re: Is this appropriate?

thats a pretty amazing camera phone photo then.

Quoting 1337 317704:“ thats a pretty amazing camera phone photo then.”

This one was taken on his phone too.

I actually like the photo, kinda neat and I am sure his other hand is there, I would drop it if I were you.

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ I actually like the photo, kinda neat and I am sure his other hand is there, I would drop it if I were you.”

It's a neat picture...if it were someone else's baby. I wasn't going to bring it up with him anytime soon.

Quoting K!:“ It's a neat picture...if it were someone else's baby.”

Men might not always do thing the right way, I am sure his hand is there and I would like the photo if it were my baby, I would frame it. I wouldn't worry.

I would say that its a beautiful and amazing capture.

Quoting Melissa - Mom of 2:“ Men might not always do thing the right way, I am sure his hand is there and I would like the photo if it were my baby, I would frame it. I wouldn't worry.”

Eh. I think what really gets me isn't so much this picture. It's the fact that instead of helping me out with her (financially and otherwise), he bought a corvette instead and I had to go begging one of my ex for money to buy her formula. I completely ran out of formula one day and I asked him to borrow money to get formula and he refused. But I will ask him how he took the picture because he was alone with her that day for an hour (when I see him of course).

Quoting K!:“ Eh. I think what really gets me isn't so much this picture. It's the fact that instead of helping me ... [snip!] ... But I will ask him how he took the picture because he was alone with her that day for an hour (when I see him of course).”

Have you filed for child support?

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ Have you filed for child support?”

Eh...no. We're still married even though we split in September. He's been in Iraq and I'm waiting to work to file the divorce. I have a job interview on Monday and I hope I get the job. I didn't apply for the one I'm interviewing for but the medical director liked my resume and wants to interview me. It's an instructor position for the medical assistant program.

Quoting K!:“ Eh...no. We're still married even though we split in September. He's been in Iraq and I'm waiting to ... [snip!] ... the medical director liked my resume and wants to interview me. It's an instructor position for the medical assistant program.”

So, then legally he doesn't have any obligation to support you. If you are separated then you are able to file for child support and as you are still married, he has every right to his child. If he wants to come and take her, and legally you can not stop him.

Think about filing all of this as soon as possible.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ So, then legally he doesn't have any obligation to support you. If you are separated then you are ... [snip!] ... If he wants to come and take her, and legally you can not stop him. Think about filing all of this as soon as possible.”

She doesn't have to let him take the baby. Since they are still married then she has just as much right to the child as he does. Unless there is a custody agreement in place she doesn't have to let him see his child at all. but... it would look better in court if she didn't deny him visitation.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ So, then legally he doesn't have any obligation to support you. If you are separated then you are ... [snip!] ... If he wants to come and take her, and legally you can not stop him. Think about filing all of this as soon as possible.”

I am. My roommate knows a lawyer who will take payments. As far as he wanting to see Karina, he's been back for a month and hasn't contacted me to see her. He took leave and went to see his friends in San Antonio instead.

Thank you very much. You are very helpful.

Quoting ♥Evan's Mommy♥:“ She doesn't have to let him take the baby. Since they are still married then she has just as much right ... [snip!] ... place she doesn't have to let him see his child at all. but... it would look better in court if she didn't deny him visitation.”

I don't plan on denying him visitation. I'll have the lawyer put a visitation and child support arrangement with the divorce. But I won't allow him unsupervised visitation. At least not until he gets counseling. He put me in a choke hold and dragged me across the floor when I was pregnant and screamed at me and called me names as I was holding my daughter and this was when she was only a week old. I'm not leaving someone like that alone with my daughter, not even if he's her dad.

Quoting K!:“ I don't plan on denying him visitation. I'll have the lawyer put a visitation and child support arrangement ... [snip!] ... and this was when she was only a week old. I'm not leaving someone like that alone with my daughter, not even if he's her dad.”

I would have to agree with you there. There is no way that someone that is capable of that would be around my child without supervision. I didn't say that you were going to deny him visitation I was just saying that you have that right.

Quoting K!:“ I don't plan on denying him visitation. I'll have the lawyer put a visitation and child support arrangement ... [snip!] ... and this was when she was only a week old. I'm not leaving someone like that alone with my daughter, not even if he's her dad.”

Did you file a police report about either of the incidents? Seek medical attention for the choke hold incident?

And no, legally she can not deny him access to his child....it would strengthen ANY custody or visitation suit that he wishes to file. Especially considering he just returned from Iraq, it will make her look EXTREMELY bad in the eyes of the court.