well as u read to the top u can read my other messages. well he is back now, but i dont know what is worse him in my life or out. i played games to get him back as in making him think i was with some one else, needed to know that i wouldnt just be there when he wanted me to be. we know we love each other, but i dont think he is ready for all this. this is his 3rd child, his 2nd son i am very close too. im gonna let him have his space, half the time he doesnt answer he will eventually call back. so i just stick to texting, u cant force somebody to be there if they dont want to be. the sad thing is if somebody was to come along i would jump at it.... we both have a lot of growing up to do. sometimes the best thing to do it concentrate on ur and the baby and let him grow up and see what he is missing..... im paranoid and scared that he will leave me again, but i have to take back my sanity like the rest of u ladies..... today he hasnt called me, but he has responded to my text. whatever!!! i hope he calls but if not im not calling him.......  

MY EX TOLD ME "TO GO STICK MY HEAD UP MY OWN ARSE" HOW NICE AND UNDERSTANDING OF HIM, THEN HE TOLD ME "HE WANTED ME AND BABY", THEN I GET A PHONE CALL SAYING "HE WANTS ME TO MOVE ALL MY STUFF OUT THE HOUSE", THEN THE NEXT DAY HE WANTED ME BACK, THEN IT WAS "I WANT THE BABY JUST NOT YOU, I CANT TAKE YOUR MOOD SWINGS", THEN HE WANTS ME AND BABY.
IN THE END I TOLD HIM TO GROW UP AND LEFT HIM NOW I AM 33 WEEKS PREGNANT AND HAPPY THAT I AM GOING TO BE A SINGLE MUM, KNOWNING THAT MY SON WILL NEVER GROW UP TO BE LIKE HIS FATHER.
HE HAS DONE NOTHING FOR HIM SO FAR AND DIDNT EVEN COME TO THE 20 WEEK SCAN WITH ME HE IS A CHILD HIMSELF AND DOSENT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH BABY THINGS COST AND THINKS HE STILL HAS LOADS OF TIME TO GET STUFF FOR HIM, WHEN IT IS ME THAT HAS GONE OUT AND GOT EVERYTHING, AND WHY IS IT THAT MEN THINK THAT THEY CAN LEAVE YOU WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT AND THEN JUST PICK UP WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN AND SEE THEM ONCE A WEEK SURELY BEING A FATHER IS BEING THERE FROM DAY ONE, MY BABY IS A BABY NOW AND NEEDS THINGS ALREADY, NOT JUST WHEN HE IS HERE AND HE CAN LOOK AT HIM HOLD HIM.

lblosh wrote: Hello! My husband and I had only been married a WEEK when we found out I was 4 1/2 weeks pregnant. We had been trying, even thuogh the doctor said my chances of conceiving were pretty slim. A WEEK after that, my husband started fighting with me over nothing and blow simple things out of proportion, so while he was around, I stayed stressed out and sick. That wasn't healthy for me or the baby. He left me before our TWO MONTH anniversary! And I haven't heard ANYTHING from him or any of his family in over a year!!! My daughter is now 6 months old. She's the most amazing thing that's ever happened to me, and looking back, I'm glad I did it on my own. True, it gets hard at times, but it's all worth the final outcome - a healthy, happy baby! If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here.

Thank you for your post... your words are giving me an insight to strength! ;)

