I feel betrayed

Earlier I was typing "myspace" into my husbands computers browser and when I typed in my.. mybabes.com came up so I clicked it and it took me to a porn site. I went to the history and searched and it took me to his yahoo.com account where he searched for "sweet pussies" in the images. I know some people allow their husbands to look at it but he has never asked me and I feel like he stepped out of our marriage on me. He has been looking at this while I work and then hiding it. He didnt even ask if I would care. It really hurts my feelings because hes been acting really weird already now I am worried. I texted him because he was at work and he didnt respond so I called and called and he finally answered and he said he doesnt see a problem with it. Well when I turned the tables and said How would it make you feel if I was searching for long, hard cocks on yahoo and then he realized the problem in it. He says he was debating when to tell me about it but I found it first. Hes cheated before we got married a few years ago and I have that same "hurt" that I did when I found out about that. Im so disgusted I dont even want to see/look/ talk to him. Im thinking about going and staying with a friend but I hate to be a burden on someone else. I feel like shit.. like Im not enough for him that he needs more.  
Thanks for listening to me be a ball bag. I just need to vent.

Just bc society says porn is acceptable in a marriage, doesn't mean that it is.
That would be crossing a HUGE boundary in my marriage as well.
I'm sorry.
I hope you two can find the root of the problem and work through it together.

i feel you i used to be disgusted by it and y do u need porn when u have me and all - but he looks o well but now we watch it together lol -- i would talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. thats actually how it happend with us i found it in his tool box and brought it up and the conversation turned out well GL!!

I'm sorry mama I would talk to him and tell him how you feel about it.

He should respect how you feel about porn

but a lot of women take porn personal... it really isnt

men are visual creatures and they are just stupid like that

its isnt because they dont find you attractive... or love you any less... thats just the stupid shit men do..

however, it sounds like there is an underlying problem between your husband and yourself if its to the point where you want to go stay at a friends house for a couple of days.

Quoting Meg.:“ Just bc society says porn is acceptable in a marriage, doesn't mean that it is. That would be crossing ... [snip!] ... HUGE boundary in my marriage as well. I'm sorry. I hope you two can find the root of the problem and work through it together.”

It really is. I mean if it was an "okay" thing to do in our marriage then I wouldnt care. But its not something that we have in our marriage and honestly, I dont want it in there. He did cross a huge boundary and I dont know how to handle it like an adult....  

Quoting sadie700 OB:“ He should respect how you feel about porn but a lot of women take porn personal... it really isnt men ... [snip!] ... between your husband and yourself if its to the point where you want to go stay at a friends house for a couple of days.”

Exactly!!.. I watch porn with my husband.. and if i dont want him watching other people then we are trying to make our own..
8+ deployments suck..  

Only because he cheated on you in the past that I would have a problem with it. I don't see a problem with people looking at porn. I do and I'm sure my DH does as well.

It's just porn.

Stepping out of the marriage imo would be him actually cheating and over stepping his boundries.

I personally don't care if my SO looks at porn and i would never expect him to ask me..
We've looked at it together, we are all sexual beings..
Not that big of a deal. IMO anyways...

Have you talked to him about it?

Quoting Mommy & Wifey™:“ Earlier I was typing "myspace" into my husbands computers browser and when I typed in my.. mybabes.com ... [snip!] ... shit.. like Im not enough for him that he needs more.   Thanks for listening to me be a ball bag. I just need to vent.”

My SO does not watch porn at all. When we first started dating I told him I didn't like it.. I "fell in love" and got married to someone 9 years older than me right out of high school. Well, he was always watching porn, on dating sites, and talking to women on yahoo... So I seriously HATE porn. I feel like it's a gateway to other things. I mean if we watch it together I dont care, which is RARE.. but no porn. Nonono. lol

Awe, I'm sorry. Porn is something that a lot of women have a problem with. I personally, rather have my SO looking at girls he could never have than to be going out trying to pick up women. But it's all about personal prefrence. I would talk to him, and as hard as it is... try to see where he's coming from. Just because he's looking at other women on the internet, doesn't nessisarly mean he no longer attracted to you.

Quoting aLex.♥☠:“ It's just porn. Stepping out of the marriage imo would be him actually cheating and over stepping his ... [snip!] ... looked at it together, we are all sexual beings.. Not that big of a deal. IMO anyways... Have you talked to him about it?”

i feel the exact same way , they're just images .

went through the same stuff with my husband. some days i have a major problem with porn and some days i just let it roll off my shoulder. his parents are divorced because his dad wouldnt give up the porn, you think my husband would learn his lesson from that but nope he still watches it. his excuse is that he watches it when we cant have sex. which is alot lately because being pregnant sex almost always makes me throw up. We even went to marriage counseling and talked alot about this. hes cut back alot on it but still bugs me sometimes. Hopefully you guys can talk about it. ive tried that whole, how would you like it if i did it thing, and it didnt help any lol. men just dont see a problem with it, to them its just visual and not cheating unless its the real thing.

Quoting Mommy & Wifey™:“ It really is. I mean if it was an "okay" thing to do in our marriage then I wouldnt care. But its not ... [snip!] ... and honestly, I dont want it in there. He did cross a huge boundary and I dont know how to handle it like an adult....  ”

I dont think its the porn that is bothering you- i think its the "sneaky" behind it- i think it takes you back to when he cheated years ago

Quoting Braeleighs mama:“ I'm sorry mama I would talk to him and tell him how you feel about it.”

He just keeps saying sorry. Sorry doesnt fix it or put a bandaide on it. I still feel the same. I know Im not near as pretty as those girls and hes been acting so weird lately. We've been stressed a lot about bills and money andcollegeso this just puts the icing on the cake.