Stubborn 5 year old

My step daughter is so stubborn once she gets mad she will shut down and not talk or listen. I dont spank her but what are other was i can have her listen to me? Its so frustrating grrrrrrr lol

Right now shes mad since her brother won the game the were plaing, she threw all the pieces and is just standing there after i told her to clean it up.

HELP!

Quoting AliG:“ My step daughter is so stubborn once she gets mad she will shut down and not talk or listen. I dont spank ... [snip!] ... won the game the were plaing, she threw all the pieces and is just standing there after i told her to clean it up. HELP!”

Is she crying?

Go sit her in the corner? And let her frustrations out until she has cooled off and you can have a talk with her about her behavior.

Quoting AliG:“ My step daughter is so stubborn once she gets mad she will shut down and not talk or listen. I dont spank ... [snip!] ... won the game the were plaing, she threw all the pieces and is just standing there after i told her to clean it up. HELP!”

time out? not sweets no tv or do this when my daughter acts u i pick her up take her to her bed make her sit there till she stops her attidude and once she is done with her fit she is allowed out. but try time out

Quoting AliG:“ My step daughter is so stubborn once she gets mad she will shut down and not talk or listen. I dont spank ... [snip!] ... won the game the were plaing, she threw all the pieces and is just standing there after i told her to clean it up. HELP!”

Timeout time!
My stepsons HATE timeout. They have to sit facing the wall, with their hands under their butt (otherwise they'll keep playing) for like 2 or 3 minutes, which is like an eternity to small children.

As her stepmother, you should feel comfortable disciplining her, especially if she lives with you guys part-time. I don't believe as a stepmother, it's my place to give them a swat on the ass the way I would with my own son (when he's older) or my little brother. That is their mom and dad's place, however, if I think my stepsons need to be swatted ie, running out in the street, jumping off their bunk beds, and whatever else, I let my DH know.

Shes not crying. I sent her to her room and now shes just opening and slamming the door shut. Ugh im so frustrated

Her dads on his was home hopefully he fixes it but hes very lenient with them, I think he still feels guilty even though the divorce wasnt his fault. Lol

She has an 8 ear old brother whos playing outside in the water and that doesnt even motivate her to listen

Quoting Grimace!:“ Timeout time! My stepsons HATE timeout. They have to sit facing the wall, with their hands under their ... [snip!] ... my stepsons need to be swatted ie, running out in the street, jumping off their bunk beds, and whatever else, I let my DH know.”

She wont listen even if i tell her to sit in the corner shell just get up and do what she wants grr i dont feel right spanking her but im sure thats the onl wa shed learn

Quoting AliG:“ She wont listen even if i tell her to sit in the corner shell just get up and do what she wants grr i dont feel right spanking her but im sure thats the onl wa shed learn”

If she gets out of time out you put her right back in the corner. Even if you have to do that 500 times, she will eventually stay there and then when she is quiet she is to stay there for 5 mins. She will get it eventually and it is a lot of work to do in the beginning.

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ If she gets out of time out you put her right back in the corner. Even if you have to do that 500 times, ... [snip!] ... when she is quiet she is to stay there for 5 mins. She will get it eventually and it is a lot of work to do in the beginning.”

Lord im at the brink of having a break down lmao

I never yell NEVER but she kept at it i was going on 40 minutes trying to get her to sit still. Raise my voice once and told her to sit and be quiet and she finally did. SHe hasnt said or did anything in 1 minutes   yay im getting somewhere. I love her but man she needs some disipline it will only get worse

Whats next wait 5 minutes and then?

After 5 mins. go down to her level and talk to her about her behaviour. Tell her if she does it again she will go to time out and ask her for an apology. Then totally clean the slate. Good luck,

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ After 5 mins. go down to her level and talk to her about her behaviour. Tell her if she does it again she will go to time out and ask her for an apology. Then totally clean the slate. Good luck,”

thanks mama i need all the luck i can get!

Quoting AliG:“ thanks mama i need all the luck i can get!”

lol

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ lol”

OMG it worked!!!! I feel great that she actually listened and now shes outside playing like nothing happened

Yay thanks everyone...What would i do without BG

Quoting AliG:“ OMG it worked!!!! I feel great that she actually listened and now shes outside playing like nothing happened Yay thanks everyone...What would i do without BG”

Great I am so glad, next tantrum put her in time out and keep putting her there, a lot of parents give up after so long but if you do that you win. I run a daycare so I deal with a lot of kids and if you are persisitent it always works, congrats.

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ Great I am so glad, next tantrum put her in time out and keep putting her there, a lot of parents give ... [snip!] ... but if you do that you win. I run a daycare so I deal with a lot of kids and if you are persisitent it always works, congrats.”

  thanks!