Moving in with my boyfriend
127 postsposted 13th Jul
So... I've known my boyfriend for 3 years but we've only been dating for 2 weeks We're working on getting him a job and if he gets one in the area I'm living in (which I'm having to pay more for an apartment because my sons daycare is in a different area but no one else worth it had openings)Then he's going to move in with me I told him that he can either take Gabriel's room or sleep with me it's up to him...
The point is that I'll be paying 1500 a month just for daycare and the rent unless I have a roommate and I'll view my boyfriend like a roommate not like we're trying to live together but my mom is saying that we're going too fast... I'm not sure if it's a horrible move or not ... I really need him around (he's also AMAZING with my son Gabriel doesn't like anyon other than me him and my parents) plus it would really help financially but I don't want to ruin a good thing by moving in together What do you think?
quoteThe point is that I'll be paying 1500 a month just for daycare and the rent unless I have a roommate and I'll view my boyfriend like a roommate not like we're trying to live together but my mom is saying that we're going too fast... I'm not sure if it's a horrible move or not ... I really need him around (he's also AMAZING with my son Gabriel doesn't like anyon other than me him and my parents) plus it would really help financially but I don't want to ruin a good thing by moving in together What do you think?
I have 1 child & live in Collierville, Tennessee
21766 postsposted 13th Jul
I think it's a bad idea... what if it doesn't work out? To fast IMO.
quoteI have 1 child & live in Minnesota
7395 postsposted 13th Jul
Quoting ΛmoritάAmandine:“ So... I've known my boyfriend for 3 years but we've only been dating for 2 weeks We're working on getting ... [snip!] ... parents) plus it would really help financially but I don't want to ruin a good thing by moving in together What do you think?”
Even though you have known him for a while, you have only been in a relationship for two weeks. Who is to say that it will last?
I think its a horrible idea!
I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Georgia
10543 postsposted 13th Jul
Sounds liek you're moving way too fast. I'd give it a few months (even that sounds fast though)
quoteI have 1 child & live in Boston, Massachusetts
4213 postsposted 13th Jul
It is moving too fast and it's it's to help with money sooner or later your going to have problems.
quoteI have 1 child & live in Chula Vista, California
13033 postsposted 13th Jul
Quoting KylieMelaine&JohnDylan:“ Even though you have known him for a while, you have only been in a relationship for two weeks. Who is to say that it will last? I think its a horrible idea!”
I'm TTC since February '09 & live in Beverly Hills, California
4745 postsposted 13th Jul
Quoting BGsDetective_Heather:“ I think it's a bad idea... what if it doesn't work out? To fast IMO.”
I'm TTC since July '09, have 1 child & live in Ohio
posted 13th Jul
Eh, I don't think it's the best idea. I moved in with my bf (now ex) and we fought ALL the time.Ultimately, it lead to him stealing ALL of my stuff (furniture,clothes,dishes) and running off.
quoteI have 1 child & 4 angel babies & live in Tacoma, Washington
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288 postsposted 13th Jul
I doo think it's moving fast but if you're going to view him as a room mate then he should have his own room.
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961 postsposted 13th Jul
Quoting ΛmoritάAmandine:“ So... I've known my boyfriend for 3 years but we've only been dating for 2 weeks We're working on getting ... [snip!] ... parents) plus it would really help financially but I don't want to ruin a good thing by moving in together What do you think?”
known him? how close were u guys?
cuz i known my boyfriend for almost 3years..but we got close within a month of knowing eachother back in october 2006 and became best friends as in he knows me from head to toe..and we started dating november 2008 and we both moved to california decmeber 2008(after 2 weeks of dating). it was bad for the first month but we had no choice. we had to live together cuz we were in cali. then i found out i was pregnant beginning of january. and we moved back to IL and lived together and things didnt go good until 2 months ago
so maybe it will work..depends how well u know eachother..i mean honestly know eachother. and there will be problems..
I have 1 child & live in Illinois
1414 postsposted 13th Jul
thats pretty fast. I cant really talk though, Aaron moved in with me, after 2 days after we met and we started dating at that time. and it was the worse thing we could have done. and it clearly didnt work out. Id still wait a while,
quoteI have 1 child & live in Utah
942 postsposted 13th Jul
If he asked you to married him, right now. Would you go get married? When you move in together, it will change your relationship a lot. You guys will have fights, almost all couples do. However, there is a child living there. You must be civil and fear when fighting. And, you must be 100% committed. It's not fair to let him move in with you and your child, lightly. It's a big deal. And, a very big deal to your child, that likes him.
It's your decision, but just think, you don't want guys coming in and out of your child's life. I've been there too. I moved in with my now hubby, after dating acouple months. With my oldest, of course. And, I told him. He better be committed because Lexi was already from a broken home, even tho, she was one.
quoteIt's your decision, but just think, you don't want guys coming in and out of your child's life. I've been there too. I moved in with my now hubby, after dating acouple months. With my oldest, of course. And, I told him. He better be committed because Lexi was already from a broken home, even tho, she was one.
I have 2 kids & live in Texas
2113 postsposted 13th Jul
Quoting ΛmoritάAmandine:“ So... I've known my boyfriend for 3 years but we've only been dating for 2 weeks We're working on getting ... [snip!] ... parents) plus it would really help financially but I don't want to ruin a good thing by moving in together What do you think?”I think it's a bad idea you two have been friends for 3 years but only been dating for 2 weeks. I think you should date him for a while and see how it goes because 2 weeks of dating is too soon.
I have 1 child & live in New York
posted 13th Jul
No, I wouldn't marry him. I'm very picky about things like that I don't even want to hear "I love you" until he's ready to get married and yes I know about men coming in and out of my childs life if there's not a steady "dad" by the time he's 3 I stop dating. Chris and I just kind of fell together out of the blue but ... I don't consider him my sons father (the biological father isn't in the picture either and Gabriel is only 9 months old) that's why I'm saying it wouldn't be like tHe relationship is the reason ... And I don't fight ... I know that sounds weird but in all my relationships there isn't fighting it's just sometimes someone gets upset but never yelling or anything If he saved me 1/2 the rent for a few months then I could afford it alone the rest of the lease If things fell apart. I don't know what I'll do still haha I'm still in between but thanks for the advice
quoteI have 1 child & live in Collierville, Tennessee
