Question about adoption.

My friend just informed me she think she might be pregnant, but she isn't ready for a baby, so she asked me if I would want to adopt it. Of course I told her that I would have to talk to my husband first, but I'm not sure how that would work with the whole adoption process. Has anyone been through this to give me a little insight, just in case she does find out that she is?

Quoting TTC a 2010 Miracle:“ My friend just informed me she think she might be pregnant, but she isn't ready for a baby, so she asked ... [snip!] ... whole adoption process. Has anyone been through this to give me a little insight, just in case she does find out that she is?”

i don't know the first thing about starting the adoption process from scratch-- what i DO know is that if you've got a pre-set relationship as you two do, it will be easier and less time-consuming.

Quoting TTC a 2010 Miracle:“ My friend just informed me she think she might be pregnant, but she isn't ready for a baby, so she asked ... [snip!] ... whole adoption process. Has anyone been through this to give me a little insight, just in case she does find out that she is?”

If she is, and she decides she does want to give up the baby, get a lawyer. Immediately.

You need to get consult a lawyer specializing in private adoption cases...They'll basically walk you and her through the process of what needs to be done.

I dunno.. but tht would be amazing if this could happen for u!

This member Myself and her friend were in that situation. She would have adopted, only her friend lost the baby.   She might be able to help you.



Good luck Leigh!

Iwould think very hard about adopting a baby from a friend. Even though she might not be ready for a baby, it will still be very traumatic for her to watch you raise the baby and not have her say in the way you might do things kwim? In essence the baby might never truely be yours, you would just be raising it for her. I gave a child for adoption many years ago and even though i knew I couldnt keep the baby, I would have camped on their doorstep if i knew where they were and hounded them for endless information about my daughter. The first few years are incredibly heart-breaking for a birth mother.I dont want to throw a spanner in the works but it is something to think about.

Good luck thou..and I hope it works out for you!  

Quoting Mom23:“ Iwould think very hard about adopting a baby from a friend. Even though she might not be ready for a ... [snip!] ... want to throw a spanner in the works but it is something to think about. Good luck thou..and I hope it works out for you!  ”

On the other side of the coin though, a lot of people choose to have an open adoption even if it's strangers adopting their baby. That way even though they can't be the one raising the child they can still be involved in their life and watch them grow.

It's different for everyone going through it, and I imagine if the friend asked Leigh if she would consider adopting she has already given it some thought and would be comfortable with Leigh raising her child.

You are absolutely right..and I dont know anything about Leigh and her friend..just wanted to put another perspective on the question. I mean, grandparents adopt grandchildren, sisters adopt their siblings children so it can work..i just wanted to let her know it is something to think about.

That's amazing of you Leigh.

A few things to think about:

-If she is, get a lawyer ASAP
-Would adopting her child stress your friendship out in any way in the long run? Will she be okay with it 6 months later? 1 year later? 5 years later?
-Are you fully prepared for the letdown if she changes her mind?

Stuff like that.

Quoting Mara:“ i don't know the first thing about starting the adoption process from scratch-- what i DO know is that if you've got a pre-set relationship as you two do, it will be easier and less time-consuming.”

Thanks. I thought that it would make things easier too.

Quoting ecandigirlx:“ I dunno.. but tht would be amazing if this could happen for u!”

I know! I'm hoping that she is, and she is too but for me. She knows how hard we have tried.

Quoting A & E:“ This member Myself and her friend were in that situation. She would have adopted, only her friend lost the baby.   She might be able to help you. Good luck Leigh!”

Thanks. I'll ask her too then.

Quoting Mom23:“ Iwould think very hard about adopting a baby from a friend. Even though she might not be ready for a ... [snip!] ... want to throw a spanner in the works but it is something to think about. Good luck thou..and I hope it works out for you!  ”

Well she knows that if she wants to see it or have anything to do with it, she's more than welcome. I wouldn't do that to my friend. I also know that the baby would be better off with us than it would with her, she's not in a good situation in her life right now to take care of a baby.

Thanks!

Quoting Slytherins Heiress OLS:“ That's amazing of you Leigh. A few things to think about: -If she is, get a lawyer ASAP -Would ... [snip!] ... later? 1 year later? 5 years later? -Are you fully prepared for the letdown if she changes her mind? Stuff like that.”

I think she's pretty much thought this through before, she has thought she was before and asked me to take it if she was, but she ended getting AF. We've talked about this numerous times, and I'm always the one she comes to if she thinks she might be.