tigger wrote: MY EX TOLD ME "TO GO STICK MY HEAD UP MY OWN ARSE" HOW NICE AND UNDERSTANDING OF HIM, THEN HE TOLD ME "HE WANTED ME AND BABY", THEN I GET A PHONE CALL SAYING "HE WANTS ME TO MOVE ALL MY STUFF OUT THE HOUSE", THEN THE NEXT DAY HE WANTED ME BACK, THEN IT WAS "I WANT THE BABY JUST NOT YOU, I CANT TAKE YOUR MOOD SWINGS", THEN HE WANTS ME AND BABY.
IN THE END I TOLD HIM TO GROW UP AND LEFT HIM NOW I AM 33 WEEKS PREGNANT AND HAPPY THAT I AM GOING TO BE A SINGLE MUM, KNOWNING THAT MY SON WILL NEVER GROW UP TO BE LIKE HIS FATHER.
HE HAS DONE NOTHING FOR HIM SO FAR AND DIDNT EVEN COME TO THE 20 WEEK SCAN WITH ME HE IS A CHILD HIMSELF AND DOSENT UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH BABY THINGS COST AND THINKS HE STILL HAS LOADS OF TIME TO GET STUFF FOR HIM, WHEN IT IS ME THAT HAS GONE OUT AND GOT EVERYTHING, AND WHY IS IT THAT MEN THINK THAT THEY CAN LEAVE YOU WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT AND THEN JUST PICK UP WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN AND SEE THEM ONCE A WEEK SURELY BEING A FATHER IS BEING THERE FROM DAY ONE, MY BABY IS A BABY NOW AND NEEDS THINGS ALREADY, NOT JUST WHEN HE IS HERE AND HE CAN LOOK AT HIM HOLD HIM.

I agree with you. They cant come back with its "conveinient" for them. Hell no!

MEN ARE SUCK BUTTS! AND THAT'S THE NICE WAY OF PUTTING IT! MY HUSBAND COMES OVER OCCASIONALLY, "TO TALK", BUT GIVES ME MIXED MESSAGES. PART OF ME WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND PART OF ME WANTS TO KNEE HIM IN THE GROIN! HE GOT MAD A COUPLE DAYS AGO BECAUSE HE FOUND OUT THAT IM NOT GIVING THE BABY HIS LAST NAME. HE IS GETTING MY NAME!!!

JENN1983 wrote: MEN ARE SUCK BUTTS! AND THAT'S THE NICE WAY OF PUTTING IT! MY HUSBAND COMES OVER OCCASIONALLY, "TO TALK", BUT GIVES ME MIXED MESSAGES. PART OF ME WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND PART OF ME WANTS TO KNEE HIM IN THE GROIN! HE GOT MAD A COUPLE DAYS AGO BECAUSE HE FOUND OUT THAT IM NOT GIVING THE BABY HIS LAST NAME. HE IS GETTING MY NAME!!!

good....give the baby your last name and dont think twice about it.

 

JENN1983 wrote: MEN ARE SUCK BUTTS! AND THAT'S THE NICE WAY OF PUTTING IT! MY HUSBAND COMES OVER OCCASIONALLY, "TO TALK", BUT GIVES ME MIXED MESSAGES. PART OF ME WANTS TO GET BACK TOGETHER AND PART OF ME WANTS TO KNEE HIM IN THE GROIN! HE GOT MAD A COUPLE DAYS AGO BECAUSE HE FOUND OUT THAT IM NOT GIVING THE BABY HIS LAST NAME. HE IS GETTING MY NAME!!!

my isnt getting his fathers last name in fact he came round the other day when i had just moved into my new house and asked when the baby due again he dosent even know when his own son is going to born.
plus at the time i had my friend round helping me move he did all my heavy lifting for me (more than my ex did) and then the next day i asked if i had a new boyfriend now call me old fashion but i am carrying someone else child why would i go and jump into bed with another bloke and even still it is none of his business, and for the bloke that was trying to win me back he didnt seam to be putting up much of fight.
i was thinking to myself last night i havent seen or hear from his family the only part of his family i see is his sister in law becuase we were friends before hand, now his family think the minute the baby born that they can come round and see my son, well the only way that they will find out that i have had the baby is by me telling them so if they dont talk to me how i am ment to tell them   just makes me so mad that they think that they can all just come back into my life and my son life after walking out on us and not even offering to help not even to to text me and ask me how i am and if baby is ok, but then the minute he is here they want to come and see him i dont think so, now i am being wrong or would you all do the same thing?

