re: Single mommies??

Quoting kat(::“ i havent had my baby yet but im about 5 1/2 months now and im going to be a single mom. Me and the BD ... [snip!] ... can do it girl. i promise. you dont need a guy to be a good mommy. just be strong enough for both you and your baby. good luck.”

Thanks but its so dern hard. I mean hes with his other bm now...I mean hes never cheated on me with her but she told him that unless he gets back with her he'd never c his daughter...and the sad thing is he did it. He complains to his mother how hes miserable but he walked out on me 4 a low life...shes lost his daughter to the system one time but he still puts up with it  

I feel so abandoned and disgusted, and what makes it so bad he never gave me a warning that he was done with me....im so confused and hurt. And he feels like i got prego on purpose BUT i didn't I was on the pill...i took my pill on time, i never really wanted kids...idk wtf his problem is b \c he SEEN me take my pill EVERY DAMN DAY! ugh sry this was kinda a vent...but im so hurt  

I dnt need to be with him to raise my child, but its sad b/c he's like my bestfriend and now hes just nonexistant in my life

Quoting HuniiB:“ That quote is so true b/c he doesnt feel a connection b/c the bby i snt here and hes only focused on ... [snip!] ... keeps sayin once the bby is born it will b different but idk if ill be able to accept him "changing his tune" then...”

That is exactly how I feel..I keep thinking how I would react when he decides he wants to be there

Quoting n.i.c.o.l.e:“ That is exactly how I feel..I keep thinking how I would react when he decides he wants to be there”

exactly...and him and i haven spoke n a WHILE...and its like idk where he stands w/ this  

Quoting HuniiB:“ exactly...and him and i haven spoke n a WHILE...and its like idk where he stands w/ this  ”

We are in the exact same situation almost...And im tryna get in contact with him so I can find out if he just wants to pay CS or does he actually want a relationship with his child

Quoting n.i.c.o.l.e:“ We are in the exact same situation almost...And im tryna get in contact with him so I can find out if he just wants to pay CS or does he actually want a relationship with his child”

me too...but i dont want his money...if he doesnt wanna b here emotionally for this bby then i dont want ne part of him accept for the chromosomes he donated to this bby

Quoting HuniiB:“ me too...but i dont want his money...if he doesnt wanna b here emotionally for this bby then i dont want ne part of him accept for the chromosomes he donated to this bby”

im not letting him get off easy at all...that's how im looking at. He gonna support this baby some type of way

Quoting n.i.c.o.l.e:“ im not letting him get off easy at all...that's how im looking at. He gonna support this baby some type of way”

I dnt want my bd money...I just want him to be here for this bby...i feel like im gonna be the only one to love my child

i LOVE this topic. me and my bd are having so much trouble. he just isnt ready to be grown up yet. all he wants to do is go out and do him. so i let him bc in the end hes hurting himself. i have all the support i need and i agree GOD can help in many ways. i feel like everything will work out so much better i pray to him every chance that i get. ur bd doesnt deserve a good woman like u. i believe we can all do it on our own. my child will be fine i didnt meet my father until i was 5yrs old and my mom has worked her ass off to provide me with a better life than she ever had and i admire her for that very much. i believe i can do the same for my child even though im young i got all the people i need in my life. and im sure u do as well so dont lose faith and keep ur head up. u can be ur childs mommy and daddy and im sure wen ur child grows up he/she will understand and admire u for everything uve done =] good luck hunny.

Quoting puchi:“ i LOVE this topic. me and my bd are having so much trouble. he just isnt ready to be grown up yet. all ... [snip!] ... and daddy and im sure wen ur child grows up he/she will understand and admire u for everything uve done =] good luck hunny.”

Thank you  

Quoting HuniiB:“ Thanks but its so dern hard. I mean hes with his other bm now...I mean hes never cheated on me with ... [snip!] ... I dnt need to be with him to raise my child, but its sad b/c he's like my bestfriend and now hes just nonexistant in my life”

oh yeah i totally understand what you mean. i feel that hes more connected with his other daughter cause shes here and my babies not. my BD used his other kid as an excuse to be with his other baby mama so i just let him and left him. i know how you feel. itll get better.

Quoting kat(::“ oh yeah i totally understand what you mean. i feel that hes more connected with his other daughter cause ... [snip!] ... his other kid as an excuse to be with his other baby mama so i just let him and left him. i know how you feel. itll get better.”

That's the same thing my BD did. He said hes doing what he has to 2 be in his daughters life, not wat he wants...wtf tell that bitch u have rights too, i mean DUH

Quoting HuniiB:“ That's the same thing my BD did. He said hes doing what he has to 2 be in his daughters life, not wat he wants...wtf tell that bitch u have rights too, i mean DUH”

i know! ugh i think its all just an excuse to be with his ex. thats how guys are. they lie and are manipulative.

Quoting kat(::“ i know! ugh i think its all just an excuse to be with his ex. thats how guys are. they lie and are manipulative.”

Exactly! i feel like ur the only one who really understands what im feeling right now. And it hurts so bad b/c ive been datin him on and off since i was like 15 

Quoting HuniiB:“ Exactly! i feel like ur the only one who really understands what im feeling right now. And it hurts so bad b/c ive been datin him on and off since i was like 15 ”

oh my goshhh.
me and my baby daddy have only been together for a year.

i wouldnt know WHAT to do if i was in your shoes.
i know if me and him were together as long as you and yours it would be
10 times harder than it is now.
i really feel for you   because i know how it feels.

Quoting HuniiB:“ Hello, it's official me and my baby's father are done. I've lost all respect for him as a man, which ... [snip!] ... of being strong all the time. I have NO support system...I just feel lost   Thx 4 reading...had to let some of that out”

Hey just hang in there i went threw the same thing with my babys father i was with him since i was 15 and he couldnt get his stuff in order for me & our daughter. he actually cheated & choked me when i was 5months. I dont speak to him i dont see him, i now have a restraing order on him! im working to get her everything before she comes & im dealing with court and confusing paperwork, and i just got a grant for school now ill have that. Its hard being so tired, wanting that perfect family, having been with some1 so long then all a sudden on your own! But its no longer about how you feel its about whats best for your child! whats going to benfit your child! everyday i wake up & with a little kick here & there im reminded why im pushing my self so hard because my little girl is worth it! she dosnt deserve to grow up in a messed up family or house! or her dad treating me bad! she deserves the world and as hard as it might be thats my job now & it's yours too! you can do it, honestly its just giving 150% no matter what & having people to talk to! i joined babygaga just for that & i made friends on here that are so supportive! You can do it