baby shower timing?

So, my dearie's mom finally decided on a date that she'd like the baby shower. I haven't been pushing a date because I think she's a doll for doing it at all.

However, she's aiming for when I'll be 38 weeks. And I don't know how that will work. I've got friends coming from hours away for the shower who will be returning for the birth. Also... How much will I really want to do things like that at 38 weeks? And what will happen if I deliver early (my due date according to my LMP is Sept 23 and I hate having been told 3 different dates)?

Geez, I'm being difficult. Any input would be appreciated.

(And if I don't respond right away, its because my phone is being dumb.)

 

Its your baby shower.
But IMO that is way late.

Mainly because you want to be prepared for the baby.. and there is no guranteeing you will get everything you need at the shower.. and there is the possibility of popping early.

I would ask her if you could move it up a few weeks or to whenever you want to have it. Just tell her you want time to put things away, set up the nursery, and purchase anything else you may need. I am having one of my showers in September and am due in November.

Sounds like it could be an exhausting day for you at 38 weeks... I am sure she'd understand if you asked her to bump it up a month? You're not being difficult! You're being realistic.

I'm thinking the same thing, I just have to find a nice way to talk to her without sounding ungrateful or controlling.I just didn't know if it were such a big thing that I'd need to actually bring it up.

I will say this: It's a ton of working putting away all the shower gifts, putting things together, organizing things.... PLUS that gives you only 2 weeks to get the stuff for yourself that nobody bought! You have enough to worry about at that point.

I don't envy your situation, it's so hard to tweak someone elses' plans when they're doing something so nice for you. Maybe you can have her son say something to kind of steer her towards an earlier date, like "Liz is worried she'll go early since they keep changing her due date on us"?

Mine is at 39 weeks 3 days.. it's out doors, in august... why don't people think before they plan stuff? Hopefully you'll have help putting away the baby things though... thier not going to have a choice but to help me/

That's reallly late, in my opinion. You're going to come home to a disaster, everything unfinished and messy. Or give birth and not have what you need. I'd tell her you mentioned it to your OB and it looks like you could give birth as early as 38 weeks, so could she please push it up three weeks or so?

i really dont know my older sister and my little sister both had children already and my due date is nov.10 and i was trying to have a shower in the middle of oct. They told me no and that is way to late so i went with sept 5th which is two months before my due date. They said the common time to do a shower is at least 2 months before the shower maybe a little later like a month and a half but this is my first child and i dont know how true that is