re: raped now 16 pregnant and confused

Quoting CharleneJoy:“ that is true but your family and friends would know and honestly it doesnt really matter what random people on the street think of you”

i guess usually im not one of those people who care what people think but being pregnant around here, in my town is a big deal. its a prety small place so word spreads pretty fast.

Quoting moira c.:“ i guess usually im not one of those people who care what people think but being pregnant around here, in my town is a big deal. its a prety small place so word spreads pretty fast.”

i can completly understand that but in this situation expecially i wouldnt worry about being judged when making your ultimate decision because if you choice to have an abortion and than you regret it, thats something you wont get over so I dont want you to make a decision based on what other people think. Do what you feel is best for you and your child.

First of all, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. You were victimized and that is not fair.
Personally, the way I see it, having an abortion and ending the life of an innocent baby is also unfair. It's perpetuating a cycle of violence and victimization on another person just because it was done to you.
The fact that you are having second thoughts about the abortion tells me that deep down, you know this to be true.
Don't do it if you are not 100% sure. Abortion is final. You cannot take it back, and you have to live with that decision the rest of your life.
Babies are a blessing! This is a chance to have something good come from a horrible situation. Giving birth to a beautiful child can be a very healing experience after the trauma of rape... whether or not you remember the act.
Having a child enriches so much of your life, and in the case that you dont feel you can or should keep the child, thiscould even be a chance to bless an infertile couple hoping and praying for a baby of their own with the opportunity to be parents. There are other options available to you, that involve good for everyone involved.
Good luck!  

Quoting moira c.:“ i guess usually im not one of those people who care what people think but being pregnant around here, in my town is a big deal. its a prety small place so word spreads pretty fast.”

You know, there are worse things in the world than having some gossip startedabout you.
It may seem like that is the ultimate horror when you are 16, but you will look back on this 5 years from now and say.... I actually cared what they thought???

People are going to be more proud of you for being responsible and doing the right thing in the long run than just getting rid of the problem.

Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:“ First of all, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. You were victimized and that is not fair. Personally, ... [snip!] ... opportunity to be parents. There are other options available to you, that involve good for everyone involved. Good luck!  ”

wow i feel the same way regarding rape and a baby but when i told people on here this they yelled at me lol

Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:“ You know, there are worse things in the world than having some gossip startedabout you. It may seem ... [snip!] ... to be more proud of you for being responsible and doing the right thing in the long run than just getting rid of the problem.”

that doesnt bother me so much. no matter what i feel if i keep it im giving up friends but it doesnt bother me since im gaining a baby. im just not good at making descisions. even simple things like what to eat for dinner i rely on my mom to pick lol

Sweetie its your choice, your life, and more importantly your child's life. If ppl weren't judging you for being pregnant then they would be judging you for something else. DO WHATS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF YOUR CHILD! No one or nothing is more important than doing right by him or her.

Quoting moira c.:“ that doesnt bother me so much. no matter what i feel if i keep it im giving up friends but it doesnt ... [snip!] ... a baby. im just not good at making descisions. even simple things like what to eat for dinner i rely on my mom to pick lol”

at any point in life, anytime you have a baby only true friends stick around when you have kids..doesnt matter the age

Quoting moira c.:“ that doesnt bother me so much. no matter what i feel if i keep it im giving up friends but it doesnt ... [snip!] ... a baby. im just not good at making descisions. even simple things like what to eat for dinner i rely on my mom to pick lol”

you honestly dont have to give up your frienhds. I have all my friends after giving birth and they all love my daughter

Quoting CharleneJoy:“ you honestly dont have to give up your frienhds. I have all my friends after giving birth and they all love my daughter”

its different when your 16.

Quoting moira c.:“ that doesnt bother me so much. no matter what i feel if i keep it im giving up friends but it doesnt ... [snip!] ... a baby. im just not good at making descisions. even simple things like what to eat for dinner i rely on my mom to pick lol”

Even if you were 26 and pregnant, you would give up friends. That's how life works, unfortunately. People who are not in the same stage of their lives as you tend to distance themselves, regardless of your age.
In the long run, think a year, two years, ten years from now,you will never regret giving your own child a chance at life. Whether or not you keep him or her, or let them go to bless another family with a baby, there will be no regrets.
Abortion on the other hand, is something that you will second guess and live with and wonder about all the "what if's" for the rest of your life.

In the end its your choice but you will lose friends how ever old you are. I'm 3 years older than you & I have maybe2 close friends & I made them all AFTER I had my son & during my pregnancybecause my other so called friends ditched me & found it offensive when I spoke to them about anything baby related while we were friends.
In the end the ones that leave you because you got pregnant were gonna leave you anyway. I dont think I could ever abort my child for the sake of keeping a friend. I find that an incredibly stupid & selfish thing to do. If you are going to abort him/her do it, but do not do it for that reason.

Quoting moira c.:“ its different when your 16.”

i suppose you have a point but some of your friends atleast the ones who are real friends with still be there for you. Have you watched 16 and pregnant? those girls for the most oart kept friends  

Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:“ Even if you were 26 and pregnant, you would give up friends. That's how life works, unfortunately. ... [snip!] ... hand, is something that you will second guess and live with and wonder about all the "what if's" for the rest of your life.”

i guess i was lucky b.c all my friends i am still friends with even though none of them have kids. it depends on the friends really but they all adore my daughter

Quoting Captain Awesome *JMM*:“ In the end its your choice but you will lose friends how ever old you are. I'm 3 years older than you ... [snip!] ... that an incredibly stupid & selfish thing to do. If you are going to abort him/her do it, but do not do it for that reason.”

i didnt say i was going to do it because of friends. maybe you should reread because that was never said.