Sooo Confused & Torn...

Im a 24 mother of a 5yr. old girl and a 2yr old boy. My last relationship didnt work out wit my son's father, I stayed single for a year an then I met my bf back in january.We've been together for about 9months now. He already has 2 chidren a 5yr old boy and a 6yr old girl from a previous relationship, unfortunately they live with the mother in Ohio. My period did not come this month so I decided to go an buy a pregnancy test. I just took the test this morning and found out that I am indeed pregnant. My financial situation is not looking very good. I barely have support from my childrens father. I barely am able to work because I dont have anyone to watch my children when i work. Im really upset because I wasnt ready for another child sooo soon. I talked with my bf about the new baby an he thinks we can handle it. He says he has 2 jobsa an he's a hard worker and that he will make sure me, the new baby and the rest of our children are going to be fine. Unfortunately I dont agree. I feel that i am way too young to have 3 kids at my age. I have not finished college yet, I only finished two sememsters.Ifeel that I should havemy nextchild when Im more financially stable a few yrs from now when i finish college. I feel that right now is not a good time to have another. So I think im leaning towards abortion, even though i dont believe in it, I feel I dont have any choice. One thing i promised myself after having my son is that i would never depend on a man to take care of me. So this is very tough for me. I have been crying all day long, I would love to have a baby because I love being a mothersooo muchbut I know I really can not afford to keep this baby. Please give me your opinions and be honest. What do you all think i should do??? Thisis very tough for me soo pleasetry to be polite and not harsh. *THANKS*  

~Tiff~

If you don't believe in something, why on earth would you do it?

I hope you done get drama from this post.

but if you dont believe in abortion, maybe adoption would work out for you?

good luck

I feel that i can not have another child soo soon,though i dont really believe in it. I feel that I have no other option besides abortion. Am I wrong for that?

adoption. please dont abort.good luck.

I'm sorry but times seem to be tough for alot of people right now, myself included but when I chose to lie down with my hubby and not protect our selfs we new the risks and now here comes # 4. To me it seems like your just trying to make excuses. Thats just IMO though. Good luck.

Quoting krazybonita85:“ I feel that i can not have another child soo soon,though i dont really believe in it. I feel that I have no other option besides abortion. Am I wrong for that?”

Adoption, family

Quoting krazybonita85:“ I feel that i can not have another child soo soon,though i dont really believe in it. I feel that I have no other option besides abortion. Am I wrong for that?”

If your considering it, than you believe in it. That's my opinion on the matter.
Not trying to be a bitch, but if your adult enough to have sex, knowing the consequences, than your adult enough to take care of the baby YOU made.
I was in your boat, in May of 2008..I already had 2 kids and I didnt want another, wasnt ready, but here I am....with another babygirl.. and I wouldnt change things for the world.....
Do whats right for you.. but dont say you dont believe in something, than turn around and do it.

Maybe consider adoption? See if your bf is able to take care of everything for the next few months & then make your decision.
I just think you sound like you would regret an abortion in the future, & I'd hate for you to have to live with that. I know some women can get them & be fine, but you really come off to me as someone that wouldn't be able to forget.

and, yes, I agree with the other ladies. There are SO MANY families out there that cannot have children and deserve them soooo much. So, if your thinking about not keeping your child, consider adoption.

Honestly, if you feel as though YOU are not in the right place right now in your life to keep this baby, consider adoption. There are so many people out there who can not have kids of their own and they want desperately to have a baby. If you don't believe in abortion, go the adoption route.

if you dont believe in abortion dont do it.
and you said u love being a mother if you do that i will break your heart
if you think your bf will be a better man then ur previous exs then keep it
plenty of women go to school and have children
i have faith that you can raise this baby and be happy with your other children

I think you have to really search within yourself and make a decision. I am a single mother of four all under the age of 9yrs old. It can be done.. You have a man that sounds like he is there for you and his family. Let him be there for you. I think if you dont beleive in abortion that why have one...you might regret your action afterwards. I think you should step up to the plate and take care of what you created.. Please dont take that the wrong way. Your mother instincts will kick in and you will make it...Be strong and really think about this..Its a tough choice but you will have to live with it for the rest of your life.

Good luck with whatever choice you make.
In my opinion, you should keep the kids you have in mind as your very first priority while you ease into making a decision.
You have 3 options, and each one comes with positives and negatives. Whatever you choose, will greatly effect your future.
Don't let anyone decide what's best for you, because you're the only one who truly knows deep down. And definitely don't let anyone bully you into a certain decision either. That includes the opinions on here.
Once again, good luck momma.

I am sorry but if you have a man there who is the babys father who says he will make sure you all make it doesnt that count for something? I know man can say one thing and do another but you trusted him enough to sleep with him right? I am sorry but it sounds like abortion is an excuse. So you havent finished school and you may think your too young to have three kids but did you think of all that when you put yourself in the situation. Sorry if I come off rude but your excuses don't ring abortion to me. And also the fact you don't believe in abortions then why have one? There is plenty of help out there you can make it work if you really want too. None the less good luck.