i didn't ask for this

i don't know where to put this so i will put it here. this isn't what i wanted this isn't the person i fell in love with. he is mean and messy he is ungrateful and always namecalling i didn't sign up to be a servant i just want to be loved and wanted by him i don't know what to do or how to feel anymore i know me and him fighting is not ideal for our son to grow up listening and thinking its ok i don't think he loves me anymore i think he is unhappy we never have sex anymore and we don't cuddle or hug all we do is fight and argue i don't know what to do or how to make it better. all i want is for him to love me for our relationship to be like before thanks for listening ladies i just needed to vent i feel so alone and sorry about the punctuations im on my phone any advice ladies?

That's sad,I'm so sorry!   have you tried talking to him?

Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve.

Have a heart to heart with him if you care about making this work. A lot of people on BG will encourage you to end it, but that won't solve anything unless you get to the bottom of the problem first. Then you will find out if it is fixable.

I think almost any two people can work out. It just takes time and effort on BOTH parts. Not just one. If you are the only one trying then something needs to change.

Quoting bia.:“ That's sad,I'm so sorry!   have you tried talking to him?”

hey!!   I tryed PM'ing you but it didn't send   IDK why, do you have FB? x

Quoting ~Ashley & Baby Liadan~:“ Don't settle for anything less than what you deserve. Have a heart to heart with him if you care about ... [snip!] ... out. It just takes time and effort on BOTH parts. Not just one. If you are the only one trying then something needs to change.”

i completely agree.

good luck mama. i hope everything works out for yall<3

Quoting Monkey's Momma[SAHM09]:“ i don't know where to put this so i will put it here. this isn't what i wanted this isn't the person ... [snip!] ... for listening ladies i just needed to vent i feel so alone and sorry about the punctuations im on my phone any advice ladies?”

im kinda going thru the same thing right now. i think its not unusual to happen after such a life changing experience with a child. i would suggest to take some "me" time. a little fresh air could never hurt

I don't know if you're actually married, but here's my 2 cents....

Marriage is for better or worse. That means making it work when you'd rather quit. Marriage is never what you think it's going to be. People change. The changes don't have to be the end-all if you're willing to work through it though. If you really truly don't love each other anymore - well then there's no helping that. But ifa tough time in your lives is just hiding that love, you need to brush it off and fight for your relationship. Nothing is ever solved if you don't try. My husband and I have been together 7 years. Sometimes I just have to say hey you know what? This isn't working for me. I'm not happy with the way things are. Then we can look at what the problem is and try to fix it. A mutual desire to sustain the relationship can fix pretty much anything. It deserves your attempt at the very least though. Talk to him. Let him talk to you. Work on a solution. Good luck.

ladies thank you. no we are not married yes i have tried talking to him we both say we will change but the next day he is acting like a jerk some days i feel like we are only together because of our son not good i know :{ ugh i don't know what to say anymore i still love him Alot and i don't want to leave him but im seriously out of ideas on what to say or do i go to school and the guys there compliment me more than my boyfriend does. i don't go to school to meet guys i love my boyfriend and i wish he could see how much this hurts me and how much i love him  

My SO is a verbally abusive piece of shit.

It all started when I became a SAHM. I honestly believe he has the mentality that I am beneath him because I don't earn a paycheck.

Anyways, (there was a point to that, lol). I'm sticking around because I want my son to have a family. I won't stick around forever though. There's only so many times you can give someone the chance to love and respect you.

You know your limits. If ever need to talk feel free to PM me.

Quoting Monkey's Momma[SAHM09]:“ ladies thank you. no we are not married yes i have tried talking to him we both say we will change but ... [snip!] ... i don't go to school to meet guys i love my boyfriend and i wish he could see how much this hurts me and how much i love him  ”

Sometimes the best way to change something is to take some time away. Decide what you want/need/deserve and then take it seriously. Don't cry. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Don't give into him. Tell him things need to change. Tell him that you guys need time apart to decide what you want and what is important. Sometimes tough love is the best love you can give. Whatever you decide, stick with it. I just thought the word 'separate' and my husband straightened up. If he wants to be with you, he'll try to make it work. Remember that he can't change over night though. Give him time and applaud his attempts. Guys are simple, egotistical creatures.

Ive gone threw a little of this mysefl and i would suggest to have a heart to heart with him and if he blows you off then maybe you should take a little time apart from each other hang in there.

Hey momma, IF you would like i can watch Adrian for you whenever you want so you and Edgar can go out or stay home and do whatever and have some time for just the two of you. Maybe it'll help?