Military momma's

Ok I have a couple of questions for all of you military momma's out there. I'm not one, but my friend used to be (recently divorced) and I don't think everything she says is true.

First off she got a divorce a few months after her ex got back from Iraq (she sent him papers and had him sign them within a couple of days of him getting back to the states). Anyways she had her child support and spousal support figured up based upon his deployment pay as well as with the housing allowance. She failed to tell the lawyer that there was $800 added to his pay that he would not get after the divorce was finalized (housing pay there) and that he wouldn't be receiving x amount because that was hazard pay and the other portion was because he was oversea's for more than 12 months. Anyways she got a $1500 order and then she also got it so that he had to pay $400 a month for a car for her. Yeah he was dumb not going to jag and having it looked at, but just getting back there wasn't any time to and she said she had to have it in a week to take to court. In total he "has" to pay her basically $1900 a month ($400 is paid directly to the car loan holder). The lawyer also said that if she can't support the kids on what she's getting they'll just go after him for more. That's fine if he was still bringing in the $3000-$4000 he was. Before he had deployed he was only bringing in $2200 with the housing allowance. So now his pay has dropped to $1400-$1600 a month but she thinks she should get what was order. I don't see how she can expect more when he doesn't have it, and she says he shouldn't get anything if it comes down to it. Whatever I think she's wrong there and the military is agreeing with me they give her half of base pay.

She has always said that she married him because that was the only way he could join the army. Is it true that if you have a child that you get go into the service unless you are married (you can't be a single parent in the army)? I think she's wrong, that since she had majority/full custody that he could've joined still.

Now she's saying that she wants to go in and that her bf, the father of the kid she's pregnant with, is going to take the kids so she can. The father of her older kids would have to sign off on it and he's said that he won't. So she says that if he doesn't then she'll reliquish custody and get him kicked out of the army for it. Will the army boot him if she does that? I don't see why she'd do that, she'd have to pay child support (which she is not working as it is) plus, he'd lose his income and not be able to support the kids as it is.

I think she's wrong on many different levels.

that was too much to read for me because i am that lazy but that is fucked up that she sent him papers over there...



what a selfish biznatch

Im not a military mama so I am not sure on the logistics. However, all I can say say is that she is one selfish son of a gun.

Quoting OuTLaW.To. EoB [TEAM VAG]:“ that was too much to read for me because i am that lazy but that is fucked up that she sent him papers over there... what a selfish biznatch”

I think the whole situation is messed up, he's not making what he was making but she expects him to give her at least $1900 a month when he's getting about $1600. He's military so he can't get a second job to fullfill the ordered amount she got.

i was told you can't go into the navy as a single mom, but she is fucked up

Quoting ♥ they are my life:“ I think the whole situation is messed up, he's not making what he was making but she expects him to ... [snip!] ... $1900 a month when he's getting about $1600. He's military so he can't get a second job to fullfill the ordered amount she got.”

you can get a second job in the military you just have to have it approved by your chain ofcommand and the militar obviously has priority over that other job, i worked 2 jobs in teh navy

Umm yeah thats really wrong! He needs to take the papers to jag!

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GDS]:“ you can get a second job in the military you just have to have it approved by your chain ofcommand and the militar obviously has priority over that other job, i worked 2 jobs in teh navy”

tell him to go to navy legal

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GDS]:“ you can get a second job in the military you just have to have it approved by your chain ofcommand and the militar obviously has priority over that other job, i worked 2 jobs in teh navy”

His chain of command won't. He works pretty much every weekend at least Saturday and they have him doing stuff really late. They wouldn't give him leave to go to his g-ma's funeral and he wasn't even deployed or even have talks of being deployed at the time.

that is why military wives have such a fucked up name....i am military wife and those are the battles that we have to face

Quoting Connor's mom♥[GDS]:“ tell him to go to navy legal”

I don't talk to him, just her on an occasion. I just don't believe half the stuff she says, but when I try to argue it she tells me that I'm not and wasn't military so I don't know anything. She seems to think that he shouldn't have any money except maybe $50 or $100 a month if that.

Ok, my husband says #1, she's a bitch for divorcing him so close to coming home from deployment. #2 hahahahahaha for being stupid enough to think the military would give her all of her ex-husband's pay. #3, you can be a single parent in the military, it's just hard as hell, so no he wouldn't get kicked out if she reliquished custody. He'd just have to make sure that there's someone else who can have physical custody when he's gone. Plus if he has custody, he won't have to pay child support, so woohoo for that!

Sooo, according to my husband, who's been in the military for 10 years, she's full of shit.

Quoting ♥ they are my life:“ Ok I have a couple of questions for all of you military momma's out there. I'm not one, but my friend ... [snip!] ... it is) plus, he'd lose his income and not be able to support the kids as it is. I think she's wrong on many different levels.”

1st and foremost, they go off his BASE PAY, so not including hazard pay, overseas pay, etc... So if he's say an E-2, thats 1434 a month, plus BAH (housing allowance) and thats it. She cannot go off all that other pay. That's not a Steady income, when all teh other stuff is just short term, you know?

2nd-Legally, a spouse/divorcee cannot take more than 60% of his pay, regardless. He has to agree to the car payment she wants him to make, and this can all come up in court dates that are required for divorces. He can still battle it.

I know this because 4 months ago, i was in the divorce situation, however, we're trying to work things out...

BUT definitely needs to go to JAG, or his legal resource officers...

Quoting Stefa-tiny*PSM-OG*PRBM:“ Ok, my husband says #1, she's a bitch for divorcing him so close to coming home from deployment. #2 hahahahahaha ... [snip!] ... child support, so woohoo for that! Sooo, according to my husband, who's been in the military for 10 years, she's full of shit.”

See that's what I thought, but she thinks I'm wrong. I figured that since both parents could be in the military at the same time I single parent could be as well, at least if they were already in at the time.

Quoting Madison's Mama Sandy:“ 1st and foremost, they go off his BASE PAY, so not including hazard pay, overseas pay, etc... So if he's ... [snip!] ... situation, however, we're trying to work things out... BUT definitely needs to go to JAG, or his legal resource officers...”

He needs to go to JAG and see if they can get it changed. The divorce was already finalized, but he was given all the paperwork and what not before he even had a chance to get things straightened out. He came back was on his original base for a couple of months then had to go and move to a new base. Plus he had all those workshops to learn how to associate with civilians again. He was messed up and just signed them not knowing what was in them.

The military has told child support that they will only give her half of base pay and nothing else that she is not entitled to anymore than that and she completly disagrees and thinks she should get more.