About my brother!!! help?!?!?!

okay well my brother who is 18, just turned 18 in June, just graduated in May, found out his girlfriend of 19 months is preggers, she's 18 and just graduated as well. He doesn't want the baby and she kind of lets him run her life, he's an asshole to her.But he was using the pull out method like a jerk. now I love my brother and want to help him and his gf, but our whole family is like ohhh well on the subject. They both have jubs not good paying ones but jobs, and they both have cars, but they both still live at home, my brother lives with his dad, and she lives with her grandparents. How in the world can I help them out without sounding too pushy or mean?

How do you want to help them? Like encourage them not to have the baby? Or what?

Just let them know you're there to help, no matter their decision.

That's all you really can do. They're "adults" now.

you really cant do anything if they dont want the baby, Iwould just personally talk to the girl and see if she wants the baby or if she is doing what he wants, this can end bad in two ways.. her regreting for the rest of her life (if she does want it) for termintating...or him leaving her because he doesnt want the baby....... I will keep them in my thoughts and hope they make a descion they wont regret

I got pregnant right after i graduated high school. I still went to college full-time and I just finished my first year, while my boyfriend works full-time. It's not easy thats for sure.. but they will be okay. All you can really do at this point is be supportive.. they're old enough to make decisions for themselves.

Im gonna try to answer everyone at once, I want to help them any way I can, I'm not going to take her to the clinic if she decides to abort, but I want to help them emotionally and if I have to financially, she wants the baby, but she will let my bro talk her into about anything. I have tried to call them but they havent been answering, the girl is really nice, she is an absolute sweetheart, and that is my first niece or nephew in there and I want to see them one day. I understand my bros thinking but he got himself into this and I don't want to see him hurt hisself or her for this, not like he would beat her I hope not, just in the future thinking what if. My mom had an abortion, because my brother's dad wanted her to he said Iwill leave you if you don't and she didn't know what to do and he left her anyway. and my brother is just like his dad. I just want to help any way possible and make sure this baby gets here and is healthy. I would take the baby till they were ready, if I had to

I know when you go to have an abortion they ask you if you have been "influenced in any way to go with this choice" They ask you all kinds of questions. And if you are being pushed into it by someone else, but you want the child they tell you to do what you think is best. I hope she doesnt choose to get an abortion, I've been there and it is the only thing I regret in life. But I have my reasons.

Quoting [Once Upon A Time]:“ I know when you go to have an abortion they ask you if you have been "influenced in any way to go with ... [snip!] ... I hope she doesnt choose to get an abortion, I've been there and it is the only thing I regret in life. But I have my reasons.”

I know here they make you watch a video and wait 2 days till you can get it, but I hope she don't to, she knew what having sex like that does I even offered to take her to get some birth control at the local health department when she was 17 but she said they would tell her grandparents I tried to tell her that they couldnt but she don't listen

Quoting Kaylee+Kaelin'sMommy:“ I know here they make you watch a video and wait 2 days till you can get it, but I hope she don't to, ... [snip!] ... when she was 17 but she said they would tell her grandparents I tried to tell her that they couldnt but she don't listen”

my sis is on BC and my dad doesnt know. I'm happy she is because who knows what kind of guys she is into.

Quoting [Once Upon A Time]:“ my sis is on BC and my dad doesnt know. I'm happy she is because who knows what kind of guys she is into.”

the girl is kind of an air head but i dont want her to do anything she would regre, hell if she can put up with drake she can deal with a baby

Quoting Kaylee+Kaelin'sMommy:“ the girl is kind of an air head but i dont want her to do anything she would regre, hell if she can put up with drake she can deal with a baby”

yep. I think a baby would be easier than putting up with my SO each day. Or putting up with my dad. I wont even mind the crying and waking up all hours of the day and night. Because it only takes a little to please my LO. Men are so difficult.

Quoting [Once Upon A Time]:“ yep. I think a baby would be easier than putting up with my SO each day. Or putting up with my dad. ... [snip!] ... the crying and waking up all hours of the day and night. Because it only takes a little to please my LO. Men are so difficult.”

well my brother is such a baby, and hes crazy like the restof my family hes all nice one minute then all crazy the next, he has to be borderline psycho

Quoting Kaylee+Kaelin'sMommy:“ well my brother is such a baby, and hes crazy like the restof my family hes all nice one minute then all crazy the next, he has to be borderline psycho”

sounds like my brother.   He treats his girlfriends like shit. He blames everyone for the stupidest things. If I dont answer my phone when he calls he gets angry, but I cannot call him or he'll flip out and call me names and claim I'm trying to get him fired. He shouldn't even have his phone on at work, which is mcdonalds.   He calls me to ask me to give him rides places and I tell him I dont have gas, or I'm across town with my SO, and all these other excuses that are actually legit. He yells at me over the phone and tries to make me feel like shit. The other day he asked me to drive him over to sign up for welfare, lmao, I tried to explain to him you have to be :
a] female at least 6 months pregnant
b] have a child under 18 in the household
c] disabled / unable to work
there are more but I can't remember. And he got angry at me. I told him I'd rather not waste my time and gas to run him downtown and have him find all this out himself then get pissed at me because I already knew. I lose either way.

Quoting [Once Upon A Time]:“ sounds like my brother.   He treats his girlfriends like shit. He blames everyone for the stupidest ... [snip!] ... gas to run him downtown and have him find all this out himself then get pissed at me because I already knew. I lose either way.”

My brother isn't that bad but he basically thinks the world revolves around him, I have gave him rides, but he has a car now, my brother is like almost 6'5 but i will still beat him down if he treats me like that I will never be scared of him, I have been kicking his ass for too many years haha

Quoting Kaylee+Kaelin'sMommy:“ My brother isn't that bad but he basically thinks the world revolves around him, I have gave him rides, ... [snip!] ... beat him down if he treats me like that I will never be scared of him, I have been kicking his ass for too many years haha”

My brother is only a little over a year younger than me. He thinks he can control me. LOL. Since he is the only boy, well sorry to burst his bubble. Even if he were older he wouldn't be telling me what to do.