse told the counceler witch told me that i had 24 hours to tell my mom but me being me i called them myself & played as my mom which made the story 10 times worst later on in the picture . my mom called me in the living room & told me that the nurse had called her & told her that i was pregnant & all that i had done suprisigly my mom wasnt mad at all she just said that i was way to young to have a baby & blah blah blahh i was 8 weeks at the time & that nxt weekend she scheduled me to get an abortion but that day i refused to go ! all this extra stuff happended & my life just went down the drain ! my parents were mad at me my boyfriend hated me & it seemed like the whole school knew i was pregnant ! yea crazy so every weekend after that my mom scheduled to get me an abortion but the day that i needed to go i would always cry & show my ass & say i didnt want to go. FINALLY after all the bs i was 13 weeks old i was starting to show more & more since i am only 103 lbs & 5'2   my mom said that enough was enough & i had to get an abortion . last sunday at 8am she woke me up & said it was time to leave. i cried my eyes out & was trying to find a way out but this time it just didnt work . she picked up my boyfriend & we were on our way to planned parent hood ! when we got there there was protesters outside yelling to save baby & stuff! yea that was just my luck it made it 10 times harder ! so basicly i got the abortion & now i cnt eat sleep or breath without thinking about that baby ! im so confused & theres nothing in this whole wide world that can make me feel any better ! i feel so empty & miserable i cry every second & i dnt want to get out of bed ! someone plz help may i really need advice, do you think it would be wrong if i got pregnant again?

not gonna lie, i didnt read the entire thing. I skimmed.

If you JUST had an abortion and your boyfriend wasnt ready for that baby, then neither one of you are ready for a child.

Getting pregnant again wont take the problems away it will make them worse. Finish highschool, grieve about your decision and dont bring a baby into this. I'd get some counseling if I were you. It could really help.

If your mom can still "force" you into an abortion, you're in no position to have a child.

Quoting One Day at a Time *OLS*:“ Getting pregnant again wont take the problems away it will make them worse. Finish highschool, grieve ... [snip!] ... grieve about your decision and dont bring a baby into this. I'd get some counseling if I were you. It could really help.”

 

Quoting Nequa:“ PLEASE READ THE WHOLE THING I REALLY NEED ADVICE ! Ok so i found out i was pregnent when i was about ... [snip!] ... dnt want to get out of bed ! someone plz help may i really need advice, do you think it would be wrong if i got pregnant again?”

she cant force you to have a abortion

Quoting kelli.jo(gov't chz ho):“ If your mom can still "force" you into an abortion, you're in no position to have a child.”

I agree. Are you pregnant now? Why does it say a due date?

im sorry your mother forced you to have an abortion, you guys should have considered adoption. You should hold off on having another pregnancy until you are stable, graduated, and your boyfriend wants one as well or else all its going to do is start more problems for you.

Quoting One Day at a Time *OLS*:“ Getting pregnant again wont take the problems away it will make them worse. Finish highschool, grieve ... [snip!] ... grieve about your decision and dont bring a baby into this. I'd get some counseling if I were you. It could really help.”

 

Quoting kelli.jo(gov't chz ho):“ If your mom can still "force" you into an abortion, you're in no position to have a child.”

well said

yes it would be very wrong if you got pregnant again! you really need to heal from this one, mentally and physically!
and you need to be prepared before you think about having a baby
and a different boyfriend if he turned his back on you so easily after two years...

JMO.

im so sorry for your loss, i cant say it will get better any time soon, just talk about it, like to a counselor or a GOOD friend. someone close that can understand

I'm sorry.  
Personally I've never had an abortion.
But I can imagine how you feel.
Just wait until you're older and able to support another life.
You'll always have this baby in your heart, and there it'll always stay.

I wouldn't get pregnant again because you would probably end up in the same situation all over again. On top of the that even if you do get pregnant again you'll always think of your first baby or so I assume. That is awful that you wee forced into having an abortion. I love my Mom and all, but that is the one thing I could never forgive her for doing to me. I think you just need to take some time and grieve for your baby. Hopefully the next time you get pregnant you will be with a MAN who actually loves you and will love your child that you made together. I would also lose any BF that told me we couldn't be together because he KNOCKED YOU UP.

Wow. I didn't know anybody could be forced into having an abortion and at 13 weeks (I thought the latest was 12 weeks).. Didn't anyone at Planned Parenthood ask you what YOU wanted? That's horrible. Either way, I'm so sorry you went through all of this. What was done to you was wrong. At the same time, having another baby is NOT a good idea right now. If you need to grieve, do so but wait until you're older, finished your education, and in a steady (read: married) relationship. Take it from me. I'm a single mom and doing it all alone sucks sometimes. I can't imagine doing it without a career to support me and my son.

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this. Don't purposely get pregnant again; this would not replace the baby that you lost it would only make things worse between you and your parents. Plus do u really want to get pregnant by that same guy he wasn't by your side supporting like he should have been with the baby that you lost. I suggest you speak with a couselor because it seems as though you are going through a lot right now.