re: Co-Sleepers

OP i would really recommend putting your bed on the ground

at first i laid blankets on the carpet next to my bed, then when i got more comfortable and she got a little bigger, she went into our bed  

Quoting tantriclemons☮ebfb:“ OP i would really recommend putting your bed on the ground at first i laid blankets on the carpet next ... [snip!] ... blankets on the carpet next to my bed, then when i got more comfortable and she got a little bigger, she went into our bed  ”

Oh boy. I just raised my bed so I could have storage underneath it. I really have almost no space for my belongings, since I am sharing the house with 3 other people.
Of course, I will absolutely do what is best for my child!!

Thanks for all the input ladies. I really appreciate it!!

Quoting BrunieGoose:“ Oh boy. I just raised my bed so I could have storage underneath it. I really have almost no space for ... [snip!] ... people. Of course, I will absolutely do what is best for my child!! Thanks for all the input ladies. I really appreciate it!!”

lol it helps when it is on the floor, because you may not feel comfortable in the beginning

Quoting tantriclemons☮ebfb:“ she is talking about one case where a nanny took a baby into a bed at a beach house where the baby ... [snip!] ... the wall. They dont say what kind of bed, if the mattress slips around, if she was drunk there are no details in the story”

It has happened more than once, but you're right...it was a nanny, there were no details, and it's not as if every baby who sleeps between the mommy and the wall ends up smooshed.

Maybe putting my LO between us wasn't the best way to do it, but it worked for us. We had her in a sleep positioner and he and I both slept very lightly the whole time. That's probably another reason why we all slept better with her in her crib.

I in no way meant to imply that I'm any kind of expert on the subject, or that I know the best way to do any of this. Actually, I don't do most things in life the "right" way.

I had no intentions to co-sleep in the beginning. I had the pack n play set up next to the bed, and the first night home we put her in there, and she just looked so little and I worried about her getting cold and everything, so I picked her up and held her all night. At her 1-month pedi appointment, the dr said he had a lot of friends who co-sleep and he wasn't going to tell me what to do, but that the safest thing was for baby to be in her own crib. A few weeks later, we made the transition because it seemed like we were all ready for it, and it has all worked out really well. I totally get the logic behind co-sleeping. I think it's great for a lot of people, and it was great for us in the beginning.

Quoting tantriclemons☮ebfb:“ And i would just like to point out that co-sleeping actually reduces SIDS and of course its important to do it safely and there are ways to do it”

OMG Thank you for pointing that out. In almost every co sleeping thread there is that idiot who claims it increases the chances of SIDS.

I co slept with my daughter and didn't have aco sleeper. Well we were given a pillow one by my sister but barely used it. We put her in the middle of us and we both kinda just stuck to our side of the bed. Or there were times she slept on my chest.

Hi - I know I'm new here (I've been lurking for a while) I just wanted to say I've for various reasons been researching co-sleeping for sometime. Safetywise it's difficult to tell anything because when something goes wrong the statistics get lumped together weather mum/dad/other was drunk, or unsafe co-sleeping was taking place ie on a couch (sorry to everyone who has done this - my OH has done this I'm just repeating what I have been reading).

The basic advice seems to be don't push your bed against the wall - baby could slip down the crack (I have no opinion on this just repeating what I have been reading), only let baby sleep next to mum, don't co-sleep if any substances are involved (smoking, drink, meds, drugs) or if you are overtired (with a newborn - hmm?!!), don't use one of those attatachable cot sides (not a crib type co-sleeper - they are supposed to be good) baby might slip into the crack.

Moving your bed to the floor sounds like a great idea (unfortunatly not an option for me due to mobility probs - sigh). One of the other things to be wary about is adult bedding - we are told to be so careful about cot bedding, it makes sense to be careful about not having duvets or blankets up near the baby for them to get tangled in or suffocate under.

It really annoys me that there is no proper research into this - no bloomin scientist (and especially government 'experts') seems to be able to tell the difference between co-sleepers who take loads of precautions and drunk, overly tired, or irresponsible people who might decide to co-sleep up a tree!

Hope that might help a little - partly put it up for anyone who might have looked into it less.

Also have you seen this? No idea if it would suit anyone but it's slightly different from what else I have been able to find. http://www.beanproducts.com/mm5/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=001&Product_Code=10HPH&Category_Code=MaternityProducts

For me if I can't find a way to co-sleep that works and is safe - I'm never going to be able to be left alone with a baby in a crib, as I would never be able to pick a baby up and carry them anywhere.