re: Military wives?

hey mrs. theole, are you near ft carson?

Quoting hotmama0407:“ So heres another question. I have a daughter with my ex husband, so if we get married and he gets stationed somewhere else, will the courts let my daughter and I move with him?”

if hes a reservist he won't have to move, he'll drive monthly to the duty sight.

But I don't know how your agreement is but my step kid's mother needed his permission to leave the state.

Quoting Fierce MamaOLS:“ if hes a reservist he won't have to move, he'll drive monthly to the duty sight. But I don't know how your agreement is but my step kid's mother needed his permission to leave the state.”

If he goes in it will be AD... so if her dad says no we can't go?

Quoting Mommy to Gavin:“ Yep, about 10 minutes away. So I went in to update my info (my son's info) and there was an officer ... [snip!] ... a degree. it sounded so tempting... but then.. I remenber, I had a son that I have to take care of. Oh well   Complicated?”

you should go officer!!!!!!!!!!!! Why not?! Prior enlisted make the BEST officers then some punk out of college, JMO.

haha yeh complicated lol, I'd rather not get into the nitty gritty on bg. I'm not in any trouble or anything like that, its just situtaional

Before anything, you should check to see if he's even eligible to go back. With a medical discharge, it's real iffy. The MEPS doctors, at least around here, will try to disqualify you. The recruiters try to get you in, but it's those doctors that'll try to screw you. It all boils down to his reenlistment code.
In my experience, reserves are easier to get in, HOWEVER, you going with him, base housing,and all that.. it doesn't really happen, unless you get longterm orders, which doesn't seem common.
The benefits really lack compared to AD.

But again, you should find out if he can even go back first and foremost.

Quoting hotmama0407:“ If he goes in it will be AD... so if her dad says no we can't go?”

It really depends on your agreement most have a "cannot leave the country without consent" but some have the state.

Look over your agreement and talk with your ex.

Ok, thank you ladies!!!

Quoting Mommy to Gavin:“ Before anything, you should check to see if he's even eligible to go back. With a medical discharge, ... [snip!] ... The benefits really lack compared to AD. But again, you should find out if he can even go back first and foremost.”

lol long term orders rarely exist, unless its a special duty assignment or senior enlisted e-8 e-9s

But I agree, before worrying about the details see if he can ever join!

Quoting Fierce MamaOLS:“ you should go officer!!!!!!!!!!!! Why not?! Prior enlisted make the BEST officers then some punk out ... [snip!] ... lol, I'd rather not get into the nitty gritty on bg. I'm not in any trouble or anything like that, its just situtaional”

Understandable. I was talking about my fun situation to you too.  
It's not only childcare.. it's everything. Ha.   

True. But honestly.. it's sooooooooooo not worth it. I asked him the approx timeline from the moment I submit my paperwork to the moment I get the uniform and it's a long time. I don't have that much time left in the reserves, by the time I get results back and everything.. I'm almost out. I rather just get out and by that time, my husband will be AD.. so I don't need tricare or anything like that.

Quoting Kayleigh&ShawnJr'sMommy:“ hey mrs. theole, are you near ft carson?”

I am like 5 min outside of gate 3. Ft Carson, yes. And its Shelly.

Quoting Mommy to Gavin:“ Understandable. I was talking about my fun situation to you too.   It's not only childcare.. ... [snip!] ... I'm almost out. I rather just get out and by that time, my husband will be AD.. so I don't need tricare or anything like that.”

lol
I dont blame you, maybe it was a ploy to get you re-enlist, they are sneaky like that  
mind if I pt you?

Quoting Fierce MamaOLS:“ lol I dont blame you, maybe it was a ploy to get you re-enlist, they are sneaky like that   mind if I pt you? ”

Go for it. I'll do the same.
No kidding, though. Sneaky, sneaky.
I'm done, though. Who would've thought I'd talk to someone on here that knew exactly how it all works, ya know?

Quoting Mommy to Gavin:“ Go for it. I'll do the same. No kidding, though. Sneaky, sneaky. I'm done, though. Who would've thought I'd talk to someone on here that knew exactly how it all works, ya know? ”

yep, I haven't found any other reserve moms, just a few active duty mamas and some regret staying in!

Quoting Fierce MamaOLS:“ yep, I haven't found any other reserve moms, just a few active duty mamas and some regret staying in!”

Trust me, I wish I stayed in. I was, like, my command's golden child. I could do no wrong. And if I stayed in, we wouldn't be in the bind that we're in now (money and such).
But I know if I stayed in.. I'd complain just as much.

There's no winning with me!

Quoting CupcakesMommy; ♥:“ Apart of my husbands job is OPSEC and he keeps yelling at me telling me that she is allowed to say when”

he is stupid