re: Early Intervention Chat thread

Quoting jamils_mommy:“ sorry your having a hard time Heather... Me too, I'm so glad V is doing well!!! Yay for liking the other therapist!!”

thank you. it really doesnt have much to do with v. i just feel so overwhelmed all the time. i cannot wait to stop baby sitting. it gets so frustrating dealing with all 3 of them at each session. the other 2 act horrible the whole time

I'm so done babysitting too... I he gets in everything and makes so many messes and poor Jamil can't stand it he goes around ALL day saying stop whinning...

Quoting jamils_mommy:“ I'm so done babysitting too... I he gets in everything and makes so many messes and poor Jamil can't stand it he goes around ALL day saying stop whinning...”

well they are good when we dont have sessions but since we have them every week i DREAD it. they are awful! we just got done with one and the whole time douglas would try to pull her hair, poke her in the head, and steal all of her things. and when she is trying to work with v he gets mad and sulks and throws things. and sedona just throws fit after fit bc she isnt the center of attention. and of course it upsets v and then she throws herself to the floor and cries. i am so tempted just to lock the other 2 in the bedroom the whole hour. i cannot stand how they act during these sessions and they are really important.

it just sucks that someone else kids ruin these things for us

Sorry Heather...

I'm sooo frustrated with babysitting Jamil goes crazy with this

Sorry to jump in this thread so late. How do you feel about your little ones being unhappy during therapy? Q was miserable during OT today. He screamed and cried the whole time. This had many contributing factors, including time of day. I know he needs to learn how to finish a task and clean up when done, but at some point it just seemed excessive.

How much control do you give the therapists?

Quoting loving life!:“ Sorry to jump in this thread so late. How do you feel about your little ones being unhappy during therapy? ... [snip!] ... a task and clean up when done, but at some point it just seemed excessive. How much control do you give the therapists?”

well we both just ignore her when she has her tantrums and after a few minutes she will come back around..i have all the control in the sessions. we do things my way,

and it makes me feel like i am having an anxiety attack sometimes...

Quoting Heather[Gleek]:“ well we both just ignore her when she has her tantrums and after a few minutes she will come back around..i ... [snip!] ... all the control in the sessions. we do things my way, and it makes me feel like i am having an anxiety attack sometimes...”

I tried to ignore most of it because I knew he was getting mad when we didn't do things his way. He was also upset because he just wanted to cuddle me and he couldn't. She was like a half an hour late and it was basically his nap time.

Quoting loving life!:“ I tried to ignore most of it because I knew he was getting mad when we didn't do things his way. He ... [snip!] ... upset because he just wanted to cuddle me and he couldn't. She was like a half an hour late and it was basically his nap time.”

thats weird  

v's therapists think its fine if she wants to cuddle or sit with me...they say its good for her to feel comfortable.

and yea i set the times for the sessions so they are good for my kid...they should realize that you have a certain time set for a reason...we tried having a session at around 1pm and that just did not fly..now we do them between 10:30 and 11am and everything goes great for the most part!

Quoting Heather[Gleek]:“ thats weird   v's therapists think its fine if she wants to cuddle or sit with me...they say its ... [snip!] ... at around 1pm and that just did not fly..now we do them between 10:30 and 11am and everything goes great for the most part!”

Yeah we set it up yesterday but apparently she didn't write it down, so she left at the time she was supposed to be here. I didn't think it would be such a huge deal but he was already trying to wind down with me before she even got here. I guess it just funked up his whole day.

He was trying to put himself to sleep on me during OT, which meant he was sucking on his right hand and touching my belly with his left. Doesn't leave much to get therapy done with!

Quoting loving life!:“ Sorry to jump in this thread so late. How do you feel about your little ones being unhappy during therapy? ... [snip!] ... a task and clean up when done, but at some point it just seemed excessive. How much control do you give the therapists?”

Scarlett's teacher leads the way mostly. I had a hard time at first because she won't just let Scarlett do whatever she wants, but she is not mean in any way, she is just persistent about redirecting her and not giving in. At first it caused more tantrums, but slowly the tantrums because less and less frequent and shorter, too. Now Scarlett has very few behavioral issues during her sessions.

HOWEVER... I love Scarlett's therapist. She will push Scarlett out of her comfort zone, even if it means a tantrum, but once Scarlett complies, the teacher backs off and rewards Scarlett by letting her play the way SHE wants to play for a while.

Her teacher has been doing early intervention for 19 years, so she knows what she's doing, and she is also a parent. I really trust her. If Scarlett was assigned to someone I didn't like I am sure I would step in more often or even request someone else. I dreaded meeting Scarlett's teacher because I know we'll be stuck with her til Scarlett is 3, and I was worried she'd be a know-it-all, or be too aggressive, or act like she knew Scarlett because she "works with kids like this all the time" but we got very lucky with Carolyn.

Quoting loving life!:“ Yeah we set it up yesterday but apparently she didn't write it down, so she left at the time she was ... [snip!] ... which meant he was sucking on his right hand and touching my belly with his left. Doesn't leave much to get therapy done with!”

LOL v will only put herself to sleep in her own bed..but if she is tired she will make your time hell until you lay her down...

and yea her being late probably messed him up. how long as he been doing therapy?

Quoting Scarlett & Lia's Mama:“ Scarlett's teacher leads the way mostly. I had a hard time at first because she won't just let Scarlett ... [snip!] ... or act like she knew Scarlett because she "works with kids like this all the time" but we got very lucky with Carolyn.”

hmm it must be because of v's SPD that they only do things her way...that is one of v's issues. she has to be in control or she will completely flip out....poor kid

It really really depends, and you have to be careful with personality types, but if the child is to upset, or tired, or sick the session should end early, I have cancelled sessions because Jamil was to tired or not feeling well (no fever or apperant illness but it was obvious.. I say you have to be careful because if the child hates therapy, or has a controlling type personality they will Mimic the actions that got the session ended over and over because it worked once..

Now if were not talkig about a sick or tired child, but more about ridigity, obessions, routines etc... It depends, a good therapist knows how far to push, and to reinforce/back off for small successes, and sometimes cause tantrums over small things to work up to concurring bigger battles down the line... Now if you have a good therapist that has a good repor with the child, then my rule of thumb is not to step in, it is heart wrenching, but there is a goal in mind... I will say I pulled Jamil from a school because I wasn't comfortable with how they were to physical with him.. And there was no relationship established

Quoting Heather[Gleek]:“ hmm it must be because of v's SPD that they only do things her way...that is one of v's issues. she has to be in control or she will completely flip out....poor kid”

they have to build a relationship with het first, you said she's just starting to like the therapist right? Once trust is established they usually push against there comfort zone, or they should..

Quoting jamils_mommy:“ they have to build a relationship with het first, you said she's just starting to like the therapist right? Once trust is established they usually push against there comfort zone, or they should..”

yep so that will probably have to wait until we move and she gets use to a new therapist