raped now 16 pregnant and confused
posted 4th Jul
so i am only 16 years old. i will turn 17 in september. as of now i have a date set for when i can have my abortion, july 14. but now i am seriously reconsideing after realizing how far this has gone.
back in may i had gone to a party in philly with a girl i knew and her cousin. that night i had maybe one drink but i cannot remember anything from that night. he next morning i awoke throwing up but completly dressed. i thought nothing of the night before just that i had a lot to drink possibly. my friends left me at the party and i didnt make it home till 3pm the next day thanks to a couple leaving the house. after missing my period in june i began to wonder but never thought it was possible. a few weeks later i began to throw up and i just recently missed my second period.when i threw up i realized something must have hppened and i was pregnant. so i waited while but just yesterday told my mom i thought i could be pregnant or very sick. she was the one who made me realize it was ape. i had never really thought of it in that way before. but she went out and boughta test.the test was positive. my mom so far is ok with this but the rest of my family and friends will probably not talk to me again. what makes it worse is i have a d1 scholarship for basketball but having a baby might change that. i could really use help on this! i am so confused.
quoteback in may i had gone to a party in philly with a girl i knew and her cousin. that night i had maybe one drink but i cannot remember anything from that night. he next morning i awoke throwing up but completly dressed. i thought nothing of the night before just that i had a lot to drink possibly. my friends left me at the party and i didnt make it home till 3pm the next day thanks to a couple leaving the house. after missing my period in june i began to wonder but never thought it was possible. a few weeks later i began to throw up and i just recently missed my second period.when i threw up i realized something must have hppened and i was pregnant. so i waited while but just yesterday told my mom i thought i could be pregnant or very sick. she was the one who made me realize it was ape. i had never really thought of it in that way before. but she went out and boughta test.the test was positive. my mom so far is ok with this but the rest of my family and friends will probably not talk to me again. what makes it worse is i have a d1 scholarship for basketball but having a baby might change that. i could really use help on this! i am so confused.
I'm due January 23rd & live in Pennsylvania
1281 postsposted 4th Jul
it's sad that that happened to you, too bad you couldnt give it up for adoption, I don't like abortion, but in this case it's diffrent, it's up to you do what your heart tells you to do
quoteI have 2 kids & live in Cleveland, Tennessee
posted 4th Jul
yeah but i could never go for adoption i would rather keep it because its just to heartbreaking for me. i dont think i would ever be ok with giving up my baby.
I'm due January 23rd & live in Pennsylvania
13564 postsposted 4th Jul
Im sorry you have to deal with this. There are a lot of people that would give a lot to have a baby, so adoption is a consideration. Its ultimately your choice. Do what you feel is best, for yourself and the baby.
quoteI have 3 kids & live in Marietta, Oklahoma
posted 4th Jul
Quoting moira c.:
is keeping it an option for you?
I have 3 kids & live in Marietta, Oklahoma
posted 4th Jul
Quoting 1337 317704: is keeping it an option for you?
it could be but with basketball i dont think its possible because i would need the scholarship for college and with a baby i dont know how possible that could be. also my mom was raped by one of her friends to concieve me. so as of now it is just me and my mom by ourselve at home. i myself have never had a dad but at least i know my mom knows who the father is. i think i am more worried of having a child where i dont even know who the father is. its not fair to the baby the way i see it.
I'm due January 23rd & live in Pennsylvania
5807 postsposted 4th Jul
I am sorry too hear that this happened to you. How far along are you? This is very tough. Honestly if you are having doubts about having an abortion than I wouldnt do it. You dont want to do something you will regret. I woudl talk to your mom about this and your feelings and see what advise she has to offer. Im sure if you decide to keep it she will help you out as she is very supportive. What makes you think your other family and friends with not talk to you? Honestly and I know you cant choice your family but this is in regards to your friends if they stop talking to you because of something like this than they are not real frienhds in the first place and you coudl do a whole lot better. Maybe they will surprise you and be there for you. If you ever need to talk you can talk to me im a good listener. Ultimatly do what you feel is best for you and this child.
quoteI have 1 child & live in New York
posted 4th Jul
Quoting moira c.: it could be but with basketball i dont think its possible because i would need the scholarship for college ... [snip!] ... think i am more worried of having a child where i dont even know who the father is. its not fair to the baby the way i see it.
I think that you could still get a basketball scholorship if you eep this baby. I am sure your mom will help with the baby so you can make this possible. s for not knowing who the dad is, honestly this baby will be better off without a dad and as you know you dont need a dad to have a happy life. I think this baby would be perfectly fine with just you and your mom and whoever else may be supportive. It would have all the love in the world and if you decide to get married in the future to a guy than that would be their step dad. I know some friedns who also rew up without a dad and they say their dad was so horrible that it was better off. I honestly think you can make this work
I have 1 child & live in New York
posted 4th Jul
Quoting CharleneJoy: I am sorry too hear that this happened to you. How far along are you? This is very tough. Honestly if ... [snip!] ... you. If you ever need to talk you can talk to me im a good listener. Ultimatly do what you feel is best for you and this child.
about 9-10 weeks but at the time i would be having the abortion if i go through with it it will be 12. i am not worried about my friends they can do what they want. their parents wont like me anymore but thats fine with me because at that point id be plenty busy with a baby. my family is very traditional and old fashion. half of the family(the older generation) would not accept it and the other half(the younger generation) might still talk to me. i guess im more worried about being judged. i never thought i would be "that girl".
I'm due January 23rd & live in Pennsylvania
678 postsposted 4th Jul
Quoting CharleneJoy: I think that you could still get a basketball scholorship if you eep this baby. I am sure your mom will ... [snip!] ... rew up without a dad and they say their dad was so horrible that it was better off. I honestly think you can make this worki couldnt say it better myself having a baby is not the end of the world u can still do what u want to do im young i didnt get raped but i have to do everything on my own (with so me not a lot of help from my mother) and i am fine im starting college in sept and i really dont see the baby getting in the way of things
I have 1 child & live in Pennsylvania
posted 4th Jul
Quoting moira c.: about 9-10 weeks but at the time i would be having the abortion if i go through with it it will be 12. ... [snip!] ... younger generation) might still talk to me. i guess im more worried about being judged. i never thought i would be "that girl".
Honestly you shoudlnt worry about being judged. And I dont think you are "that girl" You didnt choice to do anything, you were raped so its not your fault and your family should understand that as should their friends and your parents. I wouldnt worry so kmuch about that and like I said im here to talk if you ever need someone to talk to
I have 1 child & live in New York
posted 4th Jul
Quoting my lil ashlynn: i couldnt say it better myself having a baby is not the end of the world u can still do what u want to ... [snip!] ... of help from my mother) and i am fine im starting college in sept and i really dont see the baby getting in the way of things
yea just b.c you have a baby doesnt mean you coudlnt do hat you want to do anymore
I have 1 child & live in New York
posted 4th Jul
Quoting CharleneJoy: Honestly you shoudlnt worry about being judged. And I dont think you are "that girl" You didnt choice ... [snip!] ... and your parents. I wouldnt worry so kmuch about that and like I said im here to talk if you ever need someone to talk to
yeah i understand that but its not like im going to run around yelling i was raped. so not many people will ever know that i was. so to them i would just be"that girl" so to say.
I'm due January 23rd & live in Pennsylvania
posted 4th Jul
Quoting moira c.: yeah i understand that but its not like im going to run around yelling i was raped. so not many people will ever know that i was. so to them i would just be"that girl" so to say.
that is true but your family and friends would know and honestly it doesnt really matter what random people on the street think of you
I have 1 child & live in New York
