re: Did having a baby change your circle of friends?

Quoting Jenilynn57:“ That's happened to us.. when we were pregnant with JC.. nobody called us to go out or anything, and we ... [snip!] ... my friends from the non parents.. to the ones that were expecting or already had kids.. It's so strange how that works out.”

thats how i feel i would much rather hang out wit ppl that have kids and i ahve no desire to do things that aint pregnancy related or related to my daughter

Quoting Mommy2Be2Kennedy:“ Lately I like hanging around older ppl like my mom,aunts, and ppl with kids. I dont have the desire to ... [snip!] ... change like this during their pregnancy or after having kids? I dont even like shopping unless it pertains to my baby girl!”

yea it is true your life changes drastically and don't get invited to go out really, but when i was prego i was on bedrest in he hospital and it gave me a chance to see who my real friends are.

Mine didn't. We don't get to hang out as much..but they are still my friends. I've known them since my 9th grade year. about 6 years ago.

They don't have kids but they adore my daughter so much! They come to her bday parties, were there in the hospital for me. I could never give them up.

Quoting Mommy2Be2Kennedy:“ Lately I like hanging around older ppl like my mom,aunts, and ppl with kids. I dont have the desire to ... [snip!] ... change like this during their pregnancy or after having kids? I dont even like shopping unless it pertains to my baby girl!”

Yes my life has changed a lot. I stay home with our daughter now, dont work, dont go out (my car broke down so now Im very dependant on my husband to take me shopping, etc.. it sucks!), and my friends never come over anymore. I do get invites to go to get togethers camping or weddings, but they are always late at night and I cant bring my daughter there when she should be sleeping. Its more important to me for her to sleep. The only people I really talk to now are my mom (on the phone), and my brother. Dont get me wrong I love my daughter to bits, I just think I need some more free time. Even if I could just take her shopping with me that would be nice. I havent even got to buy her clothes, everyone else gives them to me, and I use them, but they are their style and not mine. So, yes... you can see my fustration here.... It looks like your life has changed for the better though, hanging out with older people, and other moms is a great way to get advice and support. Just make sure its not all about baby, and you remember to pamper yourself once and awhile.

Quoting Mommy2Be2Kennedy:“ Lately I like hanging around older ppl like my mom,aunts, and ppl with kids. I dont have the desire to ... [snip!] ... change like this during their pregnancy or after having kids? I dont even like shopping unless it pertains to my baby girl!”

I only have 3 people whom I can friends but about a hundred acquaintances.

I'm still on great terms with many people whom I was friends with before pregnancy but now I find them less interesting simply because I'm at a different place in my life, the place they'll only get to in a few years if at all, never mind that they're all much older, some even married, it's still not the same anymore. They're (almost) carefree, I'm not.

I now have to plan to be spontaneous, as ironic as that sounds.

Some acquaintances I don't talk to anymore, others I purposely discarded, some I lost touch with.

My best friend of 7 years who I thought would be in my life until I or he dies - we're no longer friends, we don't even talk, before my pregnancy we were making plans to move to a different country together and purchase property together, needless to say that never worked out.

Quoting *-PoisonIvysMama-*:“ Yes my life has changed a lot. I stay home with our daughter now, dont work, dont go out (my car broke ... [snip!] ... way to get advice and support. Just make sure its not all about baby, and you remember to pamper yourself once and awhile.”

its hard to not make it all about the baby lol... everyone says that i would want a break but i cant imagine taking time away from her my mom and bd says that will change once she is here but i cant imagine it im even considering taking online classes to be with her more i know its crazy right... how old is your baby

Quoting [Tasha^Nika]:“ I only have 3 people whom I can friends but about a hundred acquaintances. I'm still on great terms ... [snip!] ... making plans to move to a different country together and purchase property together, needless to say that never worked out.”

Im sorry to hear that about your bestfriend but how does that make you ppl? I dont talk to my bestfriendmuch neither not because of my pregnancy though and it really doesn't bother me much Im actually lookin for a new group of friends

my life changed...but didnt stop. before i got pregnant with this one i was still going to bbqs, we would have people over and drink and have fun, i still went out about twice a month...sometimes once a month. i need to get out every now and then. and when we go out the kids are already in bed so we arent missing anything.

Quoting Mommy2Be2Kennedy:“ Lately I like hanging around older ppl like my mom,aunts, and ppl with kids. I dont have the desire to ... [snip!] ... change like this during their pregnancy or after having kids? I dont even like shopping unless it pertains to my baby girl!”

Yes tremedously!! I used to be a HUGE partier and believe it or not a juggalette and not give a damn about anybody or myself. I also used to hang out with the wrong crowd. Now i've been sober over a year and don't plan on stopping my sobriety anytime soon, I don't hang out with any of those people anymore, i'm not a juggalette because I don't want my son growing up listening to that music or hanging around that crowd(sorry if anyone on here is offended by that), and I lovemy son todeath. I really want to raise him right and i'll do anything to do that even completely change myself and drop my old friends(some of them dropped me). However I do still hang out with friends. I'm trying to as much as I can. Just not bad ones. And I only have a couple friends now that are true friends. I think that happens to most mamas though.

My life didn't change much. I still have the same friends, none of which have kids. My SO and I usually hang out with other couples though, which is really fun for us. I grew up really young, so partying and all that is really played out for me. My son goes with me everywhere, and my friends are really supportive and accepting of the fact that I have a different role in life now.

It seems that everything is exactly the same, just with a precious addition. My relationship, my body, friends, school, etc haven't changed one bit. I can truely say I am blessed.

Quoting ~China Doll~™:“ My life didn't change much. I still have the same friends, none of which have kids. My SO and I usually ... [snip!] ... a precious addition. My relationship, my body, friends, school, etc haven't changed one bit. I can truely say I am blessed.”

You are onevery lucky mama! And truly blessed!

Quoting Kota's♥Mommy:“ You are onevery lucky mama! And truly blessed!”

I feel that way, even though things are not perfect. I just like to look for the positive in everything. But, as a whole, I am very content with the way my life is going. No complaints here!!

Quoting Kota's♥Mommy:“ Yes tremedously!! I used to be a HUGE partier and believe it or not a juggalette and not give a damn ... [snip!] ... can. Just not bad ones. And I only have a couple friends now that are true friends. I think that happens to most mamas though.”

whats a juggalette? i completely agree about doing anything to raise your son right... i feel the same way about raising my daughter

Quoting ~China Doll~™:“ My life didn't change much. I still have the same friends, none of which have kids. My SO and I usually ... [snip!] ... a precious addition. My relationship, my body, friends, school, etc haven't changed one bit. I can truely say I am blessed.”

I like the part about hanging out with couples and taking your son everywhere those are some of my same interest and things i see myself doing esp taking my daughter everywhere... and you are def blessed

Quoting Mommy2Be2Kennedy:“ whats a juggalette? i completely agree about doing anything to raise your son right... i feel the same way about raising my daughter”

It's agirl that listens to ICP, Twiztid, ABK, etc.. if you know who those bands are. The people that wear face make-up and all that. That's great! I put my son above everything. Luckily I have made other friends but I would never put those idiots ahead of him just so I could keep my friends.