iI KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE SAYING! HE THINKS THAT HIS FAMILY AND HE HAS ALL THE SAME RIGHTS TO THE BABY AS I DO. I TRIED EXPLAINING TO HIM THAT HE WON'T SEE THE BABY IF I DON'T WANT HIM TO. AND, I WAS TRYING TO BE CIVIL WITH HIS MOTHER, I INVITED HER TO MY BABY SHOWER, BUT SHE REFUSES TO GO! SHE SAID IT WOULD BE AWKWARD! BUT IT'S GOING TO BE AWKWARD NO MATTER WHAT!!!

but then what will make it any different when baby is born and she has to be in same room as you anyway why wait until baby is there try and get it over and done with before hand, it would make things much easier when she dose come to see if your anything like me i wont let them in the hospital and then i have to answer my door to them when they come round i dont think they understand that they have done nothing the whole way thought MY pregancey but want all the rewards at the end it

TOTALLY!!! I TRIED BEING NICE, I THINK IT WAS PRETTY DANG NICE OF ME TO INVITE HER TO MY SHOWER, BUT NO, IT'S TOO AWKWARD! IT'S GOING TO BE AWKWARD WHEN SHE SHOWS UP AT THE HOSPITAL AFTER HE'S BORN. BUT WHAT MAKES IT SO MUCH WORSE IS THAT THE MAIN REASON MY HUSBAND AND I SEPERATED WAS BECAUSE SHE CONVINCED HIM THE BABY WASN'T HIS! SHE'S A REGISTERED NURSE AND HE THINKS SHE KNOWS EVERYTHING. SHE TOLD HIM THAT I COULDN'T HAVE BEEN THAT BIG FOR HOW FAR ALONG I WAS. MY DOCTOR SAID THEY'RE BOTH IDIOTS!

oh my god I am 37 weeks and just look fat I haven’t got a bump at all yet my friend who 5 months looks like she 9 months body shapes are different and as a nurse she should know that not every pregnancy is the same I really wouldn’t want that woman looking after me.
she told your fella that the baby couldn’t his (I still think that is so funny did you ever want to call her little miss know it all) but now she wants to come to the hospital when you have your baby I would tell her were to go or you could do what I am doing and tell the midwifes that you don’t want to see anybody unless other wise stated then that way I can text my family and friends and tell the midwifes who is coming up to see us hehehehehehe but in all fairness it is my family and friends who have done the most for me since my ex left me (which he makes out it is all my fault and plays the victim) and his family have done nothing apart from bad mouth me and call me a tart I don’t how that works out in six years I have slept with 2 people his mum has been married 5 times (she likes cake) do the math.

I can't really relate to this because my husband is very loyal and loves children. He wants to have as many as we can and has been thrilled everytime I even thought I might be pregnant.

However, any man that would walk out on his woman while she was carrying his child is a disgrace. He is not a man. I know pregnant women can be difficult to deal with at times...I'll admit I probably border psychotic at times. LOL But that is no excuse to adanbon her or the child. I think I would have a nervous breakdown if that happened to me; you ladies are far stronger than I. And, to the ones that had cheating significant others...kudos for not going postal. I may have ended up with a few assault charges. LOL

It has got to be rough, but it is not impossible. There are many single mothers out there who do well for their families. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Keep looking forward; everything will work out fine.  

HE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND THAT JUST BECAUSE WE ARE MARRIED THAT IT DOESN'T GIVE HIM A FREE TICKET TO DO WHAT HE WANTS WITH THE BABY! HE EVEN THINKS THAT HE CAN STOP ME FROM MAKING HIS NAME MORGAN(MY LAST NAME)!!!

TRYSTAN LANDON MORGAN OR TRYSTAN LANDON VIEUX
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

morgan in england vieux is a window company lol

ok my name joseph james north or his name
jospeh james bastable which one would you rather have runnning around the playground ?

HIS NAME SOUND LIKE BASTARD!HAHA I'D GO WITH NORTH! I'VE NEVER HEARD THAT AS A LAST NAME BEFORE.