Porn?

I found porn all over the computer today that my fiancee was looking at. He's never looked at it before. We've talked about it, and he said it was stupid and never looked at it. So then WHY does he start when our sex life starts going down because I am so far along in my pregnancy and I feel like a huge ugly cow.
I asked him why, and he tried acting like he didn't know what I was talking about. It pops up on the computer right away when you open up a new tab. It shows all the recent sites. Then hes like, "So?"

I wish this didn't bother me so much, but I can't help but let it. Especially since things aren't going that great with our relationship right now.

He should respect your opinion on the matter and not do it if it bothers you.

Quoting ☆CAN+1[32wks!]:“ I found porn all over the computer today that my fiancee was looking at. He's never looked at it before. ... [snip!] ... me so much, but I can't help but let it. Especially since things aren't going that great with our relationship right now.”

momma i know how u feel i been in your shoes too lol mines didi the same thing! and this was when i was pregers 6 months ago lol

My thoughts on the porn thing with my SO is better his hand than another girls vagina... im starting to realize the last few months of pregnancy has put alot of stress on me and my SO.. its rough but i know after we both calm down it will all work out..... but yea we dont have sex much anymore... and id rather him watch porn to get off than go find someone else..

Quoting ♥Shay♥:“ He should respect your opinion on the matter and not do it if it bothers you.”

i want a cupcake 

Better porn than cheating, right?
My sex life has remained extremely active throughout the pregnancy, I'll be 37 weeks tomorrow & we have sex daily, at least once or twice. So, my SO really has no need.

Why is it when they KNOW we are feeling our crapiest and are all huge and pregnant and have the lowest self esteem, they do shit to piss us off! Men!

It's just porn. And he isn't getting any. He isn't seeking satisfaction from other women so that's good.  

I wouldn't really know because I am due in 5 weeks and I am still bangin' it out like I am trying to make a baby.  

If it bugs the OP, then it bugs the OP.

It doesn't make her feelings less valid just because some women aren't bothered by it.

I TRY to have sex a couple times a week, but he is usually too tired or something. That's why it has gone down. So it makes me feel unattractive. Then to find that hes looking at porn....I dont get it. I'm trying to have sex with him, I just thought he didn't want it.

I guess it's just me he doesn't want.

I've been through the same thing and have had so many fights over it in years past. But slowly my outlook on the subject has been changing.

IDK how long you all have been together but I feel the longer my relationship goes on, the more secure I feel in it. I know being all pregnant and hormonal throws another element to being pissed off when you find out your man has been looking @ porn but think about a reversal.

What if you husband were injured somehow, and temporarily your sex life was put on the breaks? Would you want him putting statuates and limitations on your randyness? I know I wouldn't like someone else making a rule list for me to follow when it came to my own body. It really is preferrable to finding him with another chick.

However, your feelings shouldn't be begrudged. He should stick to one POV instead of bullshitting around with you, trying to wiggle his way out of an explaination.

I personally wouldnt be too bothered by it, but I am sure if I was really pregnant and are sex life was going down I would feel bad. But it would piss me off if he lied about it. I dont know what I would do though bc I dont really care unless my DH is doing it every night and then running to go take a shower haha.

Quoting ☆CAN+1[32wks!]:“ I TRY to have sex a couple times a week, but he is usually too tired or something. That's why it has ... [snip!] ... dont get it. I'm trying to have sex with him, I just thought he didn't want it. I guess it's just me he doesn't want.”

Well if that is the case then you definitely have a leg to stand on. Have you had a heart to heart with him in a non-confrontational way?

Seriously, that was the only way I got my husband to open up and level with me on the subject. Screaming and crying got me no where but once I sat down with him and calmly said "I just want to understand", we hashed it out and got to the bottom of it.

He hasn't looked in years and I trust him on it.

Quoting ☆CAN+1[32wks!]:“ I TRY to have sex a couple times a week, but he is usually too tired or something. That's why it has ... [snip!] ... dont get it. I'm trying to have sex with him, I just thought he didn't want it. I guess it's just me he doesn't want.”

Well, if you don't want to have sex then don't. You shouldn't feel like you have to.

Quoting HautéMamaInYoFace:“ Well if that is the case then you definitely have a leg to stand on. Have you had a heart to heart ... [snip!] ... "I just want to understand", we hashed it out and got to the bottom of it. He hasn't looked in years and I trust him on it.”

I agree. There are so many reasons that people do what they do. And the only way to really figure this one out is to talk it over with him and get him to open up.