He's just not that into me?

Okay, John and I have been together going on three years. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life. Well for like the last two months he has had absolutely no interest in being intimate with me. I throw myself at him, nothing. We've had sex maybe twice in two months and both times i had to bitch and complain for hours. What is going on? I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get the intimacy back in my relationship?

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, John and I have been together going on three years. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life. ... [snip!] ... I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get the intimacy back in my relationship?”

I would confront him i mean maybe hes having some problems hes embarrassed to tell you about. A man not wanting sex but once a month like you pretty much said it doesnt add up.

You need to talk about it. Stat. My ex fiance did that, only to find out he decided he'd rather be sleeping with someone else........

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, John and I have been together going on three years. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life. ... [snip!] ... I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get the intimacy back in my relationship?”

Just talk to him. Sounds like somethings definitely up.

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Okay, John and I have been together going on three years. We have always had a pretty healthy sex life. ... [snip!] ... I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can get the intimacy back in my relationship?”

Have you talked to him about it? Is he stressed lately? whats going on in his life, when men are bothered or have a lot going on their sex drive decrease.Also when menstart to settle in, I actually read an article about their testosterone levels decrease.
Also is the sex the same ol routine? I mean have you confronted him as to why he doesn't want to have sex? is he sleeping well? really busy?

Yeah you need to talk to him.....if its been great all this time and now all the sudden its gone sour...there has to be a reason.
Or test him, get all sexed up in a new lacey thing from the lady store do you hair and makeup and rock his world
then talk  

You may need to sit with him and talk to him about it... tell him wtf is up with you and why do you not want to have sex with me what going on?? thats what i would say to my hubby...

Quoting Krystal_2007:? I would confront him i mean maybe hes having some problems hes embarrassed to tell you about. A man not wanting sex but once a month like you pretty much said it doesnt add up.?

I have confronted him. He just says hes tired. I try to get more out of him. Like i said i try talking, bitching, throwing myself at him. Nothing works.  

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ I have confronted him. He just says hes tired. I try to get more out of him. Like i said i try talking, bitching, throwing myself at him. Nothing works.  ”

You're leaving something out....hes says he tries....you say you try

So why isnt there any monkey business going on?

Quoting Holy Tools Batman?:? Have you talked to him about it? Is he stressed lately? whats going on in his life, when men are bothered ... [snip!] ... the same ol routine? I mean have you confronted him as to why he doesn't want to have sex? is he sleeping well? really busy??

Ive tried sexy lingerie and being spotaneous. Ive tried starting something in new places because the bedroom can get boring. Ive tried doing all the things hes hinted about in the past but if i make a move at all he tells me to stop. The only thing hes been interested in is me giving him oral which ive been doing a lot because im afraid he might go to someone else. Hes cheated a lot in the past. I ask him what i can do to he says nothing that its not me its him. What else can i do?

Quoting Kahla [Kiley's Mommy]:“ Ive tried sexy lingerie and being spotaneous. Ive tried starting something in new places because the ... [snip!] ... else. Hes cheated a lot in the past. I ask him what i can do to he says nothing that its not me its him. What else can i do?”

Ummm sorry hun....this doesn't look good.

I hope you get to the bottom of this soon. hugs

I hate to say this but sometimes aLack of intimacy is usually a symptom of something else being wrong. Other than the bedroom how is he treating you??

Does he isolate himself from you, is he being there emotionally for you? Why is he so tired? Working too much?
I mean you practically tried all the things I was going to suggest, Your communication is not effective enough, I think there is more to it.
Have you been fighting alot recently?

Quoting Shannonsfirst:? Ummm sorry hun....this doesn't look good. I hope you get to the bottom of this soon. hugs?

Yeah. I dont think so either. Thanks though. I still dont get it though even if he is cheating why would he turn it down from me? Guys always want sex and ive been throwing myself at him...

If a man is cheating he won't have sex with you because he feels guilty.

Oh gosh i hope he not cheating ...