Having a baby shower for 2nd baby?

I have a friend who really wants to throw me a shower since this one is a boybut my mom's side of the family is kind of old school and they think you only have 1 shower unless the kids are 5+yrs apart. I thought we had a bunch of neutral sleepers but i was wrong.

Is it okay to have a second baby shower if the sex is different?

Quoting Kenzs Mama+1 on the way:“ I have a friend who really wants to throw me a shower since this one is a boybut my mom's side of the ... [snip!] ... we had a bunch of neutral sleepers but i was wrong. Is it okay to have a second baby shower if the sex is different?”

Fuck that! Every baby deserves a shower! Mine are only gonna be 15 months apart and my friend and Mom are giving me a shower again. Mine are different sexes too, but even if I would have had another boy, they still would have.

I was embarrassed to have a second shower with my daughter and she was a different sex, but if someone wants to throw one for you, then its not really a big deal.
I didnt have a shower at all with my third and wont with any future kids either.

As much as I find it tacky, if someone is wanting to throw you one I think it's rude to say no lol. Maybe compromise and have them throw you a welcome the baby party after the birth?

I am having a baby shower for EVERY child. Even if I have 4.
Fuck "old school"

I say it is... I mean.. you dont have to register.. or just ask people to bring diapers and wipes.. or blue onesies.. you know? Or.. just put on the invite not to bring anything if you'd rather that...

If I have another boy next time ill ask people just to bring diapers if they want to and kinda have a "its a boy" party.. if its a girl though.. i have no girl stuff..

plus.. do you want a double stroller? and things like that.. there are things you need for a girl..

Isn't that the perk of being kicked from the inside for 9 months?
GO HAVE A BABY SHOWER! Get lots of cool neat new stuff! And enjoy yourself!

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I think of it as a way of bringing friends together to welcome a new baby. If they wanna throw you one go for it!

I had a 2nd baby shower and both of mine are girls...now they are 4 years apart but still....they have different daddies so i really wanted his side to get the joys of a baby shower too...and it was nice getting alot of presents!!! Id say go for it...they can choose to come or not

Quoting Meep:“ As much as I find it tacky, if someone is wanting to throw you one I think it's rude to say no lol. Maybe compromise and have them throw you a welcome the baby party after the birth?”

Why is it tacky? If someone is throwing it for her... maybe if she was asking for one and throwing it herself it might be. I just don't understand this logic, every baby is as important as the first, why should they get jipped?

I had two, because my kids were 6 years apart, but this time there is only a 3 yr age gap. So instead of a shower I am having a diaper party. People bring diapers, and usually other small things that you will need. It's a good way to get friends and family together to celebrate the new baby without expecting too much.

I have a friend who had a second shower and she irritated me by it because her kids are less than 2 yrs apart and she wanted everything new for her daughter so i felt like the stuff we bought her before wasnt good enough. I mainly need clothes, maybe a sit and stand stroller, and an infant carseat(mine was involved in a roll over accident)

Quoting PO-PO.:“ Why is it tacky? If someone is throwing it for her... maybe if she was asking for one and throwing it ... [snip!] ... herself it might be. I just don't understand this logic, every baby is as important as the first, why should they get jipped?”

I said it was fine if someone is wanting to throw it for her....was I not clear enough?

If someone wants to throw you one I say why not. If someone chooses not to come then that is their probem. Ya, know. I had showers with both of my boys. They are 4 and a half years apart. The showers were thrown for me and I did not ask for them. I didn't see the problem with it. I say let her and enjoy yourself. To me a shower is more about celebrating the baby anyway. Every child should have that!

My family is the same way. But my in laws never came to my Oldest's shower because they didn't agree with my decision not to give her up for adoption. So my mother told me she would throw a shower for Aubrey since they were almost 6 years apart, but most of the invites needed to go to his family. Then she needed to justify it to my SIL and rest of the family by telling them I gave all my stuff to my cousin when she moved here and had nothing for her baby.

I think that if someone is going to throw you one no one has to show up if they don't want to. Maybe if it makes you feel better ask for it to be more of a "baby welcoming" or diaper party where gifts are optional and it more of a celebration for the baby.