Doesn't matter now.

Thank you for your opinions..

My husband and I felt the same way, we didn't want to make it such a big deal either, that's why we had a small wedding with a few friends and family and that's it.

What does it matter how other people see their wedding day or their marriage?

If they don't get married, they won't get that "piece of paper" that entitles them to all kinds of legal perquisites and protections.

See, I really think this questions needs to be turned around. If the only thing a couple finds important is the love and the bond, why bother getting legally married? Marriage is a legal contract. Why would you want to "cheapen" your love by making it into a legal contract?

C.

Quoting God:“ What does it matter how other people see their wedding day or their marriage? If they don't get married, ... [snip!] ... married? Marriage is a legal contract. Why would you want to "cheapen" your love by making it into a legal contract? C.”

For us it was a matter of unless we were legally married the military would not recognise us and therefore we would continue to live apart, in different states, seeing each other every other weekend. We needed that piece of paper in order to live together as man and wife, even though we already felt our relationship was complete.

I dunno, I just thought if you get married you make it special   Even if it is only really small. This girl isn't even inviting her close friends because her boyfriend said if she invites them then he is inviting his whole family.. and she doesn't want them there 'staring her down'.

I'm just really confused, and it did matter to me because I was supposed to be abridesmaid and then she decided againest it because she would of had to get a maternity dress because I would be 8 months pregnant and I couldn't afford to give her the $250 at the time she needed it.

Quoting ♥ nov 09 mum 21wks:“ Ok, so my friend and I are in a middle of a huge fight, its slowly been building up for a while now. ... [snip!] ... sentence makes me second think, why the hell even get married if its not such a big deal? PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK  ”

let them do what they want to do case closed.

It is their wedding day, they can do what they want to do. It is their day. Everyone does things differently. It wasn't a huge special deal to me either. We got married in a court house. My DH wants to renew our vows some day and go all out, but it's more for a celebration of our marriage/anniversary type deal.

i think it is her wedding day she can invite or not invite whomever she wants. everyone has their own view on what they want their wedding to be like and hers is obviously different than yours but it is her day so she gets to call the shots. i wouldn't push this too far b/c you might lose your friend over something little.

well ive always thought of wedding as a special occasion but my friend is like that she says its her day its about her its not that big of a deal but to me marrige is we'll be doin it small but to me it means i belong to someone but eveyone thinks of marrige diffently it depends on how you are bought up around marrige to

Bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dresses. I was supposed to be in a wedding last august, but would have been 8 mos pregnant, so I bowed out. My friend was a little bummed, but there was no way I could have stood up for her outside in such hot weather. Ultimately, her wedding and views on it doesn't really affect you, so why bother getting upset about it? If I was your friend I would be irritated that I had to explain myself to you, as well. Throw her a party after, or something, if you want to be involved. My sister eloped at the courthouse, and didn't even tell anyone until after they did it.

We just wanted to go down to city hall and get married, but my Dad insisted we have a ceremony and reception. Since he offered to pay, we took him up on it with the stipulation that I not be required to plan anything - all I'd have to do was get a dress and show up.

C.

Well it doesn't matter about the wedding anymore because that was only 1 small thing that I didn't get... There are loads more to the whole sitiaution but it doesn't matter now because she doesn't want our friendship anymore so now that that is sorted outthanks for your opinions!

Quoting God:“ If the only thing a couple finds important is the love and the bond, why bother getting legally married? .”

This is how I feel. I dunno if you have seen "He's just not that into you" but there is a scene where Ben Affleck is saying he doesn't believe in marriage and I totally agree with it. I can't find the quote though.  

I hate it how people think that just because a person doesn't want to get married, that they don't really love their SO or aren't really comitted to them. etc. My SO wants to get married one day but I don't see the need... the only difference it will make is we'd be wearing rings and have a certificate... and some shit about taxes, that I couldn't care less about.

If other people choose to get married, whatever... but it pisses me off to be judged because I don't. I was actually told on here that my SO doesn't really care about me, just because he "knocks me up" doesn't mean anything if he's not willing to marry me.  

Quoting Ryloony & Soapy's Mummy:“ This is how I feel. I dunno if you have seen "He's just not that into you" but there is a scene where ... [snip!] ... my SO doesn't really care about me, just because he "knocks me up" doesn't mean anything if he's not willing to marry me.  ”

No, I haven't seen it.

C.

Quoting God:“ What does it matter how other people see their wedding day or their marriage? If they don't get married, ... [snip!] ... married? Marriage is a legal contract. Why would you want to "cheapen" your love by making it into a legal contract? C.”

To you it is just a legal contract. But to some, including me, it is a religious commitment before God.