I'm not sure if I am overreacting

its kind of long butsome opinions would be nice


Ok so my dad hasn't been there for most of my life and when i turned twenty he decided to call and apologize and promise he was a better person and that i could call him for anything. And for awhile we had gotten really close and he was so excited about being a grandpa, since my sister won't let him have anything to do with her children.
So back in May.....i was put in the hospital and i called him and he didnt answer....my whole family had been calling him and he wouldnt answer. SO then i'm thinking maybe something has happened to him, because it wasn't like him to not answer my calls.
So maybe a week later i call my g-ma and she tells me he hasnt answered my calls because he was with his wife ...... and his wife doesn't want him talking to me.....It just really hurt my feelings because i finally opened the door and let him back in my life and he pulled that same stunt he had pulling for the last 7 to 8 years.
So finally today he calls me after two months of ignoring my phone calls, he tries to act like nothing has happened....

so i told him to please not call me anymore.....because i don't feel its ight to jump in and out of my life as you please

Then my brother calls me and tells im overreacting and that i should just forgive him, but i'm like you weren't being purposely ignored by him because of his wife....he was ALLOWED to call you etc.....so of course you wouldn't feel any type of way towards him

do you think i'm overreacting?

i don't think you're overreacting at all , i would feel the same way, if the wife is preventing a relationship with his daughter & he is allowing it. . i wouldn't stand for it .

i think you are.

youre mad at him because of what someone told you.

you never asked for his side of the story.

you never let him tell you what was going on.

and you didnt talk to him like an adult about the issue.

i dont think your overreacting thats not right for him not to talk to his own daughter all because of his stupid bitch ass wife. i wouldnt stand it i would stand up. but your not overreacting mama.

You aren't over reacting. You have every right to cut him out of your life for his behavior. You don't need toxic relationships, and this sounds like one of them.

Oh, and his wife LET him call? Please, I doubt she has the phone chained to herself to ensure no one else uses it.

Don't let your brother guilt trip you. Just move on with your life.

Quoting P O L I C E:“ i think you are. youre mad at him because of what someone told you. you never asked for his side of ... [snip!] ... his side of the story. you never let him tell you what was going on. and you didnt talk to him like an adult about the issue.”

but why didnt he call her for two months? and not answer her calls?

Quoting ~GoT mIlK?~?~?~i Do~!~!~!:“ but why didnt he call her for two months? and not answer her calls?”

exactly , he acted like nothing happened !

Quoting YANA`S MAMY x3:“ exactly , he acted like nothing happened !”

yeah i know its stupid i would be acting the same way she is if it was my dad doing that kind of stuff to me.

Have you heard his side of the story?  I guess if you know without a doubt that he was ignoring your calls due to his wife then that's your call. If I was in that situation I would explain to him how hard it has been to let him back in my life. That I want this to work but this is his last chance and if he does it again it's over and I'd be moving on. I'd let him explain and have a serious talk with him.  

Quoting ~GoT mIlK?~?~?~i Do~!~!~!:“ yeah i know its stupid i would be acting the same way she is if it was my dad doing that kind of stuff to me.”

me too , it's unacceptable .

Also think about how he will be in and out of your child's life, do you want your child to think thats apropriate?

Quoting YANA`S MAMY x3:“ me too , it's unacceptable .”

it is.

Quoting P O L I C E:“ i think you are. youre mad at him because of what someone told you. you never asked for his side of ... [snip!] ... his side of the story. you never let him tell you what was going on. and you didnt talk to him like an adult about the issue.”

this isn't the first time its happened....
i already know for a fact when he is with his wife that he can't talk to me
his wife has told me 100's of time to quit trying to have a relationship with him because he's no longer my father......which IMO i think he could and should have told her to stop but he didn't
i guess i didn't phrase that correctly in the OP....

Quoting April &{{Kaycee♥}}:“ this isn't the first time its happened.... i already know for a fact when he is with his wife that ... [snip!] ... IMO i think he could and should have told her to stop but he didn't i guess i didn't phrase that correctly in the OP.... ”

than your deffinatly not overreacting if this isnt the first time. i dont see why she would say he's not your father anymore. your dad should be man enough to tell her that you are his daughter and that he is going to have a relationship with you, but doesnt seem like he wants one really bad if he is going to listen to what his wife is saying

Quoting ❀BeanSprouts Mama:“ Have you heard his side of the story? I guess if you know without a doubt that he was ignoring your ... [snip!] ... his last chance and if he does it again it's over and I'd be moving on. I'd let him explain and have a serious talk with him. ”

he told me his phone has been broke thats why he hadn't answered my calls.....but it didn't make sense because he answers and calls my brother.....

I'm closest to my mom.....so it bothers his wife when he has anything to do with me.....she's a little insecure