Im_what? wrote: I met my husband last dec. we got married in last june. He is all into racing & stuff & has been his whole life...where as I never have seen a nascar race in my entire life. His big dream was to move to nc & work at a race shop. I lived in fl by myself when we met & had my own house & everything was great. after we got married we moved right up to nc so he could chase his dream. I left behind my family my friends all the people I've known my entire life so he could be happy. The night we got to NC I found out I was pregnant. So married &............... pregnant two weeks later. After a rocky start in nc & moving in & out of places he finally gets settled working for michael waltrip & decides he is going to move in & be room mates with a guy he knew from fl that also lived there. I left NC in oct. without a choice really. He called me & checked on me alot at first & said hes going to try to find us somewhere to live & he wanted me to move back up there with him. All this time I haven't seen him since oct. remember.......................I'm 21 and he just turned 21 in dec. He just told me about a month ago he does not think were ever going to work & we should just forget "the trying to be togerther" thing. I asked him if it even seemed like we were married & he said no   I got pissed. he hasn't called me now to even check on me since dec. we have a car in both our names a bank acct & other things that I brought into the relationship. I feel like he just used me to get to NC. so I filed for divorce. I wonder if it was the right thing to do. Everyone that has known him his whole life saying he really loves me & blah blah blah. I really think he hasn't seen me because it reminds him of what hes done. He gets to act like he not even married & doen't have a baby on the way while I'm here in fl with a huge belly. I really never thought in a million years he would do this to me. Then again if he really cared he would have tried to see me within the past 5 mths right? I'm due march 20th. no word from his parents either.....that live here in fl about 3 hrs from me. so am I doing the right thing because I just don't know anymore.

Im_what? wrote: The last time I talked to my husband he told me he doesn't think we will ever work out....... this isn't the first time though. he usually calls a week after that saying he wants us to be together & asks about the baby & tries to make plans for me to move there with him...not this time. No calls at all. I filed the papers & I'm going for full custodity. I'm sure I'll get it, it just hurts my heart to know that my baby girl will one day have to meet this man that is her biological father & I just hope she doesn't blame me for him not being in her life. Why does it have to hurt this bad. Its like I've been hurt for so long I'm getting used to it. I wait day after day, looking at my phone, not to see if hes called so I can talk to him, I prally would even answer if he did.....I look at the phone just to see if there is any hope of him even caring. I can do this without him, I just hate that I have to. There has never been anything wrong with me that I couldn't get a decent guy, I've been with alot of great guys......why in the hell did I have to and marry the biggest con-artist lying asshole of them all. This is going to make it really hard to trust anyone..... at all. They say god doesn't give you anything you can't handle, all I can think is that I'm only 21!! I'm getting a divorce. I think about it really hard sometimes and wonder what else is in store for me if I've already been through all this. thanks for the support guys!1 I knew in the back of my mind it was the right thing, my family & friends are behind me too but.. just hearing I'm doing the right thing from people I don't know just gives me a little weight off my shoulders.
thanks!

Hi!
I guess my situation is pretty similar as yours and wanted to share it with you. I had a basically one night stand with this soldier who always told me he had the surgery. I know I had to be wiser and ask for a condom but I didnt. He came to my city for a mission and when he left he asked me to keep in touch and so I did. few weeks later I missed my period and he again told me he had the surgery, even that I decided to have the pregnancy test and came positive. When I told him he was completely surprised and asked if I wanted to have an abortion....At first I said no, but after thinking a lot of things , his actions, I agreed and asked him to pay for it. What he told me?" I dont have the money now so I guess you will just have to have the baby" and then blocked me from myspace and emails.
Quoting JENN1983:“ OK, SO I KNOW THAT THERE ARE OTHER POSTS ABOUT BEING LEFT BY YOUR HUSBAND WHILE PREGNANT, BUT A LOT OF ... [snip!] ... AND MY HUSBAND WALKED OUT ON ME AT 21 WEEKS. IF ANYONE HAS ANYTHING THEY WOULD LIKE TO SHARE ON THIS, FEEL FREE. THANKS.”