re: Is this appropriate?

Quoting K!:“ It was taken from his phone. He only brought his clothes, laptop, phone, and ipod when he came to see her. Unless his phone has a timer and a tripod too, I don't know how to explain it.”

Well, the only way that he would be able to take a photo like that is if he grew another arm.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ Well, the only way that he would be able to take a photo like that is if he grew another arm.”

Exactly!!


OP-just drop it. He's not in her life anyway..so why the hell worry?

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ Well, the only way that he would be able to take a photo like that is if he grew another arm.”

He's 5'11. The his wrist and his left hand is all that's showing (with Karina and parts of her blanket). It's not hard for him to put his right hand over his left to take a picture. But did he do that? Not sure. Just a guess.

Quoting K!:“ He's 5'11. The his wrist and his left hand is all that's showing (with Karina and parts of her blanket). ... [snip!] ... It's not hard for him to put his right hand over his left to take a picture. But did he do that? Not sure. Just a guess.”

Who cares? Really? In the grand scheme of things does it really matter?

Quoting Addison's Mama!:“ Exactly!! OP-just drop it. He's not in her life anyway..so why the hell worry?”

Because if he decides that he wants to see her, I'm not going to deny him that right. But if he does anything that can cause her injury, I would like to know.

Quoting K!:“ Because if he decides that he wants to see her, I'm not going to deny him that right. But if he does anything that can cause her injury, I would like to know.”

AH! That truth comes out....you want to limit his visitation by having a bunch of women on here look at a photo and judge whether or not he hurt his daughter.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ Who cares? Really? In the grand scheme of things does it really matter?”

I care. I'm her mom and if anything like that happens again, I would like to know. Even if she doesn't get hurt, if she gets scared or whatever for some reason, I want to know what the reason is because I'm the one who has to deal with it, not him.

Quoting K!:“ Because if he decides that he wants to see her, I'm not going to deny him that right. But if he does anything that can cause her injury, I would like to know.”

So because of this picture you're going to keep him from seeing his child...mother's like you piss me off.
That's why you posted the picture...

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ AH! That truth comes out....you want to limit his visitation by having a bunch of women on here look at a photo and judge whether or not he hurt his daughter.”

Nope. There's not court order for visitation. And other people's interpretation won't affect a judge's interpretation.

Quoting K!:“ Nope. There's not court order for visitation. And other people's interpretation won't affect a judge's interpretation.”

I'm aware of that, as I have been through custody issues before.

I said visitation, as you have set a precedent by allowing him visits without a court order.

Quoting Addison's Mama!:“ So because of this picture you're going to keep him from seeing his child...mother's like you piss me off. That's why you posted the picture...”

I HAVE YET TO KEEP HIM FROM HER! I'm still waiting on him to ask to see her. I'm in El Paso, TX and he's in Killeen. He was in Iraq from June 11, 2008 until June 3, 2009. I just saw this picture now and he already took his leave. So no, I'm not keeping him from her. He's also he wants nothing to do with her and I still allow him to see her when he asked. And he hasn't asked.

Quoting K!:“ I care. I'm her mom and if anything like that happens again, I would like to know. Even if she doesn't ... [snip!] ... scared or whatever for some reason, I want to know what the reason is because I'm the one who has to deal with it, not him.”

I can definitely understand being concerned. I think as parents we tend to be more overprotective of our children than any outsider would. I think asking other opinions before calling him up was smart  

Quoting Beth [Tegan's Mommy]:“ I can definitely understand being concerned. I think as parents we tend to be more overprotective of ... [snip!] ... more overprotective of our children than any outsider would. I think asking other opinions before calling him up was smart  ”

That's what I was just thinking. It seems like a big deal to me because I was the one who was carrying her and gave birth to her (all alone) and have been raising her by myself, I think if and when he asks me to see her, that I'll just let him know that I didn't feel that holding her that way at 6 days old is appropriate and in the future, I would appreciate if he lets me know so that I'm aware of what's going on.

Thanks!

Quoting K!:“ That's what I was just thinking. It seems like a big deal to me because I was the one who was carrying ... [snip!] ... days old is appropriate and in the future, I would appreciate if he lets me know so that I'm aware of what's going on. Thanks!”

So, he has to check with you before doing anything with his daughter?

Quoting speaktruth2powr:“ So, he has to check with you before doing anything with his daughter?”

I'm not leaving him alone until she gets to know him. She doesn't know him at all. If I leave her alone with anyone she doesn't know, she'll cry her lungs out. He's no different just because he's her dad. And no, but if she gets scared, I would like to know why or if she gets bruises because she fell or whatever reason. Like me, she bruises easily. She's hit her head an it bruised up instantly. I would also like to know what he feeds her (for now). He doesn't know what she's supposed to be eating or not eating at her age.

He's never been around so I'm not going to assume that he's a good dad. He doesn't even know how to change her diaper.